Papa vs Mama: Icyo ugomba kumenya kubyerekeye gutongana numwana

Kusanya imigani

Benshi bizera ko abantu badatongana mumuryango ukomeye wuje urukundo. Gusa abadafite icyubahiro hagati yabo batubaha kandi ntibisobanukiwe muri rusange impamvu abo bantu bari kumwe. Kubwibyo, gutongana bigomba kwirindwa kubiciro byose.

Birumvikana ko atari byo. Ntukavugurure hamwe n'ibishusho byonyine mu nzu ndangamurage, kandi abantu bazima - n'ibitekerezo byabo, ingeso zabo, imibereho myiza, itongane ndetse n'ibisanzwe kandi birasanzwe rwose.

Ibinyuranye - niba abantu batigeze batongana hamwe imyaka myinshi kubana, biteye ubwoba kandi batera ikibazo - hari icyo bafite?

Ikindi gitekerezo kizwi cyerekana ko umwana atagomba guhamya amakimbirane y'ababyeyi. Hamwe numwana, turamwenyura kandi dufashe amahoro, hanyuma, tumenye umubano inyuma yumuryango ufunze.

Birumvikana ko amakimbirane avuguruzanya, akavuga icyatandukana neza, cyangwa agasuzuguro hamwe no gutukana no gukubita amasahani atari byiza kuvuga gusa mugihe ibintu byose bimaze kuba Byakemutse, ariko kugeza ku wa kabiri ntabwo ari byiza kutemanuka na gato, cyangwa abana, oya utari kumwe). Ariko mumakimbirane mato yumuryango ntakintu nakirana. Ibinyuranye, birashobora no kuba ingirakamaro. Ubundi se, nigute twiga uburyo bwo kwiga uburyo bwo kuva mubihe byamakimbirane, niba atazabibona kurugero rwababyeyi be?

Kandi ushake imiryango ifunze kandi irambuye n'ibiganiro binyuze mumenyo n'umwana ufite ubwoba bwinshi kandi aramutonda. Azumva ko hari ibitagenda neza, ariko ntibizashobora kumva icyo aricyo, bityo bizahangayikisha, gutekereza kandi, wenda, kubiryozwa nibiba.

Itegereze amategeko

Intonganya nubucuruzi bwamarangamutima. Iyo ibitutsi bimaze kurengana mugihe nshaka kwerekana ukuri kwanjye kandi bisa nkaho umukunzi atumva ibintu bigaragara, biragoye cyane kwirinda amategeko. Ariko ko amakimbirane ava mu nkombe, ni ngombwa kubikora. Cyane cyane - niba ibintu byose bibaho iyo umwana.

Ntukirimo amakimbirane y'umwana

Ubu ni bwo butegetsi bw'ingenzi kandi budahinduka. Niba bibaye ko umwana yiboneye intaremwa yawe, ntagomba na rimwe kwimukira mu bitabiriye amahugurwa.

Ntushobora gutuma umwana umucamanza akabaza uwukuri - papa cyangwa mama. Ibi ni inshingano. Umwana ntashobora kandi ntagomba gukemura ibintu nkibi. Ibi birabujijwe kwakirwa!

Ntushobora gukoresha umwana nkintumwa mugihe wahisemo guhagarika kuvugana numugabo wanjye. "Bwira papa ko naramubabaje!", "Umwana arashobora kubona iyi nshingano zegera, kuko bizamwemerera kumva akamaro kayo. Ariko ntabwo aricyo gikorwa kibi kandi kidafitanye isano, nabyo ni imizigo myinshi kumwana uzumva ihuriro hagati yababyeyi.

Kandi, birashoboka kandi gutunganya abana kurwanya umubyeyi wa kabiri, binubira. Birababaje umugabo we, kandi umwana aragukunda kimwe.

Elly fairytale / Pexel ntabwo ijya kuri kamere

Mugihe c'amakimbirane hamwe na mugenzi wawe, irinde amagambo ateye ubwoba kandi agereranya. Usibye kuba ari urugero rubi kumwana, tekereza ukuntu iteye isoni azumva amagambo atagira ikinyabupfura ahura nabantu akunda.

Umwana ntagomba kuba ikibazo cyamakimbirane

Ibibazo bifitanye isano numwana nibyiza guhitamo mugihe atumva. Kandi aba bose "hano, ubwo burere bwawe bugira ingaruka!", "Kandi navuze ko bidakenewe kukwemerera kureba ikarito" naho ibindi bizaganisha ku gutakaza ubutware bwababyeyi.

Nyuma yo gutongana agomba kuza kwiyunga

Niba umwana yiboneye amakimbirane, noneho inzira igorekanwa nayo igomba kubaho mumaso ye. Nuburyo azashobora kumva ko amakimbirane ubwayo adateye ubwoba kuburyo ntangarugero rishobora kuba umuco kandi ntigira ingaruka kubusabane muri rusange. Niba byaratangiye gutongana numwana, urangiza utabiretse, menya neza kuyigaruka nyuma, mbwira ko amakimbirane yananiwe ko wunvikana, kandi byose ni byiza.

Ishusho ya Ryan McGuire kuva PilixAbay