Nthawi zambiri timalankhula za makolo (ndipo makamaka amayi) ndikofunikira kuti tisaiwale kudzisamalira. Ndipo ngakhale lingaliro lakudzisamalira limamveka bwino komanso lomveka, lingaliro lamakono limawoneka labwino komanso losavomerezeka.
Wolemba Buku la Lero la Erin Erin Pepler adalemba mzere wokwiya womwe udalemba kuti gulu lamakono (ndipo makamaka otsatsa) amakoka kwambiri pa amayi awo owoneka bwino kwambiri. Apa pali zomwe Percheche adalemba:
Sindikudziwa kuti zingakhale zosangalatsa ndani, koma kudzisamalira ndi zopanda pake.
Chabwino, si zonse zomwe zimalumikizidwa nazo - zopanda pake, koma zochuluka. Makamaka ngati inu muli mkazi, ndi zoyipa - amayi.
Lingaliro lodzisamalira, ndizomveka, zabwino kwambiri. Maganizo, thupi, malingaliro, opanga, auzimu - auzimu - aliyense wa ife ali ndi zosowa, ndipo ndikofunikira kuti tizisamalira mbali zanu.
Anthu akamati "kuchokera ku chikho chopanda kanthu sichidzagwera" kapena "kuvala chigoba choyambirira", tikumvetsetsa kuti izi ndi zowona. Sitingasamalire ana athu ngati tidziona tokha. Koma nthawi zambiri zimawoneka ngati zosatheka.
Lingaliro loti "musadzisamalire" (kudzisamalira) zokhudzana ndi nkhondo yaboma ndi ufulu wa amayi mu 60-70s.
Pali mawu odziwika omwe wolemba waku America ndi Alentrey Hulrey Jubuyey:
"Kudzisamalira wekha si whim, kumadziteteza ndi kuchita zandale."
Koma tsopano lingaliro ili lakhala mawu a mafashoni, omwe amagwiritsidwa ntchito ngati chida chotsatsa okwatirana ngati chakuti kupsinjika kwathu kudzatha ngati titapeza chakudya choyenera cha madzi kapena chikho cha malasha.
Adayenda mpaka pamlingo wa hashtegov pansi pa zodziyimira komanso zotsatsa.Anakhala mawu osonyeza manichire ndi sabata ku Spa. Green Movemoe pambuyo pa yoga. Magalasi a vinyo patatha tsiku lalitali.
Kukhala woona mtima, zinthu zambiri izi ndizokongola. Ndimakondwera ndi Manciure ndi ine kunyumba yokwanira khungu kuti mutsegule sitolo yanu. Ndimakonda vinyo ndipo ndimakonda yoga nthawi ndi nthawi. Sindikunena kuti sitiyenera kuchita chilichonse kuchokera pazomwe zalembedwa - Damn, ndikufuna kuzichita kangapo.
Koma ichi ndi tanthauzo latsopano lodzisamalira - limayamwa.Zimatipatsa china chake chosakhalitsa komanso chabodza, pomwe zambiri zopumira sizipita kulikonse.
Palibe maphunziro kapena ma pedicure amenewa, omwe angapulumutse ku kusowa tulo, adawonjezeranso ndalama ku akaunti yanu ya banki kapena ma tatrax angapo tsiku lanu lokwanira kwambiri.
Kwina kumeneko (inde, mwa kuchuluka kulikonse,) kuli mayi, yemwe sanalembere yekha miyezi yambiri.
Iwalani za tchuthi chapamwamba - akufuna kugona kwa nthawi yayitali kuposa maola atatu ndipo wokonzeka kupha munthu kuti atuluke munyengo, kapena m'mawa wa khofi ndipo popanda kupempha kosalekeza kwa ana.
Ndikuganiza kuti palibe chowopsa povomereza kuti zopempha zathu za chisamaliro ndizotsika kwambiri. Amayi a mwana wakhanda angathandize ngati wina atatenga mwana wake kwa mphindi khumi (khumi!) Kuti athe kudya chakudya chake pomwe adakhazikika.
Mwinanso kukhala oona mtima mpaka kumapeto, timangofunika kanthawi pang'ono kuti tikwere kuyeretsa mano, ku phwando kwa dotolo, kupita kwa zisudzo kapena kulankhula ndi abwenzi, osasokoneza abwenzi, osasokoneza.
Sindikufuna kusamalira kuyang'ana ngati ntchito - tiyeni tisinthe.Ndikufuna kudzisamalira ndekha: kuphatikiza, kuphatikizidwa komanso pagulu. Awa ndi omwe a Cliché adavomereza kuti kuti abzale mwana, muyenera kumudzi wonse womwe ukugwirizanitsa azimayi ndipo amathandizira mabanja kukhala ndi moyo.
Dziperekeni kuti atenge mwana woyandikana naye kuti azichezera ndikuyitola kuchokera pamenepo, ndikuvomera kuti akuthandizeni sabata yamawa.
Thandizo ndikulola kuti muthandizire.
Thandizani m'mudzi mwanu ndi njira zilizonse zomwe zikupezeka, koma musaiwale kuti mutha kunena, mukapanda kutero. Timabadwa ouma, koma izi sizitanthauza kuti tiyenera kukhala ndi nkhawa mpaka mumwalira. Titha kuchepetsa tempo ndikuyimitsa.
Ngakhale kuti Pepchae adafotokoza mwatsatanetsatane kuti sizinali choncho ndi malingaliro amakono odzisamalira, adapereka yankho limodzi lokha lothetsa vutoli - kupempha anthu amderali komanso pozungulira.
Ndipo ngakhale m'mawu mawu zimamveka zomveka bwino komanso zachikondi pang'ono, zenizeni (makamaka zenizeni zaku Russia), kusankha uku sikupezeka kwa aliyense.Tinayesetsa kupeza malingaliro ena odzisamalira omwe safuna kusungitsa tsiku loti tisatuluke ndi yoga ndi pilates, ndipo tinakhazikitsa positi yabwino pa blog. Wolemba wa Brandy Jeeter adalemba njira yonse yosonyezera chikondi mwa iwo yekha pakati pa chizolowezi cha tsiku ndi tsiku, ndipo tidasankha zosankha zomwe timakonda.
Ndi zomwe zinachitika:Lowani dokotala (ndikupita ku phwando).
Ikani nthawi yokhazikika ya ana kuti mukhale ndi nthawi yopuma komanso kupuma.
Pitani kukagona nthawi yabwino.Funsani wina kuti akukonzekerereni kamodzi pa sabata. Simuyenera kuchita kuti musankhe chilichonse (ndi njira, mkati mwa mliri pali ntchito zotsika mtengo kwambiri zapakhomo).
Pezani zosangalatsa. Itha kukhala chinthu chomwe mungachite kunyumba - mwachitsanzo, kuluka kapena kujambula.
Chitani zogonana zabwino. Ngati tsopano sakhala wotere, wobalalika, vuto ndi chiyani, ndipo sankhani.
Valani m'mawa uliwonse, ngakhale mutakhala kuti simukufuna kupita kulikonse. Mutha kunyamula zovala zokongola zomwe mudzakhala omasuka.
Ngati mtundu wina wa nyumba umakupangitsani kukhala woposa theka la ola, pemphani thandizo.
Kumwa madzi.Idyani zotsekemera zokhazokha ngati zamiyala yapamwamba, yokoma.
Thandizani kulumikizana ndi anzanu.
Ponyani zovala zanu zakale. Samalani zomwe muli kwenikweni, zimawoneka bwino komanso zimakhala molondola.
Lankhulani "Ayi" Nthawi zambiri monga momwe mungafunire.Anthu akamafunsa momwe mukuchitira, auzeni zonse mwatsatanetsatane, makamaka ngati mukuyenda bwino.
Dzikhululukireni zomwe mwachita m'mbuyomu.
Yendetsani malingaliro kwa anthu pafupi ndi zomwe mukumva bwino.
Osadikirira anthu kuti adziwe zomwe mukufuna. Auzeni.Mwina lingaliro lalikulu pano ndichakuti nkhawa yanu isakhale nthawi imodzi, kamwadzidzidzi, mwadzidzidzi - usiku wina, nthawi ina, ndizosatheka kupuma chaka chonse cha lamulo.
Kudzisamalira nokha kuyenera kukhala chizolowezi chochita zinthu mwachidule chomwe chimakuthandizani omwe amakuthandizani tsiku lililonse - ndipo sikuti ndikugwiritsa ntchito mamiliyoni pa zodzola kapena njira zochepa. Ndipo, chifukwa, chifukwa munthu aliyense amadzidera nkhawa ali payekha, chinthu chachikulu pano chingapeze njira zosayenera kubwezeretsanso zinthu zanu komanso zomwe zimawapatsa moyo wokhazikika.