Ku munsi wa nimugoroba w'abakundana bose, abahanga batangaye uburyo batazajya mu ruhererekane rwo gutatanya bashaka urukundo ku mbuga zo gukundana.
Ukurikije impuguke zivuga ko ibimenyetso biteye ubwoba bigomba kuba byiza cyane kandi uburyo bukwiye bwumukunzi wo kurubuga, hamwe nubushake bwayo bwo kwihutisha iterambere ryumubano. Mubyongeyeho, ibyifuzo bitunguranye bigomba kuba maso nibibazo byihariye.
Umuganga wubumenyi bwa psychologiya Galina Samatova asuzuma imwe mumihanga nyamukuru yuburinganire igerageza gutera amarangamutima akomeye.
Galina Samatova: "Ubutumwa bwinshi burimo uburiganya bukubiyemo ubutumwa nk'ubwo: iterabwoba ku mibereho myiza y'abantu, isezerano ry'inyungu nyinshi z'amafaranga, umurage utunguranye, watsindiye tombola. Gushimira birashobora gutera neza amarangamutima amwe, cyane cyane akwirakwizwa. "
Nk'uko byatangajwe sinasi ya Dr. Alexander Tkostov, abahwanye ku mbuga zo gukundana basa neza kandi iburyo. Bashaka kuzimira bafite ikizere, noneho kugirango ubone ikintu. Ubwa mbere azagerageza gushimisha, hanyuma ikintu kizabaza, umuhanga yizera. Thosto yavuze ati: "Kubwibyo, birakwiye kuba maso, niba byose bigenda neza kandi byihuse."
Byongeye kandi, ababuranyi bagerageza kwihutisha ibyabaye. Kubwibyo, kimwe mubimenyetso bigaragara byo kubeshya birashobora gufatwa nkigihute nkana mugutezimbere umubano. Inzobere zisaba kwitondera imyitwarire yo kumurongo y'ababyeyi, no guhagarika itumanaho mu gihe ibintu "bitangira guhatira."
Impuguke zanditse ko bishoboka kwinjira murusobe rwibinyabuzima biterwa muri byinshi biterwa nububiko bwa psychologiya yumuntu. Umuntu witonda cyangwa abantu bashishikaye ubwoko nk'ubwo bwo gukundana bafite amahirwe make yo gushimisha mubibazo. Ingaruka zisa zisa nizo zishingiye kubusa. Bakunda iyo bashimwe iyo babigezeho. Ngiyo intege nke zabo ko abadatsi basoma, ni "akazi" ku ntege nke.
Bishingiye kuri: ria novosti.