Urukundo rwa mbere nikintu kizibukwa ubuzima bwanjye bwose, kandi kuri bimwe gishobora guhinduka ikintu kigena mubusabane bwacyo hamwe nigorofa ikomeye. Kubwamahirwe, ubu bunararibonye ntabwo buri gihe ari bwiza - hafi kimwe cya gatatu cyababana no kubangavu urukundo rwambere ntirushoboka cyangwa ntishimye. Babyeyi, niba biga kubyerekeye ibihe nkibi, ugomba gufasha guhangana n'amarangamutima yo kurinda ibicucu cyangwa intambwe zipfusha.
Ibimenyetso byurukundo rutagengwa
Ko hamwe numwana hari bibi, bazashobora guhita bahita bajya kuri bo. Umwangavu arangwa, ananiwe mu masomo asanzwe, areka gushimishwa no kwiga. Benshi barazimira, ariko birashobora kuba urutonde - umwana "aha akazi" ibyamubayeho. Mu cyerekezo cyababyeyi nabantu bakuru bashishikajwe nimpamvu zimpinduka, netivism itangira kumakimbirane no kutumvira no kutumvira. Ariko myinshi mumibanire numwe mu nshuti (abakobwa bakobwa) babaye hafi cyane, ibanga. Ariko kimwe cya kabiri cy'abangavu bahura namakuba urukundo bonyine, batinya gukingura umuntu kutaba gushinyagurirwa, mbere ya byose.
Noneho ababyeyi biroroshye cyane. Abana ba none bakunze gufotora buri kibanza cyabo hanyuma wandike amarangamutima yinararibonye ku mbuga nkoranyambaga. Hanyuma ushireho amafoto n'imyanya inshuro nyinshi kumunsi. Bimaze gufungura amakuru yose ushobora gusuzuma imiterere yumwana. Reba kenshi cyane kurupapuro rwabana bawe, ariko ntibyanze bikunze.
Nk'itegeko, hamwe n'urukundo, ingimbi batangira kumara igihe kinini hanze yinzu, fata umwanya munini mumisobe rusange, mubiganiro kuri terefone. Arasaba amafaranga menshi atangira kwita cyane kumiterere ye, ntabwo yishimye cyane.
Indi mfashanyo yimyitwarire: Kwita Byuzuye Bifatika hamwe nubufasha bwimikino ya mudasobwa, inzoga, itumanaho ninshuti cyangwa ibyo ukunda siporo ikabije.
Hano haribisobanuro byinshi byingenzi kubantu bakuru, bikabuza abanyamurwi ntabwo byasabwe:
- Ntukarahire mubintu byabana - umufuka wibintu, imifuka, agasanduku kameza. Imyitwarire nkiyi izakuraho umwana kandi ikomeze negativism.
- Nta mpamvu yo kugenzura terefone igendanwa hamwe na mudasobwa yingimbi.
- Ntibishoboka kubuza umwana gusiga ahantu - azakomeza guhunga, arushaho guha umwana umudendezo muto kuruta uko bisanzwe.
- Ntabwo ari ngombwa kunegura icyifuzo cyo guhindura ikintu muburyo bworoshye, ariko ababyeyi bake barashobora kureba neza kandi bacecetse bareba bucece kandi bakureba bucece kandi bareba bucece bareba abo bagerageje, ntibanenga umwana. Nibyiza kwemera gusa uko ibintu bimeze - mubisanzwe ibyifuzo nkibi bigenda.
- Ntukemure ibintu.
- Ntugasebye umwana kandi ntuseke ku byiyumvo bye - ntabwo bikomeye kuruta abantu bakuru.
Ingaruka zishobora gukomeretsa urukundo
Ibyo ari byo byose, ihahamuka ritamenyekanye.
- Niba tudafite ingimbi, urwaye urukundo rudakenewe, noneho indwara yo mumutwe irashobora gutera imbere.
- Benshi bafite ibimenyetso bitesha umutwe: guhuza ubwitonzi, guhora bifuza, kutitaho ibintu byose.
- Kimwe mu kaga kenshi kubakobwa ni ukubura kwifuza, gutakaza ibiro kugeza anorexia.
- Mu bihe bikomeye, ingimbi zirashobora kugira ibitekerezo kubijyanye nubusobanuro bwo kubaho, ibitekerezo bijyanye no kwanga kubaho.
Icyo Gukora Ababyeyi
Ababyeyi bagomba kugira amayeri ntarengwa. Ntabwo ari ngombwa guhita dutangira gukora umwana ufite ibibazo byurukundo, ibibazo mwishuri. AKAMARO:
- Irinde kubaza, itumanaho rigomba kuba ryibaze bishoboka;
- Umva, inkunga, gusobanukirwa, ndetse no kubabara;
- Urashobora kuvuga ku rukundo rwawe rwa mbere, gusa udafite ikinyabunto;
- Vuga n'ingimbi ituje hashoboka, ntabwo ari ugushimira, ntucire urubanza ngo "ihitamo" itananirwa;
- Wange kuvugana na bagenzi bawe;
- Gerageza kwitondera abandi bategetswe mubuzima butabonana nubusabane bwumuntu - ohereza murugendo, andika mu masomo mashya, uzane ubwoko bushya bwamasomo;
- Kubushake, cyangwa uruhushya rw'umwana, gerageza kumva ibyabaye.