Muraho nshuti!
Twatekereje kandi tugahitamo ko noneho inyandiko yo kugabura, abayifatabuguzi (abiyandikishije bashobora kuba hano - ibi ni kubusa) baza ku wa gatanu, abandi basomyi bazashobora kubona ku cyumweru - bizajya mu ibaruwa ya buri cyumweru imiterere kurubuga rwa Nan.
Ibi ntibisobanura ko ubu ntabwo byumvikana gusoma akanyamakuru, bivuze ko bizashobora kubona nayo abasomyi benshi. Kandi duhora twishimira mugihe ibikoresho byacu bisomye cyane!
Rero, mu nomero yambere yimiterere mishya, tuzavuga urukundo. Kuberako umunsi wa valentine, yego. Kandi nubwo ababyeyi benshi basore basa nkaho aribwo buryo bumwe bwo gusharira, ndashaka kukwizeza ko atari byo. Kandi aho zurukundo bigomba kuba mubucuti hagati yabantu bakura abana hamwe. Ndakubwiye nkumuntu ufite imyaka irindwi mu rukundo numugabo we.
Nkuko, ntabwo buri gihe ashishikariza imyanzuro ya filozofiya, ariko aramutse ajyanyweho, abona ibintu nka: "Tuzishimira nk'ababyeyi, niba twishimiye nk'umugabo n'umugore."
Kandi urabizi, nkunda kubyemera. Kuberako umubano mubi hagati y'abafatanyabikorwa wariye ibikoresho, fata imbaraga kandi ugaragaze umwana, kuko kubabaza birashobora kuba hamwe no gukundana no kwishima.
Ndumva ko buri gihe abashakanye badafite icyifuzo namahirwe yo gukomeza umubano wurukundo, ariko uyumunsi reka tuganire kubikora niba wumva urukundo, ariko nta mbaraga.
Mbere na mbere, ndihutiye guhumuriza imibare n'ibitekerezo byinzobere.
Phip Cowen, Phid.d., umwarimu wa psychologia n'umuyobozi w'ikigo cy'iterambere ry'abantu muri Berkeley i Berkeley i Berkeley i Berkeley i Berkeley, n'umugore we Caroline Peip Cowan, Ph.d.d..D. Muburyo bwo kugaragara kwabana kubaho abashakanye kuva 1975. Batangije umushinga munini uba umushinga wumuryango, murwego rwiki gihe barebye imiryango kuva batwite mbere yuko abana babo bagiye mu ishuri ryincuke.
Kandi mu rwego rw'ubushakashatsi bwe, basanze 92 ku ijana by'ababyeyi batangaje ko ubwiyongere n'uburemere bw'amakimbirane kuva bagaragara.
Ibi byemejwe n'imibare y'Uburusiya: Benshi mu bashakanye barasenyuka mu mwaka wa mbere nyuma y'umwana. Muburyo bwinshi, kubera ko muri societe, muburyo bwagutse ntabwo bwagiye kuganira ku babyeyi - benshi babyara, ntacyo bazi kubitegereje mu mahanga nyuma yumwana ugaragara. Irema icyuho kinini kiri hagati yo gutegereza nukuri.
Inama zanjye za mbere kubashaka kuba ababyeyi gusa, ahubwo zikagumaho couple: wige umukino. Soma ibitabo n'ibikoresho byo kubora mu bushakashatsi, wiyandikishe mu masomo, saba inshuti, ubaze hamwe na psychologue kandi ukore ishusho ifatika y'ibizaba nyuma yo kugenda ko umubiri w'umuntu ushobora gukora undi mubiri w'umuntu.
Nibyiza cyane niba utegereje ubwoko runaka, kandi mubyukuri ibintu byose ntibizaba biteye ubwoba - ibikoresho byasohowe birashobora gukoreshwa kubwinyungu zurukundo.
Kandi gukundana muri rusange, byibuze rimwe nyuma yo kuvuka k'umwana, byasohotse, bifata impuhwe kandi ukomeze kwiga umukino. Cyane niba uri umugabo. Ntushobora kumenya, ariko ntabwo abagore bose bashoboye gusubira murwego runini (cyangwa byibuze bato) iminsi 60 nyuma yo kubyara.
Kugabanya libido nikintu gisanzwe cyimyitwarire yumugore yimpinduka zabaye: Uburyo bwubwihindurize bwo kwirinda gutwita, bishobora gukora ibishoboka byose byumwana wavutse, bizakora ibishoboka byose kugirango ubunerike butabaho.
Ibi ntibisobanura ko ari ngombwa kuvanaho rwose impuhwe nurukundo mubuzima bwawe.
Ntakindi cyimibonano mpuzabitsina kuruta kwizerana, gusobanukirwa no gushyigikirwa. Nibyo, ikaze mubuzima bukuze, aho bidahagije kugira amaboko meza murwego rwibiryo byihuta byishati yagenzuwe hamwe nigituba mu mufuka. Igabana ry'inshingano ku mwana, gufata ibyemezo, inshingano z'ubufatanye ku buzima, urugo n'uburezi - nabyo bituma habaho imibonano mpuzabitsina yizewe, aho hantu heza h'imibanire yizewe, aho hantu heza h'imibanire yizewe, aho hantu heza habaye imibonano mpuzabitsina yizewe, aho hantu heza h'imibanire yizewe, aho hantu heza h'imibanire yizewe, aho hantu ho guhobera imibonano mpuzabitsina, ariko nanone hatuje ku mibonano mpuzabitsina gusa, ariko nanone ituje n'amatariki n'amatariki n'amatariki afite isahani ya chips munsi yikirere.
Muri rusange, gufungura kugirango igenamigambi (ibi ni icyuma!) Kandi ivugurura ryimiterere yubucuti bwurukundo nubufasha bukomeye mugukomeza umubano wurukundo hagati yababyeyi. Amatariki agomba kuba umwe mubabyeyi gahunda - gusiga ahantu hatagira umwana ari ngombwa kubantu babiri bakuru.
Abicaye, inshuti, Nannies, abavandimwe - uburyo ubwo aribwo bwose ubona ko byemewe kuri wewe nikintu cyiza cyumugoroba ushaka gukoresha gusa. Byongeye kandi, umwana ubwe na we afite akamaro ko guhindura uruziga rw'itumanaho, kwagura kandi tumenyana nizindi formati yimikoranire nabantu bakuru. Niba udatekereza gutandukana numwana nkigikomere no guhemukirwa, ntabwo bizaba.
Ndumva uburakari bwa bamwe muri mwe. Kandi yego, nkumuntu udatandukanya numwana no mubiruhuko, ndagusobanukiwe neza. Kandi niba ubwambere udashaka kuguma udafite umwana (kurugero, urashobora kutoroherwa kumubiri kubera amata yamata), ntubikore!
Gerageza gusa kubika icyuho cyibihe byurukundo kuri buriwese: amagambo meza, inyandiko, ubutumwa, ibintu bito bizakenera ishoramari rinini ryumubiri (kandi ubanza kuba ibicuruzwa byinshi mubibazo bitagaragara) bizaba ahantu. Kandi sinavuga kimwe kubyo kuryamana nibibazo bya erotic, kuko ntari umuvumo ufite ikinyamakuru kibabyeyi batandatu - Nzi ko imibonano mpuzabitsina uburambe hagati yababyeyi bananiwe gusa x ** Kuri Rimwe na rimwe bashaka kohereza.
Ndavuga ko itumanaho ryuguruye kandi umurava rigomba guhinduka urufunguzo rwo kubungabunga urukundo, kandi na gato utarumiye inama za Oskovin kugirango wambare lace ipantaro ya lace nimpagaro yuzuye.
Nkuko babivuga, igitsina, byukuri, ariko wagerageje kuvuga mumagambo ukoresheje umunwa wawe?
Kandi kubera ko muvuga kandi mubyemera, urashobora kugerageza gushyira mubikorwa igenamigambi mubuzima bwawe. Nibyo, birashobora kumvikana vuba bishoboka ndetse nibidasanzwe: Niki ushobora gutegura numwana mumaboko yawe kandi bizadufasha bite? Urabizi, ureba mbere gusa bisa nkaho birambiranye, ariko mubyukuri utegereje itariki, igitsina cyangwa ifunguro rya mugitondo wenyine (Tekereza mugitondo cyonyine, ku ya 14 Gashyantare, ntawe uzagukangura, abantu bose bazahita bagenda, Azateranira gutembera kandi basukura icyumba, kandi uzabyuka kandi urashobora gutuza ifunguro rya mugitondo kandi urebe urukurikirane rwa TV ukunda, m?) Ikosa, Nibyo?) Irashobora gukora nkumusemburo wamarangamutima meza kandi utange umwanya yo guhanga no kwiyitaho wenyine.
Pragmatism ntabwo ari ukwanga urukundo, iyi ni isura rusange mugihe ubuzima bwawe bumeze.
Igihe Andrew Sofin, Perezida w'ishyirahamwe ry'abashakanye na Kanada, benshi mu bakiriya bayo - abantu bafite abana bari munsi yimyaka itanu, kugirango iki gihe cyubuzima gitekerezwa cyane gushakisha ubumuga hagati yababyeyi no gukundana mumibanire no gukundana mumibanire no gukundana mumibanire no gukundana mumibanire no gukundana mumibanire nindyumubano.
Kandi muribi bihe bifasha gukina hirya no hino: Urareba akajagari kabaye mubuzima bwawe ntabwo ari kugereranya neza (ubu bizahoraho), ariko nkicyiciro (umunsi bizarangira), bigufasha gukora neza ibihe byiza cyane. Ntibashaka mureke kubaho kandi nta bizashirira hose, ariko icizigiro ku Amahinduka gato maze bituma ubuzima gato yihanganiye, kandi rero, ivyo bikaba bituma uburyo bwo gukomeza kuba ababyeyi gusa, ariko kandi abafatanyabikorwa (na yisanga). Kandi ibi bivuze ko mugihe amaherezo byoroshye, urashobora kurebana ukavuga amagambo atatu akunda: "Turatsinda."