Hariho ibihe bitandukanye mubuzima bisunika
Andika kwanga umwana wawe. Bamwe ntibashakaga umwana mbere, ariko byatinze guhagarika inda. Umuntu yavuze biteye ubwoba
Mama na Papa bahisemo ko batazahangana n'umutwaro nk'uwo. Ariko ni iki cyumva ababyeyi? Nigute ushobora kubaho utuje, uzi ko hari aho umuhanga wawe, wabuze mama wo kwita no kubabyeyi?
Amateka Mama, wasize umukobwa we mu kigo cy'imfubyi, hanyuma ashaka kumutora
Umugore Reka yita Anna ye, abanye n'umugabo we mu mujyi muto. Anna yakoraga nk'umwarimu, umugabo we ni injeniyeri. Abashakanye bahisemo ko bizaba igihe cyo kubyara, kandi mumezi 9 umukobwa mwiza yaragaragaye. Nyuma yimyaka mike, Anna numugabo we batekerezaga bakaza umwanzuro ko umukobwa akeneye umuvandimwe cyangwa mushiki wanjye. Gutwita kwa kabiri byarakomeje kuruta ibyambere. Ariko Anna ntiyahangayitse, kuko ibintu byose bitagenda neza. Igihe kirekire cyababaje kuri toxisis, birya inshuro nyinshi kubungabunga mubitaro. Igihe umugore yatangiraga gutera inda, umugabo we hamwe numukobwa we mukuru yakundaga kumushiraho amaboko akategereza umukobwa muto gukubita. Byarakoze ku mutima cyane, kandi umukobwa mukuru muri ibyo bihe byatangiye gutaka cyane.
Itariki yo gutangwa yegereje. Anna yakusanyije ibintu nkenerwa, yaje kureba umwuzukuru mukuru. Amavuko yashizeho vuba kandi byoroshye, ahubwo kubwimpamvu runaka, Anna ntabwo yerekanye uruhinja. Igihe umugore yajyanwaga kuri ward, abaforomo bafata amaso, kandi umwana ntiyazanye byose. Anna afite ubwoba, ntabwo yabyumvise. Hanyuma umuyobozi w'ishami aramwegera avuga ko uyu mukobwa yavutse afite syndrome ya Down.
Anna yicaye muri swiveter. Amagambo y'umutwe agera buhoro buhoro abigiranye ubwenge bwe, kandi amaze gusobanukirwa ibibaye, urukuta rwareremba, umugore acika intege. Noneho habaye amarira, ararira, kwiheba. Umutwe witwa Anna ku biro bye, yicara neza ku buriri:
Nibyiza kureka umwana, kuko usanzwe ufite umukobwa. Tekereza uko bizamubona ko ingabo zose ukoresha kumukobwa urwaye. Uracyari muto, kuki ukeneye kwikorera umutwaro nkuyu mubuzima bwanjye bwose? Ntuzafasha umwana wanjye urwaye, tekereza rero kumuryango wawe, ibyawe, amaherezo. Uzitwika kubaho uramutse ubifashe.Anna ntabwo yumvise icyo gukora. Yagerageje kwiyumvisha uko ubuzima bwabana n'umwana urwaye, kandi amaso yahise yuzura amarira. Byari byiza kureka umwana, ariko nanone byari biteye ubwoba ku gutaha hamwe numukobwa nkuyu. Anna yavuye mu Guverinoma, yegamiye ku rukuta, yumva amaguru ahinduka ipamba akanga kumwumva. Mu buryo bw'igitangaza yageze mu cyumba cye ahamagara umugabo we.
"Byaba byiza aramutse apfuye, byaba byiza aramutse avutse." Kuki dufite?
Umugabo wanjye yaravuze ati:
- mu nzu yacu, umwana nk'uwo ntazabaho.
Ubuzima nyuma
Icyemezo cye cyashyigikiwe nibintu byose: sogokuru, inshuti magara. Umugabo yatinze kuri Anna nimugoroba, kandi mu byukuri batoroka mu bitaro by'ababyeyi, basiga aho, nta mwana utagira kirengera. Anna azakomeza kwibuka uko bahungiye mu modoka, hanyuma umugabo akangura pedal ya gaze, nkaho ashaka kuva ahagaragara. Umukobwa mukuru wa Anna yavuze ko mushiki we yapfuye akivuka.
Ibyumweru bya mbere Anna n'umugabo we baganiriye ku mukobwa muto, bajugunya mu bitaro by'ababyeyi. Bagize ubwoba ko umukobwa mvuka yumva, yavuze ko ari yo yonyine yo gusohoka.
Nubwo bimeze bityo, mumfubyi n'amashuri yinjira mu kwinjiza uburyo bwo kwita ku bana. Hariho abahanga, amasomo, abaganga. Kandi ni iki murugo? Twaba twarasaze hano,- Nagerageje gushaka ingingo umugabo.
Muri icyo gihe, nyina yaje i Ana. Yagerageje gushyigikira, yavuze ko icyemezo gikwiye cyafashwe. Kandi we ubwe yarebye hasi, maze muri rusange, atagerageza kutareba Anna n'uwo muzo. Byasaga nkaho aribyo byose mumuryango wabo bakoze ibyaha biteye ubwoba, ariko ntibifatwa nabapolisi.
Mu nzu yahamagariye guceceka gukandamiza. Umugabo yatangiye gutinda ku kazi, nyirakuru ntiyari asuye gusura. Nta basangiye umuryango, gutembera muri cafe, ingendo muri kamere.
"Sinashoboraga gusinzira nta binini byasinziriye amezi menshi. Umugabo yasinziriye ukwe, twahagaritse kuvugana. Nagize ihungabana riteye ubwoba, sinifuzaga kubaho. Birashoboka, byari gukora ikintu nanjye niba atari ku mukobwa w'imfura, "- Abwira Anna.
Kuva mu byiringiro, umugore yatangiye kumara umwanya munini kuri enterineti. Bimaze guhura n'iki kiganiro, aho ababyeyi bamwe basangiye inkuru zabo. Soma byari bigoye cyane. Abashakanye basa nkaho bashaka urwitwazo kubikorwa byabo, ariko sibyo.
Birashoboka kubabarira wenyine?
Niba usomye ibyo ababyeyi bandika, wataye abana babo, batangiye kumva ikuzimu kwisi. Aba bantu babaho neza, mu muriro utazima. Batekereza kubikorwa byabo, kumwana wataye, buri segonda. Nibyo, biragoye cyane kurera umwana ufite uburwayi bukomeye. Ariko biragoye cyane kubana nuburemere bwumutima nyuma yuko uva mumwana utagira kirengera ku mbabazi. Ababyeyi bagerageza gushaka ishingiro: Mu ishuri ryihariye rishinzwe kubika, umwana wamugaye azaba mwiza kuruta murugo, nta mwanya dufite, imbaraga, amahirwe yo kurera. Ariko iyi nkuru zose batazana ihumure.
Ababyeyi basize abana, baza buri munsi: "Nigeze kumbabarira kubyo nakoze?". Ariko igisubizo kiragaragara. Birumvikana ko nta kubabarirwa igikorwa nk'iki.
Gusura ishuri ryinama
Iyo bimaze kwihanganira gutura mu kirere nk'iki, Anna yafashe icyemezo cyo kureba aho umukobwa we wa kabiri atuye. Yabanje kwegera umuryango, ahuye n'abakozi, atangira kubaza uko umwana we yari ahari. Kandi igihe kimwe nasanze niteguye kubona umuntu muto yakoze kumucyo akajugunya.
"Nkimubona, umutima wanjye warohamye mu kibyimba. Yari ameze cyane kuri njye, cyane. Natekereje ko nzabona umwana w'undi, ariko ni umukobwa wanjye, "- yibuka amarira mumaso ya Anna.
Icyo gihe umugore yaratorotse, ntanubwo yaje kumukobwa. Ariko mubitekerezo bye ntibyashobokaga guhunga. Yasuzumuye buri munota mu kwibuka nka firime muburyo bwihuse, inama yambere nyuma yindege iteye isoni numukobwa muto. Anna akururwa mu ishuri ryitambaraga.
Anna yahagaze kure areba umukobwa we. Hano harashishikajwe no kureba ahantu, hanyuma nkaho yinjiye mubitekerezo byanjye. Ishuri ryacumbitsemo ry'abagore ryaje ku mugore. Umukozi ati: "Uruhinja rwumva ko nta muntu nkeneye," kandi Anna arangije, nta mugongo gahoro.
Amazu ya Anna yategereje ko umugabo we avugana na we. Yavugishije ukuri yemeye ko yari mu ishuri ryacumbitse abona umukobwa wabo. Anna, agira ati: "Tugomba kumufata", kandi umugabo we avuga ko ndemera. Ku nshuro ya mbere, Anna yagize uburambe bwo gutabara. Bafashe umwanzuro, kandi gusa ni yo yonyine.
Impanuka yizeye kandi gahunda nshya
Anna n'uwo mwashakanye baganira kubyo umukobwa w'imfura azavuga. Bahisemo igitambaro, imyenda, ibikinisho kumukobwa muto. Ababyeyi bakusanyije ibyangombwa, baza ku ishuri ryindege. Hanyuma umuhamagaro wanduye, wambutse ibyiringiro byose byumuryango. Batangaje ko umukobwa yapfuye azize indwara.
- Riddal Anna.
Umugabo yagerageje konsole, yari hafi, ariko Anna yari agoye cyane kubona urupfu rw'umukobwa muto, wavuye mu muntu utazi, igihe nta bantu kavukire bari hafi. Umunsi umwe, ahobera uwo ari we, aravuga ati: "Reka dukore umukobwa. Nabonye ukuntu byanze bikunze mu ishuri ryitambaga? ".
Ababyeyi b'umugabo we na Anna barahageze. Kugeza mu gitondo, bagaragaje uburyo bwo kwigisha no kurera umwana bafite uburwayi bukomeye. Abantu bose bari kumwe, abantu bose bari bazi ko bazahangana.
Noneho mumuryango ubana numukobwa ufite syndrome ya Down. Ameze nk'izuba, itara inzu yabo buri gitondo. Anna n'umugabo we bafite icyo busobanura, kandi umukobwa w'imfura wubugingo ntiyinjira muri murumuna we.