Hamwe no kwita ku mwana, abantu babaye ababyeyi ku mubiri, mu buryo bwemewe n'amategeko, ariko kwitegura imitekerereze akenshi ntibigaragara. Amarangamutima y'ababyeyi araboneka kenshi: ababyeyi nibyiza kwihanganira kunyurwa nabana babo bakeneye kumubiri no kubintu bikenewe, ariko icyarimwe ntibabona rwose amarangamutima.
Nkuko mubizi, ababyeyi bitwaje inshingano zuzuye kubana babo: kumubiri, amategeko, mu mahanga, mu gihugu, mu mitekerereze, mu mitekerereze, no kumenya iki kintu byerekana amarangamutima yabo. Kugirango iterambere ryumwana, ntabwo ari ngombwa gukora ibintu gusa, ahubwo ni ukumva, kubyumva no kuyifata. Ubwana muguhagararira abantu benshi nigihe cyuzuye umunezero, ibitekerezo, ibitangaza, guhobera n'amabanga. Ibi ni ikizere - "Ndakura kandi mba abantu bakuru batsinze nkababyeyi banjye. Nzahora mfasha, inkunga, ubuyobozi. " Umwana arakura yinjira mu isi, yishingikirije ku bantu bakuru, hanyuma wenyine. Kandi umuntu mukuru mugitangira inzira agomba kuba yizewe rwose.
Ariko, mubuzima akenshi bibaho ukundi. Ababyeyi babona umwana mubice byubuzima bwabo bitera inzitizi, bisaba igihe n'amafaranga. Hanyuma umwana wacitse intege aho guhumurizwa akenshi yumva: "Ubu uzaceceka nonaha." Bibaho kubera ko abantu bakuru batiteguye kuba ababyeyi, ariko bagomba gufata uru ruhare. Birumvikana ko hariho ibihe bishimishije mumiryango nkabo: umunezero nubwibone kubana babo, umunezero wimyidagaduro. Ariko ni ikindi kintu kibi. Igihe kinini, ababyeyi bafite ibyiyumvo bidafite ishingiro kandi mubyukuri ibintu bibi. Nigute ushobora gufata wenyine no mubimenyetso bikikije amarangamutima adakuze amarangamutima? Irangwa nuburyo "abana" batekereza no gusubiza ibibazo bitewe no kwitegura gufata icyemezo.
Amarangamutima y'ababyeyi badakuze:
- Erekana impungenge zirenze amarangamutima kubintu bito
- akenshi bashira abana kubibazo byabo, ariko ntabwo biteguye kubatega amatwi
- bakunze kutwitaho kandi ntibitaye kubana babo
- Nkurugito, ntukabane n'ibyiyumvo by'abandi bantu - ntukabitekerezeho
- kwigirira icyizere, kuko ntabwo yashakaga kwisesengura no gutekereza ku ruhare rwabo mu bihe bimwe cyangwa ikindi
- Wifuze wenyine. Nibintu muri rusange biranga abantu bose badakuze amarangamutima.
- Kimwe nabana, gukunda kuba ishingiro ryo kwitabwaho.
Ingaruka kubana
Kubera kwangwa n'ababyeyi, umwana ntazizeye bihagije. Niba umubyeyi atinyaga ibyiyumvo byimbitse, noneho ahari umwana (ingimbi, hanyuma umuntu mukuru) azaba afite ubwoba nisoni kubera ko akeneye inkunga. Abagabo n'abagore badafite uruhare ruhagije mu bwana mu bwana, bizera ko kugira ngo bikenewe, bagomba kugira uruhare, mu gihe ibindi bintu byabandi bikenewe buri gihe.
Gukosora ibintu
Ati: "neza" ntabwo bizakora ijoro ryose. Ariko niba utekereza kumarangamutima yawe adakuze, noneho byari bimaze gupfa.
Gukomeza iyi nzira, ugomba kugerageza:
- Kuvugana nawe ubwawe: "Umubyeyi hano ndiho, bityo ugenzure amarangamutima yanjye. Guhugura kwifata, umuziki, kubyina, siporo irakwiriye;
- Reka kugereranya umwana wawe hamwe nawe cyangwa abandi bana. Umuntu wese arihariye kandi afite iherezo rye;
- Emerera umwana gutanga inama, fata, noneho bizoroha kumenya ababyeyi;
- Kutagira uruhare muburyo butandukanye bwo kurenge, cyane cyane ibintu bishya. Mugihe habaye ingorane, kwiringira abanyamwuga (psychologue, inzobere zagaragaye);
- ikibazo icyo ari cyo cyose kumenya nkubunararibonye no gutera imbere.
Kandi ntiwumve, soma igitabo cy'abanyamerika bo mu mutwe wa Amerika Lindsay K. Gibson "abana bakuze badakuze amarangamutima y'ababyeyi." Muri, umwanditsi atubwira mu buryo burambuye uko destructively ingaruka ku bana be ababyeyi batazi uburyo bwo gucunga ibyababayeho no kwihanganira inshingano yuzuye kuko ubuzima bwabo, barimo vy'akanyengetera.
Amarangamutima y'ababyeyi y'ababyeyi ntabwo bibaho gusa, ahubwo aboneka kenshi. Nturi wenyine mubibazo byawe. Umaze gutangira gukora wenyine nonaha, utanga amahirwe menshi kumugabo ukuze udafite amakimbirane yimizizi yubwana, gukomeretsa namakosa.
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