Abo mu bihe byashize byagiye mu bihe byashize ubwo abashakanye baho babanaga no gusaza byimbitse, barema imiterere yumuryango wabo no guhora ahinga abuzukuru n'abuzukuruza bahinga. Kwiyongera, abagabo n'abagore bariho, bamaze gufunga ubumwe, nyuma yigihe gito batengushye, bumvaga ibyiyumvo kandi bahita barwanywa.
Umuntu aguma wenyine imyaka myinshi, kandi undi muntu akenshi agomba kujya munzu ya salle yijimye munsi yubuzima bushya, amwenyura yishimye imbere ya kamera.
Waba ufite ubwenge mu ishyingiranwa rya kabiri, rya gatatu? Yego. Ariko siko byose.
Ibizwe nubukwe busubirwamo:1. Umuhango wubukwe urasa nkuburyo bworoshye, kuko ntabwo yemeza imbaraga zo gushyingirwa. Umugore wo mu miziririzo kandi yihatira imyambarire, n'izindi mico yo hanze itandukanye n'umuhango wa mbere. Ibirori birenga cyane kandi ntabwo bitera umuyaga wahoze wishimye.
. Hashobora kubaho umwobo, kutizerana, gukeka. Bivuga iki? Umuntu umwe cyangwa bombi ntabwo yiteguye umubano mushya. Tugomba gutegereza, duhangane nahise kwawe, tekereza amakosa, yiyumva.
3. Gereranya akamenyero. Byongeye kandi, niba abo bombi bafitanye isano nubukwe bwasubiwemo, kugereranya biza kumpande zombi. Niba umwe muri bo akomeye, yubwenge, yizeye muri wowe ubwawe, hanyuma kugereranya kwayo ntabwo bibaho - umubano mushya wubatswe - umusingi wacyo ni imyizerere yuruhande rwiganje.
Ubusumbane bwimibereho yuwahoze nuwo mwashakanye / uwo bashakanye afata icyo kibazo. Nzatanga urugero (ikibanza cyo kugisha inama). Umugabo ufite imyaka 52, umupfakazi, yinjiye mubukwe mu rukundo runini. Uyu mugore we ni umuntu uhanga ufite imishinga ibiri yubutabazi, yishimye, abaho, hamwe no gusetsa.
Uwo mwashakanye yari umukobwa w'umuhinzi rusange, yatandukanijwe n'uburemere bukabije bw'uburambe, byatewe no gutegeka, mu gitondo kugeza igihe cyijimye, cyagahagarikwa n'umugabo we Umucyo uhagaze (gusa ntibisobanutse Kuki). Ariko, mugenzi wanjye w'umukene yamenyereye umurongo nk'uwo kandi mu mezi ya mbere yubukwe bushya ugereranije numujyi wacyo ubwiza hamwe numugore wo murugo wabanjirije urugo.
Urubanza rushobora kurangirana no gutandukana (umugore mushya, iri gereranya ryararakaye kandi rikaze buhoro buhoro ridakunda umugabo we), ariko bakarangira ku gihe cyo kwakirwa mu mutwe, kandi ibintu byakosowe. Mu myaka 6, aba bantu bishimiye imyaka 6, kandi nibuka cyangwa ndetse byerekana ubuzima bwe bwa kera hamwe na "madamu muri rubber" biteza ingwate zikomeye z'umugabo.
4. Kubaho kw'abana bo mubukwe bwa mbere bituma bigora kubaka umubano mushya mugihe abana batateguwe neza.
5. Kwangwa na bene wabo b'abashakanye umwe cyangwa bombi b'umufatanyabikorwa mushya wumuhungu cyangwa umukobwa (niba ubukwe bwa mbere bwabonaga). Igomba kwirengagizwa. Nta gutongana no gutukwa. Tanga gusobanukirwa numuforomo urababaje ko aribyiza kwiyunga no guhitamo.
Plus yo gushyingirwa kenshi:1. Abantu banzura Inzego zubukwe Rengere kumenya icyo bagiye. Basubiramo inshuro nyinshi imyitwarire yabo mubukwe bwa mbere, hindura imyumvire idahwitse, yakosoye amakosa yabanjirije.
2. Imyitwarire yabashakanye bombi irahinduka, reaction kugirango irakaze ibintu - amarangamutima. N'ubundi kandi, ubusore bumaze cyane bumaze inyuma.
3. Umugabo n'umugore wagize ubukwe, nk'ubutegetsi, bwari bumaze muri gahunda y'umwuga. Batezimbere gusa nabantu bafite inzobere mubucuruzi bwabo. Ntibakeneye guhangayikishwa nuburyo ubuzima bwabo hazaza buzaba mumwuga. Hariho amahirwe yo kwishyura umwanya mugutezimbere umubano.
4. Bigenga mu mahanga. Kandi ibi biha ubundi bwoko bwubwigenge bwose, butuma abashakanye badatuye mubindi bibazo.
5. Iburanisha ryimibonano mpuzabitsina (Birumvikana ko ibi birakurikizwa, kuruta byose, umugore we) atuma ubuzima bwimbitse mubukwe bushya bugenda neza kandi bushimishije.
Akenshi ubukwe bwa kabiri burahuza, buhamye kandi bukomeye kuruta bwa mbere. Shimira umubano wawe ukuze, ntukemere mwisi yawe yabanyamahanga, yishimira umunezero wuzuye!
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