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Ba umunyabwenge kandi ushishikarizwa
"Kuki ibikinisho byajanjaguwe, uri umukobwa!", Kuki mu ikaye yanduye, uri umukobwa! "," Impamvu ibitabo bitabaho, uri umukobwa! " - Ninde utabyumvise byibuze rimwe mubuzima? Hamwe no kwibanda kuri "Uri umukobwa", birumvikana. Abakobwa bigishijwe gushishoza cyane, beza kandi bitondera ibisobanuro birambuye, rimwe na rimwe kurwego rukabije rwo gutunganirwa.
Reka tubivuze ukuri: Ukuri, ubushobozi bwo kubora "dukurikije papa" kandi twitondera amakuru ntaho duhuriye nuburinganire. Ahari bazakugirira akamaro mubuzima bwumwuga, ariko kuki twigisha ubwo buhanga buri kintu kandi cyinjira mumyaka mike?
Ariko, ntabwo ari impanuka ko bahuguwe. Kuva ku bagore, baracyategereje ko bazakora, kandi inzu ifite abana kugira ngo bakomeze, kandi ahari n'umugabo mu bibazo bye. Nibyo, bitinde bitebuke bazahinduka urugo nabasuku nabanyamabanga bafatanye.
Muri sociologiya, uko ibintu bimeze, iyo abagore bakorera amasaha umunani, hanyuma baze murugo kandi bemerwa kwizihiza bose, bitwa "Shift" (haba inyuma "," umutwaro wikubye kabiri). Ese kuba inyangamugayo mugihe runaka mubikorwa bimwe, nabandi babiri, ndetse kubusa mubwa kabiri? Oya, kuba inyangamugayo, kandi biracyakomeye kandi birambiranye. Ntitugutegure abakobwa guteka ubuzima nk'ubwo.
Kugaragaza kwerekana ubu gitsina byose ntabwo bivuze amateka atabogamye yerekeye yeruye - ibitabo byishuri. Muri rusange, biracyari byiza natwe biracyafunga abana bose, tutitaye ku mibonano mpuzabitsina, kandi, uko mbibona, twitondera byinshi mumashuri. Mu bakobwa kenshi, ukurikije ingeso zose zishaje zitabura, zisaba ukuri kwihariye muri trambs nikaye. Kubera iyo mpamvu, abakobwa n'abagore bakunze kwandika intoki, bamwe muribo ndetse bahamagara, ariko nta cyerekezo kirimo, keretse, mubyukuri, umuhamagaro.
Wumvire
Kuri njye, ishimwe ryamupfutse ryo kumvira ni idini ry'abacakara. Dukikijwe nisi irushanwa cyane kandi igoye cyane, aho abantu benshi nubutunzi buke. Birakenewe gutangizwa na gahunda, kugirango turwanire igitekerezo cyawe kandi kubwanjye ubwanjye, kubwibyishimo byawe no kubucuruzi bwanjye. Kandi mwisi, ntabwo bose batunganije ukuri. None se kuki twigisha abana gukurikiza amategeko yayo aho guhindura ukuri?
Iyo ntazafasha kubona umwanya we munsi yizuba kandi ukagera ku giti cye, icy'ingenzi, cyiza, gishimishije, ibindi. Ariko bizatuma umukobwa kubantu bose hirya no hino: ababyeyi, abarimu, umugabo na nyina. Ese iyi "yoroshye" izana umukobwa umunezero no guhuzagurika? Mfite gushidikanya cyane kuri ibi. Abakobwa bumvira baviramo byose ni ishusho yimigani ya kera, nka Cinderella na shelegi. Twese dusoma mubana, ninzira). Mubuzima nyabwo, inkuru yumvira birashoboka cyane kwishimira no kwemerera abandi guhaza ibyifuzo byabo. Ntamuntu wijeje ko uzishyura umuyaga kubikorwa nkibi byiza.
Muri papa umwe kubyerekeye kumvira, ubushobozi bwa kera cyane bwo kureka "," ubuhanga bwo gutega amatwi "ndetse nubushobozi bwo kutagaragara" (numvise ubuhanga nkubwo kuva kumukunzi umwe). Nayo jewe, nibyiza cyane kwigisha umwana (igitsina icyo ari cyo cyose) kugirango utoteze, gutongana, gutera ubwoba, kurinda ibitekerezo byawe, kugirango ugere ku ntego zawe no kwerekana impano. Kandi, birumvikana ko gutekereza kumutwe wawe aho kwemeranya nabantu bose nta byago.
Ntabwo ari kwiruka
Ibitekerezo bijyanye n'intege nke z'umubiri byabagore birakabije kimwe nibitekerezo byintege nke zubwenge bwacu cyangwa imico yubuyobozi. Uyu mwanya ni ko umwanditsi w'igitabo "Umugani w'intege nke" arinzwe - Umuhanga mu by'imitekerereze y'Abanyamerika yaciwe kabiri. Ihuza amakuru ya physiologiya, ibinyabuzima nubuso bwa enocrinologiologique kandi igaragaza ko abakobwa nabagore mu mbaraga zumubiri ntibashoboraga guha abahungu nabagabo.Gusa kubanza kuva mumyaka yishuri twiga gukoresha umubiri wawe: gake dukunze kujya muri siporo, imikino ikora irashishikarizwa. Buhoro buhoro, abagore batakaza imiterere yumubiri, kuko niba udatoza kuva mu bwana (kandi buri gihe), ntibishoboka kubungabunga ibishoboka byose byumubiri. Muri rusange, niba dukuyeho ibintu byimibereho, itandukaniro riri hagati yububasha bwabagabo nabagore nta gaciro, kandi natwe ubwacu tugaragara cyane.
Igitabo cyasohotse mu 2001, ntabwo yimuriwe mu kirusiya. Nubwo ari ubuhe buryo busa naho ariho hantu! Igitekerezo nyamukuru cyamasaha menshi kandi menshi yabasemuzi nabanditsi ntibisaba: igihe cyose udahaye umukobwa wongeye kwiruka cyangwa kuzamuka ku giti, ugira intege nke kumubiri kandi wenda ukaba ufite ubuzima bwiza. Gusa wibuke ibi.
Ntukarwane
Ntabwo bishimishije kuvuga ibyo, ariko ibi ni ukuri: ihohoterwa rishingiye ku gitsina n'ihohoterwa rikorerwa mu ngo - ku mucanga wa sosiyete yacu. Abagizi ba nabi benshi bumva badashobora rwose kandi bakorana n'imiryango yabo byose biranezeza.
Nta muntu urinzwe n'ihohoterwa, ndetse n'umugore ushishoza cyane ku isi. Urugomo rwakozwe - kimwe gusa muburyo bwe. Mubihe nkibi, gushobora kwirwanaho - ubuhanga bwumvikana bushobora kurokora ubuzima nubuzima. Igihe cyose ushaka kuvuga umukobwa wanjye cyangwa murumuna wanjye "Ntukoreho, uri umukobwa," wibuke, aho ibidukikije bigomba kubaho, kandi ntacyo uvuze. Ariko nibyiza kubwira abakobwa icyo imyifatire yemewe iri mubindi ndetse no mubucuti ubwo aribwo bwose, kandi ingimbi - Nigute wamenya Ihohoterwa riteye akaga mu itumanaho, kandi rishobora guhura nihohoterwa murugo, kandi rijyanye no kwirwanaho Birumvikana.
Kuba mwiza
Abagabo mu bagore baracyabona ubwiza cyane cyane, hanyuma ibindi byose, - abahanga mu by'imibereho myiza y'abadepiologiste babonye iyo myanzuro. Kuva mu myaka yashize, ubwiza ni ngombwa cyane, birashobora no kwifuza mubuzima bwacu bwa nyuma, kandi izindi mico yose nibiranga bimaze gukurikizwa.
Muri icyo gihe, ibisabwa kugirango abagore bakunze guhinduka duly cyane: bagomba kwerekana ko bay'umubiri, ariko ntibagaragara cyane ko utabivugwa. Irangi, ariko ntabwo ari umucyo cyane, kuko noneho bizasa nsekeje. Ntibishobora kuba byuzuye udafite amaroroka, kugirango ubururu bwubururu bugende. Urutonde rushobora gukomeza kutagira iherezo. Rimwe na rimwe, umurongo uri hagati yizerwa kandi ko atari yo uratoroshye kuburyo bidashoboka kugwa muri kimwe mu bikabije.