Uburyo bwo kuvuga byimazeyo mu ruhame: 6 Ingamba

Umutoza, Porofeseri n'umwanditsi Melody woodgent ntabwo atekereza gutinya disikuru, ariko kubyemera kandi ukore ukurikije

Uzasangamo inama nshya kukazi, kandi bitiranya ubwoba muri wewe. Ariko niba ushaka gutera imbere, ni ngombwa kwigirira icyizere mu ruhame.

Intego nkiyi yashyizweho numwe mubakiriya banjye, Ellison, igihe twatangiraga gukorana nawe. Yaje aho ndi afite ikibazo: "Kuki mfite ubwoba mbere y'ijambo riti:" Kuki mfite ubwoba mbere y'ijambo mu nama? "

Ellison yari inzobere mu bijyanye n'umutekano wa cyber, kandi uburambe bwe bwashimiwe cyane ku buryo yakuriye ku butegetsi.

Umwanya mushya wari ushimishije kandi ukinguye amahirwe akomeye kumurimo we. Ariko ibyo yari afite kenshi kugirango abone isura, byateje impungenge zidasanzwe. Gutinya ibitaramo bishimye byamugaye. Igihe yari akeneye kugira icyo avuga, Ellison Chapel, yatekereje ku gisubizo kinini kandi amaherezo yatontomye ikintu kidahuye.

Nyuma yibyo, aranyeganyega anamva umunyamahane, adashobora gusohoza umurimo we. Yifuzaga cyane kurushaho kwigirira icyizere kandi atagira ubwoba mu nama no ku kazi muri rusange.

Waba uzi inkuru ya Ellison? Niba aribyo, nturi wenyine.

Abakozi bumva mu nama

Ingorane zumva ni abakozi bunoze cyane bahangayikishijwe cyane no kumva rwose byose. Abantu nkabo bafite imyaka 15-20%. Ibihe bisanzwe bitera imihangayiko yoroheje umuntu usanzwe ashobora kunanirwa gukora cyane, cyane cyane iyo birenze urugero. Ubushobozi bwo gutunganya byimazeyo amakuru agaragaza ibintu byinshi nibishoboka. Ariko nanone bisobanura kwiyongera gushimangira no kutitabira amarangamutima, cyane cyane iyo bifitanye isano n'imanza cyangwa ibigereranyo byabandi bantu (urugero, mu nama cyangwa mu nama yo kugenzura).

URI MUBWIRA?

Urashobora kwitirirwa tekinike yoroshye, niba wemeranya na byinshi mumagambo akurikira:

• Ndumva marangamutima yimbitse kandi ahangayika
• Mfite icyifuzo gikomeye cyo "kurenza ibiteganijwe" mubice byose byubuzima bwanjye
• Mfite kunegura imbere bikora nta minsi yo kuruhuka
• Ndi umugwaneza, impuhwe kandi mpuhwe nabandi
• Nkunze gushyira ibyifuzo byabandi bantu hejuru yawe
• Natanze byoroshye guhangayika
• Sinshobora "guhagarika" ibitekerezo, kuko buri gihe cyuzuyemo ibitekerezo
• Mbona ibintu bikomeye byamarangamutima
• Numva mpangayitse iyo mbonye gutungurwa cyangwa nzi ibyo ureba cyangwa unyinjire
• Nkurikiza amahame yo hejuru kandi ndamagana rwose niba nkora amakosa
• Nkunze kutifata icyemezo kandi nkarangwa no kudafata icyemezo
• Nemera ibitekerezo no kunegura kumutima

Ingorane zumva ntizigera zihura namateraniro, kuko:

• Ukunda rwose kumva ibitekerezo byabandi
• Ukunda kwitegereza no kumva ibibera mbere yo kwerekana igitekerezo cyawe.
• Ufite imbaraga nyinshi, bityo ukaba wubaha kandi uyobowe n'abayobozi
• Ukunda kwifata, bivuze ko abo dukorana cyane bashobora kuganza ibiganiro
• Urataka byoroshye kandi urashobora gutanga igitutu.
• Urashobora gutekereza cyane ukabona impande zose zibibazo rimwe na rimwe bikuzigama mu myigaragambyo myinshi
• Urumva cyane kandi uhangayikishijwe nibyo abandi bagutekerezaho.

Ingamba zo kuvuga Ibyiringiro mu nama

Fean na Swinter mugihe cyinama itaha ni ibyiyumvo biteye ubwoba. Ifate mu ntoki - Ntigomba kuba. Urashobora gukuramo ibintu byose bigenzurwa hanyuma ukareka akamenyero ko kwicara bucece.

Kugira mubitekerezo kukazi ni ngombwa cyane niba ushaka kuzamura umwuga. Ukora byinshi, kandi ufite ibitekerezo byiza - ugomba rero kuba urwakomeye kandi wabikwiye.

Ndangije imyitozo gato, amaherezo uzumva uri mu bagize itsinda (urimo usanzwe kandi uri).

1. Fata umunezero

Amaboko aranyeganyega. Mu nda ni alder. Urahita utangira gushidikanya niba izina ryabakiriya ryanditse neza kuri gahunda. Iyi ni umunezero usanzwe ngaruka yinama. Nibibazo bisanzwe byo gutegereza iyo utekereje ko yateranye azasuzuma ubwenge bwawe cyangwa umusanzu wawe gukora.

Umuhanga muri psychologue kuva muri Stanford Kelly McGonyanyiga ntabwo atekereza ko afite ubwoba hamwe ni ikimenyetso ko udahagije cyangwa udahangana numurimo. Arasaba ko inshuti ye yakiriye imihangayiko, ayibone kandi abibone kandi ko witeguye gukora no gukora imbaraga nyinshi.

Ni ngombwa kandi kugabanya urwego rwibanze rwo gukangura mbere yinama. Ellison, umukiriya, nakubwiye kare, yakoresheje tekinike ya kare yo gutuza.

2. Wibike neza

Hariho ibishuko bizaza mu ntangiriro yinama kugirango werekane ko wihuta, cyangwa wirinde ibiganiro byisi. Ariko kumva wihuta cyangwa kubura umwanya bizarushaho kwiyongera kumihangayiko ihari urimo.

Ahubwo, kubaka buffer: Teganya kwibizwa mu nama kugeza itangiye. Reka umenyere muri salle. Niba iyi ari iyindirimbo isanzwe, mbere yimyambarire mbere, shiraho mikoro na webcam.

Nkuko bagenzi babo bagaragara, vugana na kimwe cyangwa bibiri muri byo, bifite akamaro muri rusange kandi bifasha kugabanya impagarara. Birakenewe kandi kuvuga imvugo yo gutangiza mu ntangiriro yinama, hanyuma ikiganiro kizajya kuri gahunda. Ibi bizafasha kugabanya amaganya no gutuma itumanaho ryimbere.

3. Vuga vuba bishoboka

Byakubayeho ko waje guhura nibitekerezo na gahunda yibyo ushaka kuvuga, hanyuma uragenda, bimaze kumenya ko igihe cyose gicecetse? Guceceka biguha serivisi yubuhamya. Igihe kirekire, inama iramara, mubisanzwe birabagora kwitabira ikiganiro. Igihe kirekire, niko impungenge zawe zigenda ziyongera.

Akenshi, gukura bibaho kubera kutamererwa neza, niko wihatiye kuvuga hakiri kare bishoboka. Ishyireho umurimo woroshye: Vuga ikintu muminota 10-15 yambere - gusuhuza abitabiriye amahugurwa, saba igitekerezo nyamukuru, baza ikibazo cyangwa ugaragaze igitekerezo ku gihano gishya. Ubu ni inzira yizewe yo kuguma hejuru yikiganiro.

4. Koresha imbaraga zawe

Ntabwo ari ngombwa kuba umugabo uranguruye muri iyo nama. Ndetse n'abakozi bucece bavuganye bucece barashobora kugira uruhare, gushyigikira igitekerezo cya bagenzi byoroshye interuro yoroshye: "Igitekerezo gikomeye! Ndatekereza ko byagenze. "

Urashobora kandi kwibanda mugushiraho ibibazo byingenzi. Abakozi bumva nibyifatamo cyane, ababwira ibibazo bikarishye bitaragera kuri bagenzi babo.

Ubundi buryo bwiza bwo gushimangira ingaruka na nyuma yinama irangira - ohereza imeri kuri shobuja, aho uvuga muri make ibibazo byingenzi cyangwa, ndetse byiza, tanga umushinga mushya ukuturuka mubiganiro. Uzabona izina nkumuntu wunguka, kandi birashoboka cyane ko uzibuka mugihe havutse ikibazo. Icy'ingenzi, uzabona kwigirira icyizere.

Nibyo ellison yakoze mucyumweru cya mbere nyuma yo gutangira akazi. Yagize intwaro n'ibikoresho bishya, akihatira ku mutozo, yahise agira ati: "Nishimiye uburyo nibyizere kandi bikaba byiza umfata bagenzi banjye bashya. Ariko, icy'ingenzi, nishimiye ubwanjye. "

5. Ba abambere kuza gukora

Igitekerezo gisaba ubushakashatsi bwinyongera bwavutse mugihe cyinama? Bikore ku nama itaha. Bizerekana gahunda yawe ninyungu. Kandi ibi bigufasha kwisunika muburyo bwifuzwa. Wiyemeje - ubu uzagira moteri nyinshi.

6. Ingoze imyizerere yawe

Inteko yubuyobozi bwabantu benshi ntishobora gutera imbere neza mubwana, kandi idashidikanywaho idashidikanywaho ishobora guterwa mu myitwarire yacu mugihe cyo gukora. Nigute ushobora gutsinda ibintu bishaje bikubuza kwigirira icyizere? Ugomba kumva cyane ibitekerezo byawe kubyerekeye kwihesha agaciro no kuvuga.

Ni iki wumvise mu bwana ku bantu bagaragara mu bandi? Ese ababyeyi bawe, abarimu n'umuryango bavuze ko ushobora kuba uwo ushaka, cyangwa wiganye ko "abantu badakunda guhangayika"?

Niba ufite ubusa cyangwa watekereje kubitekerezo bibi kubitekerezo byawe, tekereza kubyo ushobora kugaruka kugirango utoroshye mugihe wiheshewe guterwa nibitekerezo byundi (cyane cyane ubutware).

Iyo ufite icyo uvuga, ariko urabona gushidikanya imbere, gushimira kunegura imbere kugirango ugerageze gukora akazi kanjye ukakurinda. Ubwoba burashobora kwerekana ko uvuga ikintu cyingenzi. Koresha umwanya. Reka gukina neza. Wibuke ko ufata umwanya wawe kuko wujuje ibisabwa, ukora neza kandi ari ngombwa.

Ibyifuzo byumva birashobora gutanga abandi. Igihe kirageze cyo kubivuga kuri buri wese.