Kuba Data bigomba kugira uruhare mubuzima bwumwana kuri par hamwe na mama, bavuga byinshi. Nibyo, ntabwo mambo yose yiteguye gusangira abana no inshingano zo murugo hamwe nabafatanyabikorwa (nubwo bakeneye neza ubufasha n'inkunga). Kuki ibi bibaho nuburyo bwo kubihindura, Irina Zhigilli avuga muri blog kwikunda.
Wabonye uko uri kumwe na babyeyi bato ikiganiro kiva mu biganiro ku mukungugu wa mbere n'inyungu zo koga umwana koga bijya "umugabo wawe agufasha ku mwana?" Yandika ingwet.by.
INGINGO, uko bigaragara, umurwayi: Mu miryango imwe n'imwe, umugabo akora cyane muri wikendi (hanyuma akaba kuri Sofa), mu bandi bagabo, kuko "umwana ntashobora kwiringira muri rusange, kuko" Ibintu byose bizakora nabi. " Hari aho umugabo ashobora gufasha gusa abana bakuze bakuze: "Niki ukeneye abo bana?". Niba kandi uruhare rwa Mama mu buzima bw'umwana rutaganiriweho (bizera ko gahunda y'uburezi y'abana ishyirwa mu mugore ku rwego rw'imiterere), hanyuma ba se bavuga ko nta gahunda y'ibidukikije, hamwe no kwinjiza mu burezi y'abana biterwa nibintu byinshi byingenzi.
Byabaye rero ku gihe cy'intambara, impungenge zose zerekeye umuryango wagombaga gufata ku bagore. Igisubizo kirababaje: Ibisekuru byinshi byabana byahagurukiye nta shusho ya Data, ntibumva icyo agomba kuba, icyo avuga. 90 yongeyeho amavuta mumuriro, bahitira abantu bakuru bose kubaho "kubaho". Ntabwo byari bikiri mbere y'ibiganiro kandi bikubiyemo ababyeyi, byari ngombwa gukora, kwinjiza, guhagarara mu musaraba. Kubwibyo, ikindi gisekuru cy'abana batabona ba se mu bwana bwabo kandi ntazi icyo ubufatanye bwumuryango aricyo.
Duherutse gukora ubushakashatsi ku buryo buke mu miyoboro yo kwigaragaza no kubaza abiyandikisha: "Umubyeyi ashobora kugira ingaruka ku rwego rw'uruhare rwa Data mu burezi bw'umwana?" 27% by'abitabiriye bashubije ko umugabo wabo "akubitwa cyane iyo ashyigikiye ibikorwa bye mu kurera abana", ariko 51% by'ubushakashatsi bwarashubije mu kurera abana ", nibwira ko byose biterwa n'umugabo - niba ashaka, hanyuma uruhare runini muri Uburere bw'abana " Ariko ubushakashatsi bwa Sara Shopppe-Sullivan na Elizabeth, Elizabeti bemeza ko ba se ari inkunga y'ingenzi. Yagaragaje ko kwemeza ibikorwa bya ba se bijyanye n'umwana wabo usanzwe bigira uruhare runini kandi bigira ingaruka ku ruhare rwa ba se bitaweho abana ejo hazaza.
Ibitekerezo
Inkunga kubakunzi ni ingenzi kuri buri wese. Cyane cyane mugihe ukorera ikintu bwa mbere, gerageza, wige, utinya gukora amakosa. Ibitekerezo bivuye ku mutima kandi byukuri ni ngombwa kimwe.Gushyigikira Initiative
Gusubira mu bitaro hamwe n'umwana, mama na ba nyirakuru, bakize umwana witonze kandi ukitabira rwose, ati: "Ntabwo bimukira rwose." Uruziga ruto rwinshingano za buri munsi, rworoshye: Kugenda hamwe na stroller, mugihe umwana asinziriye, gutembera mu iduka, gutegura kwiyuhagira. Kubera iyo mpamvu, ba se batagira amahirwe yo gufata iyambere mugushyikirana numwana, kubaka umurongo wabo. Kubwibyo, gahunda muri uru rubanza ntigomba guhananwa.
Wizere umuntu mukuru wizewe
Mama atwara umutwaro munini wo kureremba abana, guhura n'umutwaro munini wa buri munsi wakira ibyemezo byinshi bitandukanye, rimwe na rimwe, ntabwo byiteguye kugeza impungenge zimwe na zimwe nabafatanyabikorwa babo. Biteguye gusiga umwana hamwe na Nanny cyangwa nyirakuru, ariko ntibashobora rwose. "Guhuza imbaraga mumuryango bimenyerewe, ba se bava kure y'abana kandi bakemera amategeko aho batashyirwaho mubibazo byababyeyi. Iyo umugabo, amaherezo, agumana numwana umwe umwe, adafite ubumenyi bwo kwita ku mwana, atabanje gushiramo, ntabwo akunda mama. Birumvikana ko Mama adashobora kurwanya ibitekerezo bibi: "Navuze kuyaburira mo kabiri!".
Uburenganzira ku ikosa
Twese dushobora kwibeshya. Birumvikana ko amasomo menshi y'ababyeyi yagaragaye, kandi papa yanditswe. Ariko byose nibyo byose. Imyitozo itangirana no kuvuka k'umwana, ntibishoboka kubitegura mbere. Akenshi, ababyeyi ba none n'abapadiri basaba ububyeyi butunganye, basaba imisozi yubuvanganzo, bamaze kwemera ibitekerezo byaba psychologue, batangira kumva ibyiyumvo byicira urubanza, niba hari ibitagenda neza. Ibi birangirana nibirego byose. Ariko ubu ni inzira itari yo. Emera amakosa!
Birasa nkaho ibitekerezo byiza, inkunga kubikorwa, icyizere nuburenganzira bwo gukora amakosa no gushiraho urufatiro rwumuryango gusangira abana nabafatanyabikorwa babo kandi ugasanga umwanya wo kwishyiriraho, imyidagaduro, iterambere , kandi abagabo basanga uruhare rwabo rwa Data, kugirango bakore ubumenyi bw'ababyeyi no kubaka itumanaho rikomeye, ritera imbaraga hamwe nabana bawe.