Mubantu bakuze
Ibigaragaro byose byihohoterwa rishingiye ku mubiri (pliers, kurumwa, gukubita) bifatwa nkibitandukanya nibisanzwe. Muri sosiyete, ibyo bikorwa bijyanye nundi muntu wamagaho, ariko nigute wafata neza ko umwana akubita ababyeyi be? Urashobora kwemerera bisa
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Ku myitwarire yabantu bakuru?
Abaganga bo muri pysiololololololololololololololololololololololololololololololololololololololololololololog ko mubijyanye nabana ntibagomba gutekereza ibyiciro. Nta myumvire "mibi" n "" nziza ". Imyitwarire yumwana nuburyo bwo guhangana nibibazo biriho. Gucira urubanza uburyo umwana yitwara, birashobora kumvikana ko bimugirira impuhwe, ugasanga ibibazo byabaye impamvu itera igitero. Niba Kroki yatangiye gukubita cyangwa kuruma ababyeyi, ntabwo ari ngombwa kubihagarika. Ariko kugirango tumenye impamvu yatangiye kwiyobora, birakenewe.
Impamvu zituma umwana akubita mama na papa, byinshi. Buri rubanza ni umuntu ku giti cye, kuko abantu bose barihariye kandi badasanzwe. Ariko abahanga mu by'imitekerereze y'abana baracyatanga impamvu nyamukuru zimyitwarire yumuntu utera ababyeyi.
ABANA, nkabantu bakuru, bafite uburambe mumarangamutima yose. Ntibashobora, nka robo zateguwe, zigaragaza umunezero gusa, ko utuza kandi wumvire, nkuko ababyeyi bashaka. Abanza ataramenya ntibazi gusesengura ibyiyumvo byabo, tekereza kubyo ingaruka zizakenera ibikorwa byabo. Abana kuri iyi myaka barataziguye, amarangamutima yubusa, ntibashobora guhagarika ibyiyumvo bikomeye no kubikomeza. Niba umwana utarangije amashuri yumva umujinya cyangwa kurakara, ikintu cya mbere ashaka gukora ni ukubazwa cyangwa kuruma nabi. Kandi ntakibazo, hafi ni umuntu cyangwa umwana utamenyereye mugikinisho.
Umwana arashobora kwerekana amarangamutima mabi gusa muri ubu buryo, ahubwo anababaye, guhangayika, kurambirwa. Ntiyize guhangana n'amarangamutima ye kandi ntazi icyakorwa mu bihe nk'ibi. Niba uretse umwana gutera ubwoba ibyiyumvo byegeranijwe, nubwo ukoresheje imbaraga z'umubiri, birashobora gutakaza umurongo ngenderwaho ukenewe, kandi umwana ntazimenya kumenya amarangamutima ye.
Ababyeyi ntibagomba guhangayikishwa n'intombe kubakubita, kuruma cyangwa gukubita. Mama hamwe na papa ukeneye kwigisha umuhungu wawe cyangwa umukobwa wawe kugirango umenye ibyiyumvo byawe ko arimo agira ubu. Injira buri marangamutima: "Noneho urakaye, kuko ntaguze igikinisho," "Urababaye, kuko imvura igwa ku muhanda, kandi ntidushobora kujya mu rukundo." Tanga igitekerezo cyo guta ibibi nundi, ubundi buryo: Rangurura ijwi, ukubite umusego, shushanya neza kumpapuro, nibindi
Mu kinyejana cya 60 cyo mu kinyejana gishize, itsinda ry'abahanga ryakoze ubushakashatsi, benshi bazwi ku izina rya "Bobo". Abateranko za psychologue bakusanyije abana bafite ikigereranyo cyo kwibasirwa kandi bagabanyijemo amatsinda abiri. Itsinda rya mbere ryabonye uko basebeje igipupe: gukubita, bajugunywa hasi, Trepali, kuruma. Itsinda rya kabiri ryihohoterwa rishingiye kumubiri hejuru yikipupe nticyabonye. Abana bo mu itsinda rya mbere nyuma bagaragaje igitero kinini mugihe bashyikirijwe igipupe. Bamusunitse ku mutwe, bakubita urukuta, ndetse bagera ku kuniga.
Abatezo bo mu mutwe bitewe n'ubushakashatsi byaje ku mwanzuro w'uko abana bahinduka igitero cyo kwigomeka ku myitwarire nk'iyi. Ariko, niba utangiye gutukana umuntu ufite umwana utagaragaza igitero, umwana azumva icyo gukora ibibi.
Ababyeyi bakeneye kwitondera mugihe bahitamo abaratsi abana babo bareba. Intwari mbi zimaze kugerwaho nintego zabo zifashishije imbaraga zumubiri, zigisha abana igitero. Niba kroki isa nkimiterere yikarito isebanya izindi ntwari, birashoboka ko biza mubuzima. Umwana azatsinda mama hamwe na papa kandi ntanubwo yumva icyo akora ibibi.
Kubwamahirwe, mumiryango imwe n'imwe, gukoresha imbaraga z'umubiri bifatwa nkibisanzwe. Papa arashobora gukubita nyina hagati yamatongatongo, Mama yanze umuhungu wumusenyi. Muri icyo gihe, abantu bose bavuga kumabara meza, barashobora gukoresha amagambo ateye isoni. Ikintu gitangaje ni uko abo bantu iyo bahuye nabaturanyi babo, bamwenyura beza kandi bifuza umunsi mwiza. Mubisanzwe, abana bato mumuryango nkuyu bazagaragaza amarangamutima yabo babifashijwemo. Gusa kuberako muburyo butandukanye mumuryango wabo batazi kuvugana.Birashoboka cyane, mugihe abari bato bakuze, nabo bazahana kumubiri abana babo. Niba uhuye numu psychologue yumugabo mugihe, ibintu birashobora gukosorwa. Ikibazo nuko ababyeyi, nk'ubutegetsi, ntibabona ikibazo gikomeye muribi, kuko bamenyereye kubaho gutya.
Umwana arakura, azi isi, kandi akeneye kugerageza byose akamenya. Hifashishijwe imyitwarire ikaze, yiga gusobanukirwa icyiza n'ikibi. Niba igikona kiri ku kibuga cyakubise umukobwa, kuki adashobora gukubita na Mama iyo ahiye cyangwa ikintu atemerera gukora ikintu?
Muri ibi bihe, abahanga mu by'imitekerereze y'abana bagira inama yo kuvugana na Drachman, basobanura ko atemerewe gukubita no kuruma abandi bantu. Ntugire igikundiro gihagije kumaboko, gukubita cyangwa gukubita mugusubiza, shyira mu mfuruka. Mu myitwarire nk'iyi, uratera igitero kinini cyo kwibasirwa. Guhagarika cyane ("Nabujije mama cyangwa papa") birashobora kuganisha ku kuba umwana azatangira kwihana.
Mubisanzwe, abana nibble imisumari, bashishimura umusatsi, bakomeretsa ubwabo, ndetse bakubita imitwe yerekeye urukuta. Ntibishoboka guhatira kubahiriza amarangamutima nawe, bitabaye ibyo birashobora kugira ingaruka mbi ku mitekerereze yihuse yumwana. Ariko mbega ukuntu twigisha umwana gutera ubwoba, kandi icyarimwe tuvuga ko ababyeyi badashobora gutsinda? Abanzaramo bishyurwa bumva amarangamutima meza ahura na mama na papa. Kurugero, abifashijwemo na Mimics, Mama arashobora kwerekana ko atishimye kandi akababara. Gusa ibi bigomba gukorwa tubikuye ku mutima, kugira ngo tugaragaze amarangamutima yanjye, kandi tutagira uruhare.
Niba umuryango wemewe mu kinyabupfura kandi wubaha, ariko umujura muto akomeje gukubita ababyeyi, ugomba gusesengura niba abantu bakuru bahagije. Kurugero, umwana asaba Mama gushushanya cyangwa gusoma, kandi aganira kuri terefone ninshuti cyangwa gutegura ifunguro rya sasita. "Ntubabare, reba neza kuruta amakarito," "Ntubona ko ndahuze?". Kroki ntabwo yakiriye igice gikenewe cyababyeyi kandi yiteguye ibikorwa byose, niba umubyeyi ufite papa yamwitayeho.
Niki ukeneye gukora ababyeyi? Ugomba kumva ko abajyanywe mu mashuri badakeneye gusa mu bikenerwa gusa ku buryo abantu bakuru bashobora gutanga (kugaburira, koga, guhumeka, kwambara, shyira ibitotsi). Gabanya kubera ibyawe, birumvikana, ibintu byingenzi kandi umarana numwana. Amaherezo, ntakintu cyingenzi kuruta kuvugana bivuye ku mutima n'umwana. Urashobora kuzana ibintu byinshi bishimishije: Hamwe nigitekerezo, gushushanya, tegura ikinamico yikipupe, tegura icyerekezo cyo kwerekana cyangwa ukine iduka ryo gusana. Ikintu nyamukuru nuko ukorana numwana ubikuye ku mutima, hamwe n'icyifuzo, ntabwo ari ukubera ko "bikenewe cyane."
Birumvikana ko ari ngombwa gutega amatwi inama za psychologue, ariko mubyukuri, ababyeyi bahura nibibi hagati yigitekerezo no kwitoza. Twese turi abantu bazima, kandi ntabwo ari byiza ko batakata ibyo badakora nkuko abahanga batanga inama. Ariko ugomba kugerageza, gukora, mbere ya byose, hejuru yawe, kandi ibisubizo ntibizategereza gutegereza.
Marina, Mama wana w'imyaka 3 y'amavuko:
"Vuba aha, umuhungu atangira kunkubita. Kandi ntakora kuri Papa, umugabo kuri we ni ubutware. Hamwe nanjye, Yang yitwaye neza, niba adakunda ikintu, ako kanya atangira gukubita ibipfunsi cyangwa kuruma. Ndatuye, ntabwo narunze cyane kandi nshukwa gukubitwa ahantu heza. Turwanya ibihano byumubiri, ariko sisitemu y'imitsi nayo ntabwo ari icyuma. Ndumva ko umwana yumva afite umudendezo kandi mubisanzwe ibyo mumyaka itatu aracyazi kubuza amarangamutima. Ndagerageza kwigumya mumaboko yanjye, ndavuga, nkuko bimbabaza kandi bikatuka iyo yang. Umugabo kandi akorana umuhungu we, avuga ko umubyeyi adashobora kukubabaza, akampaganiraga. Ndizera ko bidatinze iki gihe kizanyura, kandi umuhungu azumva uburyo ubundi buryo bwo kugaragazwa n'amarangamutima yabo. "
Catherine, Mama Arina w'imyaka 4:
Ati: "Mfite umukobwa utuje, mwiza, ariko mu bihe byashize hari ikintu kidasanzwe kibaho. Niba hari ikintu cyakozwe nkuko abishaka, Arina atangira kunkubita. Kandi ntabwo iri mumigambi yumukino, ahubwo ni imbaraga zose zose. Mperutse guhinduka urubanza nk'urwo. Nimugoroba ntiyashakaga gushimisha. Byari bitinze cyane, dukeneye kubyuka kare mu gitondo. Arina yateguye urukozasoni, hanyuma ayobora tablet kureba ikarito. Yakuye muri gari ya moshi, atangira kubaka inzu mu gishushanyo. Twagerageje kumwumvisha n'ingabo zose kuryama mu buriri. Nasabye gusoma ibitabo, kuvuga, kuririmba Lullaby. Ariko Arina yakomeje gukina, kandi yari asanzwe ari nijoro. Umugabo ntashobora guhagarara, akoranya ibikinisho byose, afata umukobwa ku buriri avuga ko ukeneye gusinzira. Nategereje Arina kwishyura, ariko araza akubita papa mbere hanyuma. Twize ibitabo byinshi byo kurera abana, kubyerekeye kumenya kwitwara mubihe nkibi. Ariko muri iryo joro ntibyaribuzaga, kuko bari bananiwe kandi bararakaye. Umugabo wanjye avuza induru ku mukobwa we, nafunze mu bwiherero. Noneho, birumvikana rero, bose hamwe batuje baganira kuri uko ibintu bimeze. Ariko Arina akomeje kurwana niba hari ikintu kidatemejwe na scenario ye. Turatekereza guhindukirira imitekerereze y'abana, kugira ngo tutayoboye ikibazo. " Ntabwo buri gihe kwigaragaza kwibasirwa numwana ni ikimenyetso cyindwara zubwenge no gutandukana. Akenshi, gukoresha imbaraga z'umubiri kubabyeyi bifatwa nkurwego rusanzwe. Ugomba kuvuga byinshi hamwe nabanyeshuri mbere, kumuha umwanya, wige gucunga amarangamutima yanjye. Mugihe umwana akomeje guta nkana ababyeyi, nubwo ingamba zose zafashwe, ni byiza kwerekeza kumurwi wa psychologue. Inzobere izamenya ibitera imyitwarire mibi kandi izafasha guhindura imyitwarire yabanyeshuri babaga.