Isu tinotaura kuti kunetsana pakati pehama nehanzvadzi kunobva (uye sei kuvachengeta pasi petsitsi)
Zvinoita sekuti kuvengana pakati pehama nehanzvadzi dzaigara varipo, zvisinei nekuti ndedzipi nguva yavanokura. Amai vevana vaviri uye mutori venhau The New York Times Jessica Gumi vakasarudza kufunga kuti nei Siblingi ichanakidzwa, uye kuderedza huwandu hwehondo dzeropa mumhuri dzinopfuura mwana mumwe. Akashandura chinyorwa chake chine zvidiki zvidiki.
Munguva yedenda, akura uye makore masere ane makore mana akaungana zvisati zvaitika zvisati zvaitika: Ini ndinonzwa kashoma madekwana, gugira zvinobva mukamuri ravo. Asi nguva zhinji vasikana vangu vasapedzisei pamwechete, ivo vanokakavara.
Kazhinji kazhinji, vana vangu vanopokana nehwaro hwekusaruramisira kana mukurwira kwenzvimbo mumutsara.
Kupokana kusinganzwisisike kubva parukova kwakaitika kudonha uku, patakasvika pakuita kuti vaccination. Vasikana vacho vakashandiswa nekuda kweiyo yekutanga ichavharirwa. Mwanasikana wangu mukuru "akakunda" mumakakatanwa, asi iye achiuya kuhofisi yevaccine, akaziva kuti kusavapo kwaive kwakashata mubayiro.
Mumazuva iwayo, apo tese takakiya pamwe chete kumba, uye nyanzvi dzichakura dzichipinda mumutambo chaiwo, uye isu tiri kutanga kunetseka nezvenzira dzedu dzevabereki takazara zvachose, sezvo isu tichibvuma huwandu hwakati wandei . Asi, kana iwe uchitenda Janin vivon, purofesa we psychology kubva kuYunivhesiti yeNew Jersey, uyo akadzidza kuvengana pakati pehama nehanzvadzi, "kukwikwidza pakati pehama ingori chokwadi chiripo. Uye isu, sevabereki veSiblimov uye vabereki vevana, vanogona chete kuedza kurarama izvi zvakanyanya sezvinobvira. "
Zvidzidzo zvakaratidza kuti kupokana pakati pehama kunogona kuitika kusvika kanosvika nguva sere paawa (approx. Eaaaaa!)). Imwe fundo yakaratidza kuti hukama huri pakati pehanzvadzi ndidzo dzanyanya kudarika, asi vaviri vaviri vanosanganisira hama, kupokana zvakanyanya.
Nhamba yemakakatanwa inoderedzwa munguva yebertal, vanoita kunge vanonyudzwa. Vana vekutanga uye pakati vana ndiyo nguva yakaoma kwazvo muhurongwa hwehasha.
Maka Itan Finberg, purofesa weYunivhesiti yePennsylvania, mutsvaidza mumunda wehutano hwevanhu uye kukura
Muchidzidzo ichi, munyori weiyo ndiFamerjerg, anotaurwa nebhuku raGenesi, uyo unosanganisira "nyaya dzakakosha tsika dzekumweya dzekumweya." Kune vazhinji varongerwa nezvevakawanda vanababa veRopa uye vane godo - semuenzaniso, nezvaKaini naAnale kana nezvaJakobho naIsave. Uye idzi nyaya idzi dzinoratidza kuti "misoro iyo vaongorori vari kudzidza izvozvi: zviito zvedzidzo, kurwira rudo rwevabereki nezviwanikwa, zvichikwevera vana mukunetsana kwevabereki."
Kusangana pakati peBibling kuripo kare kuti makore mazhinji apfuura, kana kufa kwevana zvakanyanya, vana vari pasi pemakore mashanu avo hama dzepedyo dzakafa nehama dzepedyo dzakakura. Rufu idzi dzakanyatsobatanidzwa ne "huwandu hwenhwanda dzinotapukira mumhuri dzakadaro, dzisina kukwana hwaamai uye nekurwa kwevabereki. London Chikoro cheHutsanana uye tropical mushonga. Kuchiziva izvozvo, ndakatanga kutarisa zvakasiyana kune kukakavara kwevana vangu nekuda kwe ice cream.
Uye kunyangwe iye zvino kazhinji enyoka hazvisi kurwira crum . Vana vanoda kuti vabereki vavo vazivirire, saka, maererano nevarwi, vanogara vachirwira mafungiro akakosha pachavo ", achienzaniswa nehama nehama. Asi kunze kweizvi, zvavanofarira uye mavara avo anogona kuumbwa kutenderedza hunyanzvi uye zvishuwo zveSiblingov yavo.
Semuenzaniso, ngatitii mwanakomana wako wedangwe inzira yenhabvu. Mwana mudiki kana vana vanogona kudzivisa nhabvu kana nekuti vanotya kuti havangavi zvakanaka sehama yavo, kana nekuti vanotya kuti ivo vachange vari nani kupfuura iye - uye havasi vakagadzirira kuisa pangozi. Kana kuti pamwe vese vachange vari muchikwata chebhora, asi mukuru - nekuti anoshingairira anoshanda, uye mudiki - iye achazvigamuchira chimiro chejoker.
Pasinei nenyaya yekuti kupokana pakati pomukoma kuri kutarisirwa chaizvo, izvi hazvireve kuti haukwanise kuvapesesa. Heano kurudziro shanu kubva kune nyanzvi dzekuita kubata nevana vasina kufanira.
Cherekedza chii chinokonzera kurwa."Teerera kune izvo zvinowanzoitika kupokana zvichakura," anodaro Sally Bilvil Hunter, Ashamwarano purofesa muvana uye nekutsvaga kwemhuri kubva kuYunivhesiti yeTennessee.
Semuenzaniso, kana vana vako vakapokana nguva dzese, pavanenge vachitamba mitambo yemavhidhiyo, iva pedyo pavanogara pasi kuti vatambe. Teerera kune chaiyo mazwi uye informations yekuona izvo zvinonzwika zvine hukasha uye edza kupindira mamiriro ezvinhu asati ari kunze kwekutonga.
Vabatsire kudzidza kugadzirisa kusawirirana.Pashure pokunge munhu wese akanyaradza, edza kutsvedza vana vako uye kukurukura dambudziko "pasina mhosva uye zvaunotenda," Fourjerg kuraira. Ipa mwana mumwe nemumwe mukana wekutaura, usazvipindira, uye kukoka mumwe nemumwe wavo kuti afunge nzira yekugadzirisa dambudziko.
Vatove muzera diki rechikoro, vana vanokwanisa 'kukoshesa ndedzipi sarudzo dzinobatsira kune wese, uye ndeipi mikana yakawanda ichashanda uye inounza mufaro mune ramangwana.' Zvakakoshawo kuvadzidzisa kuti vadzokere kumatambudziko kana dzimwe sarudzo dzambomira kushanda.
Varumbidzei pazvose, asi vanotsoropodza voga.Kana vana vako vakaratidza tsitsi kune mumwe nemumwe, "Ruridzirai zvine mutsa uye zvinonzwika," anodaro muvhimi. Semuenzaniso: "Ini ndinofarira kuti iwe wabvumira kuti hanzvadzi yangu itange kutanga!" Asi kana mukavatuka, edza kuzviita kuitira kuti mumwe mwana arege kukunzwa, nekuti zvimwe anogona kuishandisa sechombo.
Mwanasikana wedu mukuru anowana mukana wekuvhura hanzvadzi yavo mudiki ("rangarira, Amai vakati haugone kusvetuka kubva pasofa!") Saka ndakagamuchira zano iri pachangu nhoroondo.
Edza kutsvaga nguva dzese dzinobatana.Tsitsi uye mavara evana vako anogona kunge akafanana, uye anogona kunge asiri iwo. Ivo vaviri vanogona kuda kutamba, uye pamwe munhu anoda kutamba, uye mumwe anongoda kutamba chess. Mumwe anogona kuve anochengetedza, uye mumwe, pane kudaro, rusununguko-rudo. "Edza kuwana mapoka evanhurume anobvumira munhu wese kuti aratidze kushanduka, uye panguva imwe chete irambe tichisangana nemumwe," Janin Vivon Vivon Govudzira.
Ndakauya nemuenzaniso wemanheru emhuri nekutarisa bhaisikopo seimwe yemakirasi aya, asi zvakadaro, kuti tinowanzobuda nguva yekufunga kuti ndeipi bhaisikopo, nekuti munhu wese anogara achipikisana.
Icho chokwadi chekuti zvinotora nguva yakawanda hazvivhiringidze kubva pachokwadi kuti chimwe chinhu chakakosha, "anodaro Wivon. - Iwe unosangana nemakakatanwa, izvi hazvina kudzivirirwa.
Nekuda kweizvozvo, tese tauriranai, tauriranai, tauriranai mucheche, uye vana vedu vanogamuchira hunyanzvi hunokosha, semuenzaniso, sekugona kuwana zvinokanganiswa, kunyangwe tikatarira iyo "nyaya yenyaya" nguva yegumi neshanu.
Special Council yeRadiemic Nguva."Tese tinoshandisa imwe nguva pamba, kunyanya munguva yechando," anodaro muvhimi. "Ini ndinofunga dzimwe dzinopokana idzi dzinokosha dzekugadzirisa, kupa vana kuti vatore kufamba kana kumhanyira pamba."
Vana vanonetsekana pavanenge vachinge vava mumba yakavharwa, saka zvimwe zviitiko zvemuviri - kunyangwe iri bar remba yezvipingamupinyi yakagadzirwa kubva mumapiro, "ichabatsira kudzora mamiriro acho ezvinhu.
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