Ubuzima bw'ababyeyi ba none bwuzuye ibibazo bitandukanye, urugero, "guha umwana kubateza imbere mbere yabandi," "Umuhungu winjira / umukobwa wishuri ryinshi muri kariya gace" cyangwa "isabukuru yo gusohora kugirango abantu bose basezererwe . " Mugihe kimwe, bimwe mubintu byanyuma byagezweho no kwihangana bikwiye gukoreshwa neza. Inganda zikiruhuko zumwaka ubwayo zuzuzwa nibintu bishya bidasanzwe kumavuko yabana.
Umutungo waganiriye n'abateguye ibintu nk'ibyo, umuhanga mu by'imitekerereze kandi usanga hari ukuri nkeneye kwizihiza abantu ubwoba - abana cyangwa ababyeyi cyangwa ababyeyi.
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Ksenia, nyina w'abana babiri, yizera ko isabukuru y'umwana ari umunsi w'ikiruhuko cy'umuryango utuje, aho nta mwanya wo kwidagadura.
- Kumuryango wacu, iminsi yabana yabana - iyi niyo mpamvu yo guhurira hamwe kumeza imwe, ishimwe ryizina ryimivurungano, urye ifunguro riryoshye kandi wibuke umunsi tukiri umwana. Umuhungu wanjye mukuru afite imyaka 5, naho abato, kandi nizera ko badakenewe mu minsi mikuru yuzuye urusaku, rigabanijwe n'ibitekerezo bya Ksenia. - Ikiruhuko cyurugo hamwe nimpano idutwara amafaranga ibihumbi 5. Ahari iyo bakuze kandi ubaze ibiruhuko byiza, noneho turabishyira mubikorwa bishingiye kubishoboka byingengo yumuryango.
Catherine, nyina w'abakobwa babiri, ku rundi ruhande, yizera ko kwizihiza isabukuru y'amavuko mu cyumba cy'imikino hamwe na gahunda yo kwerekana - biroroshye, kuko ushobora kwita bene wacu n'incuti zanjye.
Ati: "Ndashaka kumenya ko uyu ari umunsi uhanamye ku buryo isabukuru yawe igomba kwizihizwa." Ndashaka ko basobanukirwa ko ari byiza iyo hari inshuti nyinshi kandi baza aho uri umunsi w'amavuko, ". - Mu bwana bwacu nta mubare munini wo gukina no kwidagadura. Nibyo, kandi ababyeyi bari mu gisekuru cyacu ukundi, kubera ko batiteguye gukoresha amafaranga nkaya mu biruhuko. Isabukuru yimyaka yumuryango mucyumba cyimikino igura impuzandengo yimyaka 10-15.
Tatiana (Izina ryahinduwe) - Umuteguro wiminsi mikuru hamwe nuburambe mubigo byinshi bya Kirov. Mu byamubayeho, bitanga ibyiciro byinshi by'ababyeyi. Inyandiko ya mbere ifite urugero rwiyimoni "kuzenguruka" amatariki - 5, 10, 15, kugirango bibuke abana igihe kirekire.
- Ubusanzwe ababyeyi batangira kwitwara nko gukubita amadupa. Tatwana agira ati: "Iyo bategetse ibiruhuko, basa nkaho bafata ibikando kandi bafata ibisige bidafite parsing: Ndashaka ibiganiro, ndashaka ibinyoma 55, kwerekana ubushakashatsi. - Muri uru rubanza, umurimo w'uwateguye ni uko abashyitsi batatunguwe n'iyi "serpentine" ya gahunda zatoranijwe, kandi abana ntibarambiwe iyi minduld. Ibiruhuko byiza cyane bikunze gutanga ingorane - kubera ibiranga imyaka n'umunsi wumunsi.
Ikindi cyiciro cyababyeyi, ukurikije umukobwa, - abafite ubuhanga budasanzwe byabaye mubuzima bwumwana. Nk'ubutegetsi, abantu nkabo batwara icyifuzo cyo kwerekana ubushobozi bwabo bwamafaranga. Kenshi na kenshi ibi ntibikorwa kubana, ahubwo ni kubandi babyeyi. Ariko uru ni urubanza rumwe, inyandiko z'umuteguro. Mubisanzwe abakiriya nkabo bavuga neza ko bashaka gutakaza izuru.
- Ariko nyamara, abumva nyamukuru ni abakiriya basanzwe. Umukobwa agira ati: Intego yabo ni ukubona ubwumvikane hagati y'ibyishimo by'umwana mu biruhuko n'ibiciro byayo. "
Ikiruhuko cyibagiwe
Nkuko umuryango wa psychologue, Nadezhda Bushmelev, ugomba kwishimira iminsi yumurango wumwana kandi birashoboka kuva mumwaka wa mbere wubuzima, ariko uko byagenda kose ibirori, umwana ntazamwibuka.
Impuguke isobanura ati: "Abana ntibazibuka ibi urebye ibintu nk'ibyo nka Amnesiya w'imyaka y'abana. - Mubyibuje hakiri kare itariki ntoya izarangiriraho. Umwana arakura, kandi buhoro buhoro ubuzima bwibintu byo kwibuka bwiyongera, kugeza amaherezo, butagera ku gihe kitagira imipaka cyo kubika ibyo bintu bikuze. Hafi yimyaka 4 kugeza kuri 6, ibyabaye bizakomeza kwibuka.
Dukurikije ibinyoni bya animaters, intera y'abana ubwabo mu manza nyinshi ntabwo zikenewe gusa, ariko rimwe na rimwe ndetse n'ibitera ubwoba. Umuteguro wa Anna Kashina avuga ko akenshi bibaho iyo abana bahuye ninyuguti zabantu cyangwa niba umukinnyi afite ijwi rirenga.
- Rimwe na rimwe, ababyeyi basabwe kumara ibiruhuko witonze, kuko bamaze kugira uburambe bwo kunanirwa. Abana kuva kumyaka 2 kugeza kuri 3 barashobora gutinya animiamona, kuko biruta mumakarito cyangwa ibitabo, - abwira umukobwa.
Umubyeyi munini n'umuteguro w'iminsi mikuru hamwe n'ubunararibonye bwa Marina Sunzova avuga ko ari ngombwa cyane kumva umwana kandi nta ruhare rwo kuhahagurukira:
- Amarangamutima meza ntabwo ashingiye kumyaka, imyigaragambyo yabantu bazengurutse hamwe nuburyo bwo mumitekerereze yikirere cyigihe kirekire ni ngombwa. Niba umwana afite ubwoba bwabantu benshi cyangwa ibihe bitamenyerewe, nta marangamutima meza. Nubwo umwaka, byibuze imyaka itanu. Bibaho, abana bafite ubwoba cyangwa bafite isoni kandi ntibaza kuvugana nabana bakuru. Imyitwarire y'ababyeyi na animateur ubwe ni ngombwa. Ntibishoboka ko umwana akorana cyangwa avuga ko atinya ubwoba.
Shiraho indangagaciro kandi ntabwo ari iminyago
Nkuko Nadezhda Bushemelev inoti, akenshi ababyeyi bagerageza kwishyura uburyo bwo kwishyura abana babo babifashijwemo nabana (ibura ryikintu - hafi. ED.). Kurugero, mugihe ababyeyi badafite iminsi mikuru mara mu bwana, kandi bashakaga cyane. Kandi hamwe no kuza k'umwana, bigaragara ko hagaragara umwanya wo kurota mumwana wabo. Dukurikije imitekerereze ya psychologue, nta kibi kiri muri ibi: Kwizihiza isabukuru y'amavuko bitwara imikoranire n'imico, biteza imbere ubwenge bwamarangamutima no gutuza kubwubwenge no kuba urugero rwindangagaciro zubuzima kandi igice cyimihango ihamije.
Muri icyo gihe, Nadezhda Bushmelev araburira ababyeyi ko hari amahirwe yo kumena umwana iminsi mikuru myiza mu cyubahiro cye. Igikorwa cyabantu bakuru nukugaragaza no gukora mubana indangagaciro, imbibi zumvikana kandi zigisha kumenya igipimo muburyo bwose bwubuzima. Muri icyo gihe, abantu benshi bavuga ko abantu bose bahisemo kubaho, uburyo bwo kubaho mu cyumweru kandi bizihiza iminsi mikuru, kuko ku yandi mabara ari andi mahirwe yo kubaho, ariko ku yandi mabara n'amarangamutima.
- Ikiruhuko ntigikwiye kubeshya, kandi kitazibagirana. Kandi ntabwo ishingiye ku burebure bwa keke cyangwa ngo ngege, "Marina Sumyo."