Imico yaka umuriro ni abadayimoni. Zitwa byoroshye abahohotera, aba egoist yonyine, abakora ubunguni kandi akenshi bakingirwa na psychopaths. Ariko ibi birababaje ntabwo byanze ubwabo, kwihesha agaciro biterwa no kumenyekana hanze. Ibintu byose bitaganisha ku kumenyekana ntibibazanira umunezero.
Narcisseal ihora akorwa n'isoni, kandi kugira ngo yishyure, bakora ishusho nziza yabo ubwabo, bashaka kwegera imbaraga zabo zose. Ariko kubera ko bidashoboka, zigwa kunegura kwiyungurira, cyangwa kwiyumvisha imbaraga, intsinzi no kuramya kwisi yose. Ibi byanditse neza nancy Mc Williams:.
Hariho kandi ibyo bita na Narcissism isanzwe, bidufasha gukomera, gusuzuma bihagije ubushobozi bwawe, kugera ku ntego zashyizweho no guhuza muri sosiyete. Ku bijyanye n'indwara ya crusoristique, umuntu agoretse igitekerezo wenyine.
Imyitwarire ya daffidils ishyizwe muburyo runaka. Twakusanyije ibimenyetso by'ingenzi by'indwara ya crusorsistique. Byumvikane ko umuntu wari ugizwe nibura ibimenyetso bitanu, birashoboka cyane birwaye iyi ndwara kugeza kurwego rumwe cyangwa undi.
Kwishingikiriza kubitekerezo byabandi
Umuntu wese ni mwiza mugihe atekereza neza - ariko, ni ngombwa kuri Narcissus. Kwibwira byose byubatswe hafi yuburyo bureba mumaso yabandi.
Narcissus amara imbaraga zidasanzwe kugirango agenzure ishusho yabo. Buri buryo burambuye ni uguhitamo akazi, imyambaro, umufatanyabikorwa, imyanya yo kwidagadura, bifatwa nkibiri muri microscope. Bizabona bite kubandi? Bizasa neza? Bizaba byiza kuri we?
Uruta abandi
Ariko bivuze iki gukonja? Ibi bivuze - kurenza abandi. Nigute ushobora kuba mwiza? Ese abandi nabi. Niyo mpamvu abantu bavugana na daffivil bakunze guhura ninteruro nka "ntacyo usobanukiwe", "mubyukuri ntabwo byoroshye", "ntabwo byoroshye cyane", "Ntabwo byoroshye cyane", "Ntabwo wariroshye cyane", "Ntabwo woroshye", "Ntabwo wariroshye cyane"? "
Rero, Narcissa yatesha agaciro ibyo avuga byose, ashyira umuvugizi kumwanya wumwana wumupfapfa. Nabo ubwabo bari mu mwanya w'abanyabwenge kandi uzi ubwenge.
Ibyiyumvo byonyine
Narcissus abikuye ku mutima, mbere yuko ubugingo bwe bwizeye ko bidasanzwe. Kandi ukwiye umubano wihariye. Kandi ko amategeko mukuru kuri bose atabakurikizwa kuri bo.
Imyifatire y'abaguzi ku zindi
Kuri Narcissa, nta bantu - ntabwo amenya uburenganzira bwo kubaho gutandukana kuri kandi kinini. Abantu babona ibintu bigize ibyiza, yiyubakira muburyo bukwiye kugirango barusheho igicucu, biduha amajwi no kwerekana. Iyi mvugo ngereranyo irashobora kumvikana, niba atari kumenya ko aribyo rwose abantu bakoreshwa nabi mu biro bya pscissistist.
Kumurikira abandi
Narcissus abaho ufite ibyiyumvo byo hasi, bose babura ikintu. Bakunze kugirirana ishyari abantu basa neza kandi bafite ibikoresho byakundaga Narcissa. Ishyari rijyana no gucirwaho iteka. "Niba ufite ikintu, simfite, nsuzugura cyangwa ngo ncike intege, ndashobora gusenya," daffiodils impaka. Niyo mpamvu bakunze kuvuga ibyapadiri bose, ibicucu, bidafite ubuhanga nibindi.
Guhinduranya ibitekerezo no guta agaciro (wowe hamwe nabandi)
Iyo winjiye mubucuti na Daffiodies, abantu benshi batekereza ko aba ari abantu beza kwisi - ubwitonzi nkubwo no kwishima no gucika intege barasenyuka kubafatanyabikorwa babo. Ariko, ibi bihora bikarangira kimwe - umuntu mwiza kwisi gahinduka mu buryo butunguranye, imico irakaye kandi irahagarikwa.
Kudashobora kwerekana amagambo avuye ku mutima
Aya marangamutima aturuka kuri njye, kandi ntabwo yateye imbere muri Narcissus. Impimbano, nshinzwe gusa ibimenyetso byatekerejweho kandi byegeranye - ntibishoboye kwigaragaza bivuye ku mutima kandi byihuse.
Kubura impuhwe
Ni gake cyane ko batekereza ku byiyumvo by'abandi - bashishikajwe rwose no kubungabunga kwihesha agaciro cyangwa kurwanya isoni. Bahora bahindura ikiganiro icyo aricyo cyose. Bashobora kukubaza uko umunsi wawe wagenze, umva interuro yambere ugahagarika imvugo nka "Yego, niyo mpamvu ntari narashyizwe." Kandi igihe kinini cyo kuvuga uko byagenze.
Imyifatire ku mwana nk'iyi ishobora kumuhindura mu gihe cya Narcissa.
Urukundo rukabije kubabyeyi, cyangwa kubura, cyangwa kutagenzurwa no kudateganijwe kwitabwaho - mubihe byose umubyeyi ateranya imyitwarire runaka yumwana. Kurugero, umubyeyi wahoraga arota kumenya igifaransa, yishimye niba umwana afite impano mu ndimi, ariko yirengagiza cyangwa kunenga ibindi bigaragarira. Urundi rugero: Ababyeyi bananiwe gushyirwa mubikorwa, twizere ko umwana azashobora kugera kuburebure bwumwuga. Ibyo akunda hamwe nibyifuzo byumwana ubwe ntabwo ushishikajwe numuntu - afatwa nkukomeza kubabyeyi (muri psychologiya yitwa "kwaguka kwa Narcissisting").
Nyuma yigihe, umwana yiga guhisha ababuranyi be "batishoboye no guhagarika abakunda ababyeyi be cyane. Nibyo, ndahindukira ntizitezimbere, ariko impimbano ikura kugeza nini. Ntaho, ntakora, ntakunda - ariko asohoza inshingano, akumva abumva.
Ikigereranyo gihoraho
Umwana akura mu kirere cyo kugereranya buri gihe. Iremeza neza nkikintu cyingenzi cyongera kubabyeyi kwihesha agaciro. Niba umwana afite agahinda umubyeyi, ntibazavuga mu buryo bwihariye, ariko bazobisobanura neza ko atari mwiza bihagije. Hamwe nubwiyuba, umwana akura afite isoni zisomwa kubera kudatungana.
Ibyifuzo byababyeyi
Umwana ni ingenzi kubabyeyi be ntabwo ari nkuko bimeze, ariko kubera ko bikora imirimo imwe. Birashimwa cyane, ariko murugero rwihariye afite. Ababyeyi bagaragaza urukundo gusa iyo umwana ahuye nibyo bategereje - akenshi bitateganijwe. Bituma umwana ahora arahangayikishwa, agerageza gukemura icyo ategerejweho. Yaretse kwigaragaza mu bwisanzure, ahindura imico ye mu byifuzo by'ababyeyi kandi abuza ibintu byose bidahuye.
Kuramya
Niba umwana yitonze, aracyabifata atabishaka ko adakunda icyo aricyo, ahubwo yashyizeho umuntu umwe mwiza. Kandi kugirango tutatakaza urukundo rwababyeyi, agomba kumuhuza. Tsyche yatangiye kuyungurura ibyifuzo byimbere nibyifuzo, guta ibintu byose bitaguye mubusobanuro bwa "byiza" (nibyo, intego zabantu zifite ubuzima bwiza kandi zivuye ku mutima).
Icyemezo cy'impimbano
Umwana ahora yumva ko agereranijwe, kabone niyo byaba bisa nkibishima byiza. Ku ruhande rumwe, yizera ko akuze, naho ku rundi - akeka ko kwemerwa bihoraho bidashobora kuba abikuye ku mutima. Birasa nkaho adahagije umubano nk'uwo. Kwihesha agaciro rero byakozwe.
Igitekerezo cyo gutanga umusaruro
Abana bafite ikibazo cy'ingesho za criscissistic bakura ku bantu bakomeretse bagombaga kuba bameze neza. Ababyeyi nkabo bifuza ko abana bamaze kugera kuri byinshi, babayeho ubuzima ubwabo badashobora kwitanga.
Kwishyiriraho kugaragara kwangiza imitekerereze, kuko ntamuntu numwe ushobora kubana nabandi kandi ntamuntu numwe ushobora kugira byose. Kugerageza kugera kuntego zidashoboka, umuntu utanga gusa kwihesha agaciro.
Bigenda bite
Narcissus abaho nkaho ku nkingi ebyiri: kuri imwe - ishyari, isoni no kumva ibinyoma byabo, ku yandi majwi: kwigirira icyizere, ubukuru. Umuntu abona kandi asuzuma mugihe cyimpinga akagwa. Ibintu byose bibaho hagati, icyiciro cyicyiciro cyamaze igihe cyapfushije ubusa.
Ikintu kibi cyane nuko umuntu ufite imvururu za crusorsistic ntabwo yumva ibyanjye. Birasa nkaho bisenywa mubice, hagati yibyo nta sano. Hariho isura ko Narcissus agaragaza abandi, nigice gikomeye cyatewe nikihe nisoni. Yihuta hagati yarenze urugero - bidafite ibitekerezo bye nibidashoboka.
Nigute?Bitandukanye n'imyizerere ikunzwe, abantu bafite ikibazo cya karcissistic bahindukirira imitekerereze. Bari kuba badashoboye kubaka umubano wa hafi, irungu, kurambirwa, kubabara, kubura umunezero, nubwo bageze kubintu runaka.
Akenshi ni abayamamaza kuri psychologue muburyo bwo kwiteza imbere. Birasa nkaho iyo babaye "verisiyo itunganye ubwabo," barashobora kubona urukundo bakishima. Hamwe na psychologue, basonewe ibiteganijwe bashyizwemo, biga gufata ibibujijwe, bahura nisoni, bareka kumenya ubusembwa bwabo nkibisobanuro byabo muri kimwe.
Muguhuza numutego wa psychologue, umuntu ufite ikibazo cyimigabane ya criscissistique arashobora kwereka abanyantege nke, igice cyakomeretse, cyari giteye isoni. Buhoro buhoro, Narcissus azumva ko umuvuzi adashenywe nikibona, bityo, abandi barashobora kubona ko urujijo, batunzwe kandi bafite intege nke.
Muri rusange, niba umuntu nkuyu ashobora kumva ari "umuntu mwiza cyane" - ntabwo ari mukuru kandi nta gaciro afite - ibi birashobora gufatwa nkaho ari intambwe. Ariko n'imyaka irajya i.
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