Birumvikana ko ari byiza kuba umubyeyi ukiri muto mugihe abahisi bavuga ko uri kumwe numwana nka mushiki wanjye hamwe na murumuna wanjye. Ariko akenshi bibaho iyo ivyo ije muri kiriya gihe mugihe benshi bamaze kunsa n'abuzukuru. Mu bihugu by'Uburayi, nta kintu na kimwe gifite umuriro w'imyaka igihe kirekire, ariko turacyafite imyumvire ugomba kubyara akiri muto.
Abagore bahisemo kuba Mama nyuma ya 40 bavuga inkuru zabo.
"Mama, urashaje cyane"
Twebwe umugabo wanjye twari dufite abana babiri bakuze. Nshize nari maze imyaka 43, kandi ukwezi guhoraga durukanwa, ntabwo rero nitaye ku gutinda ubutaha. Ariko igihe natangiraga kuntoteza mugitondo, isesemi, intege nke, narirutse kumugore. Ku ultrasound namenyeshejwe ko namaze kugira ibyumweru 12 byo gutwita. Natunguwe, kuko njye n'umugabo wanjye twari turinze, kandi sinari kubyara. Ariko nta kintu na kimwe cyo gukora, ijambo ryari rinini, kandi umugabo wanjye yaravuze ati:
"Utanzwe, n'ingingo. Twabonye, babiri bararerewe, naho uwa gatatu azazamura. "Ingorane za mbere zatangiye mugihe niyandikishije mu gutwita mu nama y'abagore. Muganga n'umuforomo, ntibagira isoni, baganira kumwanya wanjye mugihe nambaye nyuma yo kugenzura.
Nacecetse, nubwo nashakaga kumusobanurira imyitwarire yubugiranezi, cyane cyane abarwayi. Muganga yujuje ikarita yo kuvunja kandi ashimangira ko ari ngombwa gufata neza ubuzima bwe kandi witonze, kuko nta myaka 20.
Sinari nzi kubwira abantu bakuru kubera ko umwana azagaragara mu muryango wacu. Ariko bagaragaje gusobanukirwa, bashyigikiwe ndetse bakayitabira kugura ibintu byose bikenewe bikenewe kugirango uruhinja. Ntabwo amatwi akomeza neza, ntabwo nari mfite ikibazo cyanjye. Gusa ninjiye mu bitaro kugira ngo ndebe, ahubwo ni, uyu muganga yashimangiwe, kuko nta mpamvu zikomeye zihangayitse. N'umwana wanjye wa gatatu, umuhungu wari utegerejwe kandi ukunda agaragara ku isi.
Nzavuga ako kanya, nkiri muto, biroroshye cyane guhangana na bavutse. Hamwe nabana bakuru, sinashoboraga gusinzira nijoro, hanyuma ugende umunsi wose, numva icyarimwe. Noneho naragoye cyane. Amajoro adasinziriye ntiyatinze, amaboko n'inyuma bimanitse kuva tekinike. Umugabo n'abana bakuze bafashaga, birumvikana, ariko burimunsi numvaga umunaniro.
Kugenda, nahuye nabantu benshi badasanzwe bari bamaze kurambirwa. "Umwuzukuru wawe ni iki?", "Mbega nyirakuru nyirakuru mwiza", "mama ameze ate?" Urakomeye? " - Ibibazo nkibi byaramkurikiraga buri gihe. Umukobwa mukuru wakijijwe numuhungu we wagendanaga na murumuna we mugihe nashoboraga kuruhuka cyangwa gukora ikintu kizengurutse inzu.
Reba kandi: Pansiyo w'imyaka 50 yu Burusiya yubatse umunyafurika w'imyaka 25 kandi abyara impanga - ibyo abana basa na (ifoto)
Nari mfite imyaka 46 igihe umuhungu wanjye yagiye imbasa. Mu cyumba cyo gufungiramo, twahuye n'ababyeyi bato, ba mbere batekerezaga ko ntari umubyeyi, ahubwo na nyogokuru. Ndibuka, abarezi bahoraga babwira umuhungu we bati: "Vanya, nyirakuru yaje kuri wewe." Noneho Vanya yagiye ku ishuri, aho nakomeje guhamagara nyogokuru. Umwana yabiburiye ibi atuje, kuko yari azi ko nkunda nyina ukunda.
Imyifatire ye kuri njye yarahindutse iyo imyaka yinzibacyuho yatangiriye. Sinigeze numva urubyiruko rwe rusinzira, ntirwimubujije ibikoresho bishya, kandi imyenda yahisemo ifatika, kandi ntabwo igezweho. Umuvandimwe mukuru yafashijwe na mushiki we, ariko aracyari hagati yanjye na Vanya bagize ikuzimu yo kutumvikana. Tumaze kuganira ku burere bw'ejo hazaza bw'Umwana, ntibyaje ku gitekerezo rusange, barimo gusenyuka. Vanya yaka umuriro, avuza induru:
"ICYO USHOBORA KUMVA, urashaje. Inshuti zanjye zagize amahirwe, bafite ababyeyi bato ushobora kugendera ku magare, bakina umupira. Kandi uhora winubira indwara zimwe kandi wicare murugo. Kuki wampaye na gato kuri iyo myaka? Twari dutegereje pansiyo, kandi ibintu byose byaba byiza. "
Birababaza amagambo nkaya mumwana wawe ukunda, ariko numvise ko ahabereye. Twari tuvuye mu kindi gisekuru kandi ntitwashoboye guha Umwana w'icyo kiganiro ko akeneye. Noneho, Vanya, yasabye imbabazi ku magambo ye, ariko aracyamarana igihe na mukuru na mushiki wanjye.
Ikirenze byose, Mfite ubwoba bwo gusiga ubuzima kandi ntimugire umwanya munini. Akenshi nibaza ko ntashobora kubona uburyo barongora bamuga, azagira abana be, azakira umwanya wifuza ku kazi. Ntekereza ko iyi ari yo minini y'ingenzi y'ububyeyi bwatinze, kubera ko ubuzima burahita, kandi abana bakeneye kwitabwaho n'ababyeyi. Jye n'umugabo wanjye tugerageza kuvugana byinshi hamwe na Vanya, bashishikajwe n'ibibazo bye. Ndavuga buri munsi ko ndishimye, nkunda kandi nshaka ibyiza gusa.
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"Ntabwo niteguye kubabyeyi"
Igihe navukaga, mama yari afite imyaka 23, papa - imyaka 25. Nari mfite ababyeyi bato, kandi byari byiza. Twashoboraga kwinezeza, kwiruka, gukina, kugendera ku bintu bikurura, kandi byasaga naho ari njye mama na papa ari bagenzi banjye. Igihe ninjiraga muri kaminuza, nahawe kwimenyereza muri Amerika, kandi, birumvikana ko nabyemeye. Muri leta, ibintu byose ntabwo byari bimeze nkatwe, ndetse no mu mezi menshi yo kuguma muri iki gihugu, nasanze ko nzarota kubaka umwuga, kandi nzatekereza ku ishyingiranwa nyuma.
Kubera icyifuzo cye, natandukanijwe n'umusore. Yashakaga kurongora, kurema umuryango gakondo, aho umugabo azabona, kandi umugore yishora mu nzu abaha abana. Ababyeyi banjye bakiriye nabi ku cyemezo cyanjye, kubera ko batekerezaga ko nzajya ku kirenge cyabo no muri 20 Ndangije kubaha umwuzukuru cyangwa umwuzukuru.
Ntekereza ko ukeneye gukora umuryango mugihe witeguye kubi. Sinumva izo nsomvugo y'Abasoviyeti ko muri 20 ari ngombwa kurongora, naho nyuma yimyaka 1-2 - kubyara umwana. Ninde ubikeneye? Nabwirijwe kubona umwanya wanjye mubuzima bwanjye mfite imyaka 20, kugirango ngere ku kintu cyokwicara ku ijosi ry'umugabo wanjye.
Nakoraga mu kigo kinini n'umuyobozi wa kiyobo, hanyuma mpinduka umuyobozi w'ishami. Umwuga wagenze neza, nari mfite inzu yanjye bwite, imodoka yanjye, inshuro nyinshi kumwaka nagurutse kuruhuka. Ababyeyi bahoraga babazwa igihe nashyingirwa. Bashakaga abuzukuru kandi ntibishimiye intsinzi yanjye yabigize umwuga. Umunsi umwe, ubwo naje gusura ababyeyi banjye, twari hafi.
"Nahisemo ubuzima nk'ubwo nkunda. Abana n'abuzukuru mubyukuri - ni ubutumwa bwumuntu wenyine? Nzaba mama iyo nshaka, ntabwo ari ukubera ko washakaga abuzukuru, "Sinashoboraga guceceka cyane kandi nkagaragaza ababyeyi banjye ibyo ntekereza byose.Kuva icyo gihe, ibibazo byabo byahagaritswe.
Nari mfite imyaka 37 ubwo nahuraga numugabo wanjye uzaza. Nagize ubuzima bukize: akazi, kwinezeza, kubyina, ingendo, ibyo bakunda. Umugabo wanjye yari afite imyaka 40, kandi yari ashishikajwe rwose n'ubucuruzi bwe. Ntabwo twateguye abana, hari ukuntu yemeye mbere ibyo twabana. Ariko gutwita gutunguranye byabaye igihe nari mfite imyaka 40.
Ntabwo nasabye ku ivuriro aho batuye, ariko nagiye muri abagore benshi mu buvuzi bwigenga. Habayeho amezi 9. Muganga wanjye ntiyigeze yemera gukora amagambo yanjye. Ahubwo yanteye inkunga, yanteye inkunga, ashimwe, yavuze ko natwite utwite, kuko nsohoza ibyo bye byose.
Twari dufite umukobwa ufite ubuzima bwiza wazanye ubuzima bwiza mubuzima bwacu kandi bwuzuza ibisobanuro runaka. Ntabwo mbona ko ndi mama ushaje, ukomoka, nari mfite imbaraga nyinshi kandi nifuza gutera imbere. Igihe umukobwa wanjye yari afite imyaka 1, nagiye ku kazi, n'ababyeyi banjye na Nanny bari bicaye hamwe n'umwana. Umwana wavutse nyuma yimyaka 35 agaragara ukundi, birasa kuri njye. Mugihe cyo kugaragara kumuntu nyamukuru, utangira kuvura neza, byukuri, nduza imbaraga zawe. Noneho ndashobora guha abakobwa benshi, dusangire ubunararibonye, ubumenyi bwubuzima. Nkurikiza isura yanjye kandi nzi icyo nsa cyane. Iyo umukobwa abajije imyaka ingahe, ndatabaye ukuri. Yahoraga avuga ko afite mama mwiza kandi mwiza. Nizere ko tuzakomeza hamwe nabakunzi be, nubwo hari itandukaniro rinini mumyaka.