Mu myaka irenga makumyabiri ishize, ibizamini bya ECO byakiriye inshuro ebyiri uburyo bwa ECO i New York. Yabashije kwihangana no kubyara abahungu babiri. Kandi ntabwo yigeze yibuka ko mu bubiko bwihariye bw'urwo ruvuriro hari irindi shuri 14 zidakoreshwa - mu gihe rimwe na rimwe batabonye ibaruwa yavuze ko igihe kigeze ngo ahitemo andi magararira yabo. Dore amateka ye.
Ndibuka neza uko ubwambere yagiye kwa muganga wabagutse nyuma yubukwe. Yavuze ati: "Ufite ubuzima bwiza rwose!" Muyandi magambo, genda kugwira! Nari mfite imyaka mirongo itatu, ariko sinashoboraga gusama.
Data, na we wakoraga nk'umugore w'umugore, aramutse niba nyuma y'amezi atandatu, nta kintu kibaye ngombwa, bizakenerwa no kwipimisha, gukora ibizamini bidasanzwe. Kubera iyo mpamvu, byaragaragaye ko narwaye imiyoboro ya nyababyeyi. Nakoze neza. Nyuma yo kubagwa, nyuma yo kubaga yangezengurutse mubyukuri ko umuyoboro wa teerine wari umeze neza, undi ntabwo ari mwiza cyane, ariko ko byose byaramuwe mugihe runaka.
Nashoboraga kuba inda inshuro nyinshi kugirango nsare, ariko buri gihe nabuze imbuto kare. Byari biteye ubwoba. Imyaka yijimye. Sinifuzaga kubona n'umwe mu nshuti zanjye. Mubisanzwe ntabwo nifuzaga kubona umuntu. Byasaga naho kuri njye bitwengeweho bigenda, kandi ntabwo nkora.
Ibintu byose byasaga nkaho ari intambwe iganisha ku nzozi zawe, kandi sinshobora kwimuka. Ibyo natekereje byose - ko rwose nashakaga kubyara.Hanyuma nagiye batwita ectopique. Nari mu biro kandi nari mu buryo butunguranye numvise ububabare bukabije. Sinigeze mbabaza mu buzima bwanjye. Nahamagaye umuganga ndabaza nti: "Nzapfa iri joro?" Arabasubiza ati: "Ngwino mu bitaro ako kanya."
Ndanyibuka amanitse kuri banki mucyumba cyo gukora. Ku isaha yari icyenda nimugoroba - igihe kuri tereviziyo yasohotse ikiganiro, nakoraga. Byaragaragaye ko umwana wanjye yazimye mu muyoboro mwiza cyane. Nabuze rero. Kandi wabuze undi mwana.
Nasobanukiwe ko amahirwe yanyuma yo gusama ubu ari ugukora Eco.Kubyara umwana wambere, nasize imyaka itanu nigice. Igihembwe cya mbere cyarashize, kandi umutima we uracyarwana, nashyinguwe. Ntabwo nigeze nshoboye kwimuka kugeza ubu. Igihe nari ntwite umuhungu wanjye wa mbere, natinyaga gutekereza ku izina kuri we.
Inzira yonyine yo kwikingira amarangamutima adakenewe, mugihe wanyuze mu gihombo cyose cyo gutwita - kubaka urukuta ruzengurutse kandi rutera imbere. Twakoze kandi twarakoze. Nyuma yigihe gito nagerageje gusama na Eco na none, narifatanye ni urusoro ruvuye mu ishyaka rimwe nko gutwita kwambere. Umuhungu wanjye wa kabiri yavutse.
Nyuma yimyaka mike, umugabo wanjye yagiye mu rugendo rwakazi muri Ositaraliya. Nari mfite gutinda. Ku nshuro ya mbere mu buzima, nanyuze ku kizamini cyo mu rugo kugira ngo atwite, maze ahinduka kuba mwiza. Kubwamahirwe, ntabwo nigeze nukwihanganira kwihanganira bisanzwe. Nabuze umwana. Nibwo gukuramo inda ya nyuma, cyent. Ariko rero namaze kubibona nta gusharira.
Twari dufite abana babiri bazima - kandi tumaze kubwira ko tutazigera dushobora kuba ababyeyi.Uyu munsi, abana banjye ni imyaka 22 na 24. Ibyumweru bitatu bishize, nakiriye ibaruwa yabereye muri ctorral, ahari 14 yinsoro zanjye muri firigo. Natunguwe. Iyi shingiro ifite imyaka igera kuri 26. Abahungu banjye bari mu ishyaka rimwe. Nyuma yikigereranyo cya Eco, nishyuye insoro ku yindi myaka itatu. Hanyuma nasabwe guhitamo niba nshaka gukomeza ububiko bwabo, niba nshaka kubita cyangwa kujugunya kure.
Ntabwo nagiye kubikoresha kubwanjye kandi sinifuzaga gukora nkinsoro zabaterankunga kubandi bantu. Ariko sinashoboraga gusinya ibaruwa yerekeye icyitegurwa no kubyanga rwose.
Nakuyeho iyi baruwa ahantu runaka kandi ntimusubije.Kandi nyuma yimyaka 17 naje ibaruwa nshya. Bavuze ko ku ikosa rimwe, muri iki gihe cyose ntibutanze bwo kubika insoro, kandi ko ubu ngomba gukemura amaherezo, bitabaye ibyo, nyuma yiminsi 30 konte izaza.
Biragaragara, ntabwo nzaba mpanyura inzira za inteko nyinshi, ariko mumarangamutima biragoye cyane kureka iyi nsoro. Natekereje kubajyana murugo no kubashyingura. Cyangwa kubatanga kuri laboratoire kubushakashatsi. Noneho ntegereje igisubizo kiva mubigo byinshi, bishora mu bushakashatsi bwimbitse kuri selile. Sinashoboraga no kwiyumvisha ukuntu nzafata iki cyemezo.
Ahari byose kuko nishimiye abahungu banjye? Ahari ko nashoboraga kwimura umwuka nyuma yibi gukuramo marathon no kumva ukuntu ikibazo cyarababaje?Ibyo nkora byose, abo bana natakaje mugihe cyambere cyo gutwita, ntakindi. Iyo uhangayikishijwe n'imyaka myinshi mu bugumba, urasa nkaho ugendera ku biti by'umuyoboro byabanyamerika: Gusa funga amaso urebe intego nyamukuru. Muri kiriya gihe, abantu bavugiye cyane kubyerekeye gukuramo inda, kubyerekeye ingorane z'imyororokere. Nanjye, sinigeze nshaka kubiganiraho na kimwe.
Nari nafunze muri njye, nari mubi cyane. Mushikiwabo wanje yansabye kwinjira mu itsinda ry'inkunga byitwa gukemura. Amaherezo nabahamagaye. Kandi cyari kimwe mubintu byiza nakoze mubuzima bwanjye.
Umuganga wa psychologue abirangira watsindiye noneho yambwiye ibintu bibiri namfashije cyane: icya mbere, kugirango tubone rwose uburyo bwo gukemura iki kibazo, naho icya kabiri, ko niba dushaka umwana cyane, Noneho muburyo bumwe, rwose tuzabona umwana uteganijwe.
Nibura ni ukuri: Mfite abana babiri beza ... baremwe kuri njye.
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