Ndabaramukije! Muganira, Alexander Mikhaich. Ndi umutoza wa psychologue, ndi mu mushinga w'ihuriro ry'abagabo ku iterambere, gusana umubano w'umuryango, no kugaruka kw'abakobwa / abagore.
Mubisanzwe mugitangira umubano, umugabo ahora mumwanya ukomeye (wiganje-uwatanzeza). Umugore arambuye, atinya kumubura. Ariko umuntu akiri mu rukundo, atangira kurushaho kuba mwiza kuri mugenzi we, atakaza umwanya ukomeye, atangira kwishingikiriza ku muntu kandi ahita aba afite intege nke.
Impirimbanyi yumubano ubwayo iganisha ku mpinduka nini cyane muburyo bungana. Umugabo atangira kugerageza gusubiza umugore agaciro kahise katangiza gitunguranye. Akora ibikorwa byinshi kugirango asubire muri zone yazimiye. Kugira ngo akore ibi, akora amakosa menshi: bituma hysterics, akora imigezi myinshi kuva hepfo, birasuzugurwa no gusaba amahirwe. Ariko kugerageza gusubira kumugore wajugunye umugore we kugirango atsinde gusa ...
Umugabo ntabwo yumva ko izo ntego zose zitazamufasha gusubira kumukunzi we, bitandukanye, barayitanga neza.
Guhindura induru yibisobanuro (subira kumwanya wumuyobozi)Kugirango uhindure agaciro kandi uhaguruke kumwanya wumuyobozi - umugabo akeneye gukora no gukora ibinyuranye. Ni ukuvuga, guhagarika ubwoko butandukanye bwo gutukwa no "intego zikurikira". Mukiruhuko cyimibanire kugirango agere ku mugore agatangira kubifata neza nkuko ari (N'igikonje). Niba umufatanyabikorwa atangiye kure, noneho ugomba gutangira kwimuka. Kandi nibyiza kujya kwirengagiza no gukora "icyuho cyamakuru" - bizatuma umugore atekereza kumugabo, guhangayika, kurambirwa.
Ubu buryo burashobora kurakara kugirango ashishinire umugabo. Umugabo rwose ntabwo agomba kubikwa kumurongo wambere, ubu ni ubwoko bwo kugenzura "leash". Birakenewe gukomeza kugerwaho no gutegereza ibikorwa bikomeye. Kugirango ugere kuri camwaki, kandi ubu ni ubwoko bwubwoko kandi hariho impinduka muguhindagurika. Niba umugore ubwayo yinjijwe mu gusana umubano, noneho arashima umugabo, bityo rero ari mumwanya ukomeye. Ni muri imwe agomba kuba.
Ingingo y'ingenzi ...Hariho imanza iyo umugabo uherereye mumwanya muto, abifashijwemo numubare munini wigeraki, yashoboye gusubiza umugore inyuma. Bikwiye kumvikana ko umubano nk'uwo ufite icyizere cyo kubaho, gito cyane. Umugore ntazumva umuntu uri umubyiganje, azaba ayoboye kandi ntazita ku muntu, ntazafatwa nk'u igitekerezo cye, ntazamwumvira. Azaba ameze igihe cyose akomeje kumuha ubwoko ubwo aribwo bwose "Nishtyaki" abifashijwemo na bo yashoboye kugaruka akimara kumara ku buryo umuntu ahagaritse gutanga ko yibazaga - yari kumusiga - yari kumusiga. Umubano nk'uwo ubaho ntarengwa mumezi 1-3.
Reka tuvuge muri make:Kugoreka akamaro birashobora kubaho muri couple iyo ari yo yose. Hariho n'abashakanye bava kuri iyi moderi bagakomeza gukora umubano, gusa mu mibanire yabo Noneho umugore ayobowe, ntabwo ari umuntu (Mariarchy). Ariko niba utiteguye kubikorwa byubucuruzi, cyangwa ntukifuze ko wajugunywe, hanyuma ugabanye akamaro k'umugore ugatangira kugenda, ukurikije uko biringaniye bizagarurwa. Kandi ukurikize uburimbane bwose mubucuti, ntugabanuke kandi ntukiyongere.
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