Noneho, amatongo ya 2020 yagumye inyuma. Ariko, kubantu benshi, bisa nkaho bike byarahindutse, usibye umwaka muri kalendari. Niba ushishikajwe nuburyo witegura amarangamutima amezi agera ku butaka - kandi, wenda, ndetse ubone umunezero - hano hari inama.
Tegura cyaneNiba wumva ubwoko bwabantu bamenyereye muri Mutarama kugirango bakore gahunda nini yumwaka utaha, gahoro. Porofeseri Mychologiya ya kaminuza ya Virginia Bethany Tichman avuga ati: "Ubu urashobora gutegura utuntu duto twa kaminuza Tishman. Kubera ko gahunda zisanzwe z'umuryango we - kimwe n'abandi bantu benshi - bateye ubwoba, bazanye uburyo bwo gutandukanya igihe. Buri wese mu bagize umuryango yazanye umwuga ushimishije. Kurugero, bisabwe numukobwa w'imfura, abafana b'Umutegarugori "Brishy Briveni", umuryango wafashe icyemezo cyo "gutoranya ibikoresho by'ibikoresho byo guteka no gukora ikintu gikomeye." Tegura "ikintu cyose kikuzanira ikibatsi cy'ibyishimo," bishoboka cyane mu mezi ari imbere, Tichman agira inama.
Menya icy'ingenziHaracyari amezi yo kubuza imbere, kandi icyorezo gishobora gusa naho gihano kitagira gihano. Nubwo wicaye murugo kandi wirinde ingendo - ndetse na hafi ya gereza, hari ikintu kimwe gishobora kwigira ku mfungwa zamenyereye interuro ndende: zimenyekana (cyangwa kurenga) ICYANDITSWE. Ubuvuzi bwa psychologue muri gereza nshya ya Jersey.
Muganga Aburamu akunze gushyiraho abarwayi bayo ibibazo byinshi, kurugero, niki kandi ni nde ukunda kuri wewe? Nigute wifuza kubona umurage wawe? Kandi niki witeguye gukora kugirango ubuzima bwawe bushobore mubihe bihari? Kandi ikindi kintu kimwe: "Turi ibiremwa by'imibereho. Ibihe rimwe na rimwe bigora kubaka, gushimangira no guteza imbere umubano. Nigute ushobora guteza imbere umubano nawe kugirango ukore kimwe umubano nabandi bantu? "
Dr. Aburamu avuga ko imyaka 21 y'uburambe muri gereza yamwigishije ibintu bibiri. Ubwa mbere, abantu bahagaze neza kandi bashoboye guhuza, icya kabiri, umunezero uturuka imbere. Agira ati: "Uko ushima ibyo ufite, ibyiza wumva. - Ntabwo nshaka kuvuga ibintu bifatika. Birashobora kuba uburinganire bwawe buvuye ku mutima, birashobora kukubera ubuzima. "
Guma mu kanyaImitekerereze ya siporo yo kwihangana itubwira ko umubiri ushoboye kurenza ubwonko atekereza. (Niba hari umuntu wakubwiye muri Werurwe, icyorezo kizamara igihe kingana iki, watekereza ko ushobora guhangana n'iki gihe?) Rero wibande kumwanya wubu, kandi ntabwo wibandwaho muri rusange.
Umuhanga muri kaminuza wa Bata Joe Daniels, Umwanditsi w'ubushakashatsi butera guhangayika no kwiheba mu gihe cyo kwishyurwa.
Nigute ushobora kuguma muriki gihe? Hariho imyitozo yose yo kumenya, umwe muribo ni ugutondekanya ibintu bitanu ushimira, nubwo bimeze gute - yego, igikombe cyikawa ishyushye ni ngombwa. Iyo wumva wihebye, tekereza gusa kunyura mu isaha ikurikira cyangwa bukeye, ntabwo ari mu cyumweru gitaha cyangwa ukwezi gutaha.
Dr. Daniels nyigisho yiga yerekanye ko ingamba zo kubaho zigenda ziyongera kandi zikoresha inzoga nyinshi - zigira ingaruka ku rwego rwo guhangayika no guhangayikishwa n'abantu kuruta uko ari byiza, nko gushyigikirwa. Agira ati: "Gerageza gukora ikintu cyiza, ariko rwose ntukore ibibi." Ntamuntu utanga kwanga cocktail kumpera yumunsi cyangwa cake ya nyuma ya saa sita. Kuri we, ibibazo bivuka mugihe uhora ukoresha ibi bintu kugirango uhindure umwuka, hanyuma wumve ko ubihambiriye.
Shakisha icyo ushobora kugenzuraNiba wumva ushingiye ku gitsina, ibi biterwa nuko ifite ibintu bimwe bihuriye nubunyage nyabwo. Iki ni ukudashidikanywaho, bireba uwahoze ari umupolisi hamwe na precholologiste ya gisirikare ukomoka muri South Wales Emma KAVANA, wigishije imitekerereze yo kumvikana. Abantu, bakira imitekerereze yumvise neza, akenshi bagerageza kugarura ubugenzuzi kubidukikije. Bati: "Uyu munsi nzakora intambwe 100 kuri kamera" cyangwa "Nzakora gusunika 50."
Kavan yagize ati: "Bimwe mu bisubizo byawe bwite bifasha kugarura uburyo bwo kugenzura." Imyitozo ngororamubiri ni amahitamo meza, kuko yongera urwego rwa endorphine, ariko ntugomba kwicwa kugeza icyuya cya karindwi. Birashobora kuba byose bigutera kumva ugenzuye kuburambe bwawe bwa buri munsi, yaba inzira runaka cyangwa umuhango muto wa buri munsi.
Ishimire guhinduka no kwihanganiraMu ruhererekane rwatangajwe mu Kwakira mu Kwakira ibinyamakuru muri psychologiya, byafatwaraga uburyo bidashidikanywaho guhangana. Mu bushakashatsi bumwe, igice cy'abitabiriye bavuze ko bazavugana n'imvugo (ubwayo igomba kuba iteye ubwoba), igice cya kabiri - ko bazasuzuma disikuru, n'uwa gatatu - kandi bazamenya nyuma bagomba gukora. Noneho amatsinda yose yakemuye Anagrams zigoye, kandi itsinda ryatazi icyo inshingano zaba zifite umubare muto wo kugerageza gukemura ibibazo. (Ibikurikira mu mubare ni abitekerezaga ko bakeneye kuvuga bafite imvugo.)
Umwarimu w'ikoranabuhanga muri kaminuza ya Texpologiya ya kaminuza ya Texchologiya asobanura ko iyo habaye ukutamenya neza ikoranabuhanga ry'ikoranabuhanga rya Texas hamwe n'uwanditse.
Nk'uko Tichman abitangaza, na we yize gushidikanya, abahanze cyane kubuza kandi bahanganye neza no kutamenya neza abantu bahuje ibintu. Niba warahagaze, ibaze wowe ubwawe, waba ufite imyanzuro cyangwa ugashaka ibibi. Hariho ubundi buryo bwo kureba uko ibintu bimeze? Urashobora gutekereza kumuntu ushima, hanyuma uteke uburyo uyu muntu ahanganye n'imihangayiko, uko yasubizaga uko yashubije iki kibazo. Abantu Kuborahuri bafite kimwe cya kabiri cyubusa, ntugahangayike: ntibisobanura ko ugomba guhora utekereza ko ibintu bizagenda neza. Tichman agira ati: "Nta nzira iboneye yonyine yo gutekereza ku bihe, kubera ko ibisabwa n'ibisabwa bigenda bihinduka."
KWOLONCETION KUBONA IRASHOBORA KANDI ZIKOMEYE - Ndetse no mubihe byayo. Gerageza ikintu gishya, ibyo utakoze mbere, byifuzwa ko untera ubwoba gato. Dr. Tichman yagerageje gusimbuka afite parasute no kuri Tarzanque kwitonganya, ariko ntukeneye kugera kure. Urashobora kwandika gusa ubutumwa kumuntu uherutse guhura kandi wifuza gushaka inshuti. Umurongo wo hasi nugukora ikintu utumva neza icyo ibintu byose birangiye, kuko bigutera kwihanganira gushidikanya.
Tichman agira ati: "Urashobora kubikora. "Ntibingora, ariko ntibiteje akaga." (Nibyiza, niba udahisemo siporo ya parasute.)