Kuki umwana atubahiriza: Impamvu 5

Ndi Ijambo rye - ni icumi!

Nubwo duharanira gute gutera imbere kwigenga kandi bigenga, ntitugikora, oya, kandi ndashaka ko batwumva. Bwa mbere. Hatabayeho inkoni, amakimbirane no kwemeza. Byose?

Hamwe na psychotherapiste, Amy Maurein, turasenya impamvu eshanu zingenzi zatumye umwana akubura amagambo yawe mumatwi cyangwa ako kanya yinjira mu gitsina.

Urabangamira cyane

Uratekereza kubona inshuro eshatu zitagira akagero, ubajije neza: "Nibyo, ushobora kuvuga angahe?!" Cyangwa gutangaza kenshi: "Iyi niyo miburo iheruka!" Niba uhora uburira kubintu cyangwa gutera ubwoba ikintu, umwana azasobanukirwa vuba ko utitaye ku magambo yawe.

Byongeye kandi, niba uhora usubiramo umuburo wawe, umwana yumva ko adakeneye kukwumva kuva bwa mbere - uracyasubiramo amagambo yawe atagira akagero.

Vuga icyifuzo cyawe rimwe.

Niba umwana atakumva - yamushyize umuburo umwe, kandi niba atabafasha - kujya ku ngaruka zateye imbere.

Iterabwoba ryawe ntacyo bivuze

Iyo turakaye, turashobora gukangura iterabwoba ryacu ry'ingano zidashoboka rwose: "Niba utazamuye imodoka zawe hasi, nzajugunya ibikinisho byawe byose!"

"Niba udahunze mucyumba, sinigeze nkureka ngo ujye gutembera!"

Iterabwoba rikomeye kandi ridahwitse kuri wewe ntimugufasha - zishobora gutera abana benshi, kandi abana bakuru baramenye ko amasezerano yawe ari ubusa kandi ntazigera asohora.

Gukurikiranwa.

Nibyiza guhagarika icyifuzo cyo gutera ubwoba urusaku rw'abana no gukomera kumasezerano yoroshye kandi yumvikana.

Kurugero, byibuze: "Niba utishe mucyumba, uyumunsi sinzakwemerera kugutera."

Urimo kurwanira imbaraga

Ntabwo bigoye cyane gufatwa nabi numwana kubintu byose, niyo byagize ibihe bidatinze. Ariko igihe kirekire cyo kwitwara nk'imyaka itatu ku kibuga: "Uzabikora, nk'uko mvuze!" - "Oya, sinzabikora!" - "Oya, uzabikora!" Umwana wawe aretse gukora ibyo wamubajije.

Wibuke ko mukuru.

Ibi ntibisobanura ko udakwiye guha umwana uburenganzira bwo kwerekana igitekerezo cyawe cyangwa kuzana impaka kubishyigikiwe.

Ariko, niba ibiganiro byawe byabaye udupapuro tudatanga umusaruro, noneho igihe kirageze cyo kwibuka muri mwe umuntu mukuru, ugomba guhagarika aya mabuye.

Ingaruka zasezeranijwe ntizigera zibaho

Kutishoboye kwababyeyi akenshi biba impamvu ituma abana birengagiza ibyifuzo no guhugura, nubwo bateye ubwoba. Ni ngombwa gukurikiza amasezerano yawe no kwerekana umwana ko ufite ibikorwa nyabyo kumagambo yawe: "Niba ujugunye umuntu mumusenyi wumuntu, tuzasiga urubuga," kandi rwose tugende.

Niba umwana wawe azi ko ingaruka zasezeranijwe uza, izitondera kumva amagambo yawe.

Guma mubitekerezo byiza.

Turakwibutsa ko ihohoterwa ridashobora gufatwa nkingaruka zumvikana ziterwa no kutumvira kwose: "Ngwino hano, cyangwa nzaguha umukandara!"

Nta miburo isobanura ihohoterwa rikorerwa umwana - ibi ntabwo ari igipimo cya disipulini, ni icyaha.

Uzamura ijwi

Inzira yoroshye kandi yizewe yo gukurura umwana, ukurikije ababyeyi benshi, ni ukugenda kwiyongera cyangwa kuyangiza. Ntabwo bikwiye kubikora, kuko abana bahita bamenyera induru kandi biga kwirengagiza nkisaku ryimbere.

Byongeye kandi, gutaka kwababyeyi bigira ingaruka mbi ku buzima bwo mu mutwe no mu marangamutima y'abana, bishobora kunyuranya no kurenga ku itumanaho n'ibibazo by'ejo hazaza.

Uko usakuza abana, nkeya amahirwe ko bigeze kukwumva.

Niba waravumbuye amakosa imwe cyangwa menshi kurutonde hanyuma uhitemo gukora kuri Kurandura, uracyakeneye igihe cyo kubaka imikoranire yawe numwana.

Komeza utuze.

Kubaka itumanaho ryiza hagati yumubyeyi numwana ni inzira ndende kandi itwara igihe, itangirana nubwana.

Gerageza gutuza, ushikame kandi wizere mubyemezo byacu, kimwe no kubaha no kumva imiterere yumwana wawe.

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