Ntamuntu numwe wifuza kwizirika kumuntu, hanyuma ukababara. Ariko, urukundo rwumuntu wese rushobora kubaho mu rukundo rwibeshye. Ariko abatezimbere ba psychologue batanga inama eshanu kugirango bafashe kwirinda imikino yanyuma!
Nigute ushobora kubaka umubano no kwishima murukundo
Izi nama eshanu ziva muri Inzobere zizafasha kubaka umubano uhuza kandi ntukibeshye.
1. Wige gutandukanya urukundo mu biyobyabwengeKugirango dusuzume hysterics, ishyari nubutagira iherezo ryumubano nibimenyetso byurukundo. Abahanga mu by'imitekerereze yizeye ko amarangamutima ayo ari yo yose, agatera ububabare, ntaho ahuriye n'amarangamutima meza kandi meza. Urukundo rugomba kuba rwihigi, kandi niba umugabo adahuje ibyiyumvo byumugore, noneho ahinduka igitambo. Kandi umuntu wese wabayeho gukunda adasubiwemo, yagombaga guhura nubunararibonye, ububabare nibibi.
Tekereza ko bikwiye kwiyubaha, gupfobya kwihesha agaciro no kurira kubera amahirwe yawe mabi, niba uri mubi kuruhande rwumuntu? Birashoboka ko wavuganye numuntu mubi. Ntugahitemo umwanya wahohotewe, hanyuma umva ko ibintu byawe byose bishobora kuba ingaruka zuko uhura numufatanyabikorwa gusa, kandi ibi ntibisobanura ko ubikunda. Mu mibanire igomba gutegeka.
Abantu bamwe bashaka rwose urukundo, ariko ntibatekereza uko bikwiye. Mu mibanire igaragara ishyari, kugenzura no kutizerana, kandi umwe mu bafatanyabikorwa azababara rwose. Ariko abahanga mu bya presschologiste bongeye kwibanda ku kuba imyumvire yaka kandi nziza igomba kugira umunezero no gufasha abantu babiri kuba mwiza. Ariko nta kintu na kimwe kinyuranye!
Niba udashobora kumenya ibyiyumvo byawe wenyine, hamagara psychologue kugirango igufashe. Urumva ko bashingiye kumuntu? Watsinze ibintu, ishyari kandi uragerageza kugumana ibintu byose mugihe gikwiye? Noneho ukeneye gusa gushyira ingingo muriyi nkuru vuba bishoboka. Dukora impamvu zibintu nkibi byamarangamutima hamwe ninzobere cyangwa gerageza kubimenya muri byose wenyine.
3. Sobanukirwa nuko urukundo nyarwo ruza mugihe rukunda cyane umuntu rugendaUmunsi umwe, buri mugore (nka buri mugabo) yumva ko murukundo atari ahantu ho kurira, ikinamico, stomal na hysteries na hysteries na hysteries na hysteries na hysteries na hysteries na hysteries. Abantu bakunda amarangamutima nkamarangamutima biragoye kongera kuvugurura umwanya wabo. Ukimara kubona kumva ko neurose gusa itabemerera kubaho mubisanzwe kandi bujuje ibisabwa, byose bizahinduka.
Abafatanyabikorwa ba psychologue bavuga ko urukundo rurangira iyo umwe mubafatanyabikorwa akora kubyumba icya kabiri. Emera, niba umuntu adusuzuguye, ibitutsi cyangwa aseka ko ari ngombwa kuri twe, noneho twumva tutishimye, ntamuntu numwe udakenewe kandi wongeyeho intege nke. Niba kandi umufatanyabikorwa abikora hamwe nawe, kandi urakwihanganira, ntibishoboka ko hari ahantu ho gukundana mubucuti.
Kuri bamwe, umubano wabaye agakiza kuburungu. Muri psychology bagereranywa nabana bato. Nabo, nkaho abana, igihe cyose gisaba ababyeyi babo ibimenyetso byurukundo, ariko ubwabo ntibishoboye kwerekana ibyiyumvo.
Imyitwarire nkiyi yerekana amarangamutima. Gusa umuntu uri mu mwenda ugerageza kurohama kumva ufite irungu, batera inzara amarangamutima. Muri icyo gihe, umuntu ntacyo atwaye uko bizarangirana n'imibanire nibyo umufasha azumva.
5. Ba umuntu ushaka kubaka umubanoUrukundo rubabaza, kwishingikiriza kuri mugenzi wawe bituma umugore yumva ameze nkaho adashobora kubyitwaramo muri ubu buzima. Ntazi kuba wenyine hamwe na We: birarambirana kandi bidashimishije. Umukobwa asa nkaho yumvikana adafite umugabo. Waba uzi ukurikiza ayo marangamutima? Umuntu utikunda wenyine, nubwo atabizi. Umukobwa utazi kubaka umubano nawe azagorana cyangwa adashoboka kubabubaka nabandi.
Ubu bwoko bwabahagarariye imibonano mpuzabitsina neza biteguye kugwa mu bwihebe igihe icyo aricyo cyose. Nubwo bagerageza gute kugaragara ko bikomeye, abigira neza nabakunzi, hirya no hino baracyumva ko badakunda.
Ntukishingikirize kuri mugenzi wawe, kandi noneho urashobora kwishimira urukundo! Ntukirebe hirya no hino kugira ngo uryozwe mu kunanirwa kwawe. Wibike wenyine mubyiyumvo byawe no gutangira, uhindure umubano nawe. Iyo wishimiye kuba muri sosiyete ukunda, noneho ikikije izahindura imyumvire yawe.
Noneho uzi icyo gukora kugirango wishime mu rukundo!
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