Abaterankunga ba psychologue bavuga ko ababyeyi b'abanywi akenshi abana nabo bakura hamwe
bivuye ku binyobwa bisindisha. Tuzavuga amateka yumugore, reka tumwite umuryango wakuriye, wakuriye mu muryango mama yabonye, ariko ubwe yashoboye kureka akamenyero kangiza umuryango we.
Ubwana Alena
Kubwana sinshaka kwibuka. Byari igihe kibi. Twebwe abana, twahoraga dushonje, ntitwambaye imyenda isanzwe, ariko muri rusange ndaceceka kubyerekeye ibikinisho. Ababyeyi babyaranye abana batatu, ndi muto, na bakuru bakuru babiri. Mama yahoraga anywa, ntabwo nanigera twibuka ifishi ye nziza. Igihe yari afite ubwenge, yararakaye cyane, aradukubita, uko bigaragara, umubiri wacitse ku gushaka kunywa. Padiri yibye ikintu mu iduka ry'icyaro, afungwa. Ndibuka, twashakaga gusangira n'abavandimwe twirukiye mu busitani n'umuturanyi kandi tugororotse ku buriririye karoti yanduye. Hanyuma, nyina yambuwe uburenganzira bw'ababyeyi, kandi twajyanywe mu ishuri ryicumbuye. Urabizi, hari narushijeho kuba mwiza. Twagaburiwe, twambaye, kandi sinari nzi urukundo rwababyeyi, ntabwo rero namubuze cyane.
Hanyuma ninjiye mu ishuri, dushyigikira umubano n'abavandimwe. Muri dortoir, abakobwa banjye nimugoroba barashobora kugira pake ya divayi ihendutse kugirango iruhuke. Ntakintu natekerezaga ko nshobora guhindura inzoga nka mama. Tekereza, litiro ya vino ku bakobwa bane, ni ubuswa. Nize neza, nabonye impamyabumenyi, yagiye ku kazi. Buri mugoroba, nyuma yakazi, yanyoye vino nkeya yo gutuza no gusinzira neza. Nubwo yatangiraga kunywa icupa, sinatekereza ko mpumuye nka nyina.
Umuryango wawe bwite
Igihe nahuye na Fromater, byari bimaze guterwa cyane ninzoga. Ariko twarashyingiranywe, umuhungu wacu yaravutse. Umwaka nagaburiye amabere ye, mugihe nashoboraga kugira ikirahuri cya byeri cyangwa vino, hanyuma gitegereje amata kandi kagaburira umuhungu kuvanga. Iyo urangije kugaburira, naragaragaye, yongeye gutwita. Jye n'umugabo wanjye twishimiye, nubwo umwana wa kabiri atarategurwa. Muri kiriya gihe, nta nzoga zabaye mu buzima bwanjye.Nashakaga kwihangana no kubyara umwana muzima, kuko icyambere cyari ibibazo. Umwaka wa mbere hamwe n'umuhungu we akenshi wari uryamye mu bitaro, ariko sinahujije ubuzima bwe ningeso ye. Umukobwa yavutse ku gihe, ariko kuva kumunsi wambere yaryamye nijoro. Nababajwe cyane, amata yabuze, kandi nahagaritse kugaburira amabere. Nimugoroba, igihe abana basinziriye, ninjira mu gikoni mbona divayi. Byamfashije byibuze kuruhuka gato. Hanyuma umwana wa gatatu aravuka, nari nicaye murugo mfite abana igihe cyose, byaje kunywa. Rimwe na rimwe, abakunzi bakundana baraza aho ndi, kandi dushobora kohereza abana gukina, kandi tubona vino cyangwa Champagne.
"Mama, ntunywe"
Umunsi umwe, umuhungu muto yaraguye akubita cyane kugeza igihe nasinziriye nyuma y'uruzinduko. Umuhungu w'imfura yahamagaye ambulance, kandi abahigo bahageze, babona nyina wasinze n'abana bahawe. Bidatinze, abakozi bashinzwe imibereho barakandaga. Twanditse, turahari, nubwo ntakinywa.
Nyuma y'ibyo, ntabwo naretse inzoga. Umugabo akora amakamyo, arabura mu ndege, ku buryo nahawe. Nuburyo abana babonye uko mbona icupa rya firigo kandi basuka mu kirahure. Umukobwa arara ati: "Mama, ntunywe, ndakwinginze." Hanyuma nacitse intege imbere. Nasutse ibikubiye mu icupa n'ikirahure muri sink, guhobera abana nsezeranya ko ntakiriho.
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Kurwanya Kwishingikiriza
Nabonye ko kubwabana nigihe kizaza ugomba guhambira hamwe ningeso yawe yangiza. Sinifuzaga ko basubiramo iherezo ryanjye. Mbere ya byose, nahinduye ivuriro ryihariye, ugereranije nagiye nimugoroba mu materaniro muri sosiyete y'abanywi b'inzoga batazwi. Ibi byose byamfashije kutavunika. Umuganga wakoranye na psychologue wakoranye nanjye, yavuze ko ibi bihe bikunze kugaragara nabasinzi iyo ubwabo babaye abishingiye ku binyobwa bisindisha.
Abakozi b'Urubamari bafite ubwoba, bizatwara abana niba ntahangayikishijwe no kunywa. Ibi ni imbaraga zikomeye zo gutangirira ku ngeso mbi, kuko abana nubuzima bwanjye. Niba batari, birashoboka ko naryama kera. Inzu yacu igaburira amahoro n'amahoro. Nimugoroba, dutegura kunywa icyayi murugo, hamwe n '"abakobwa bakunda" - Ntabwo nhurirayo. Ndagerageza kubungabunga amazu yo murugo, guhimba imigenzo hamwe nabana, kurugero, tujya muri cafe muri wikendi. Buri gihe ntegereje papa wacu mu ndege, turamutegurira ifunguro ryiza. Birashoboka guhana umunezero wumuryango, urukundo, ihumure kubinezeza biva muri alcool?
Nzaha agaciro gakomeye mumiryango ya mugitondo, sasita no gusangira. Ndibuka ubwana bwanjye bwashonje, kandi sinshaka ko bana banjye bashonje. Muri firigo, buri gihe dufite ibicuruzwa byose nkenerwa: Inyama zose, amagi, amata, Yoghurts, amafi, imboga n'imboga. Nkunda guteka cyane, umukobwa wanjye yaransanze, akenshi aramfasha.
Alena arota iki
Inzozi zanjye na gahunda zizaza bifitanye isano numuryango. Jye n'umugabo wanjye kandi ndashaka kubaka inzu nini no gufata abana benshi mu kigo cy'imfubyi. Ndatekereza uburyo urusaku kandi rushimishije tuzagira! Uregwa, abana n'abuzukuru bazaza iwacu, humura mu busitani, ndumisha igihuru cya Berry, Fry kebab, koga mu bwogero. Ndashaka kugabana ubusitani, umurima wanjye, kugirango abana bashobore kurya ibicuruzwa bishya kandi murugo.
Kubiruhuko, ubu tunywa umutobe cyangwa imiterere. Umugabo wanjye ni umushoferi, kugirango adakoresha inzoga na gato, kuko bwo kwicara inyuma yiziga? Nabonye ko udashobora kuruhuka kwa divayi gusa. Mbere yo kuryama nshobora kunywa icyayi ku byaro, guhumeka umwuka, shimira izuba rirenze. Ibyishimo byinshi mubuzima, kandi ntukeneye gushakisha uburyo bwo kwinezeza. Nizeye rwose ko abana banjye batazajya mu kirenge cya nyirakuru kandi ndagerageza gushishikariza ko inzoga na nikotine ari bibi. Hano batangiye kugenda ku cyumweru bajya mu rusengero, ngaho ubugingo bworoha, bisa nkaho budashobora guhanwa. Nzi neza ko ibintu byose bizaba byiza mumuryango wacu, kuko dukunda abana kandi dushaka ejo hazaza heza kuri bo. Kandi ibyo byose tuzabikora kugirango byari bimeze.