Thandizo limodzi limawononga stereotypes
Chifukwa chiyani pamwezi sikuti ndi "Zochita Za Akazi" zokha, ndipo chifukwa chiyani ayenera kuda nkhawa anyamata ngati atsikana? Kungofunika kusamba, zomwe ziyenera kukhala zobisika komanso zomwe muyenera kuchita manyazi, zimakhulupirira ndi mayi wa achinyamata awiri a Tara.
Mu Seputembala 2019, mayi wonenedwa m'chigawo chotsekedwa pa Facebook, kuti ana ake aamuna - ma t-wazaka 16, wazaka 16 - nthawi zonse pamakhala ma tampings mwadzidzidzi amafunikira abwenzi awo kapena anzanu akusukulu.
Kwa maola angapo, post adalemba zoposa 65,000 ndipo ndemanga zambiri ndizothandiza. Umu ndi momwe Tara ananenera za zomwe adakumana nazo pa mzati wa Cafemom.
Zoona zake: Malinga ndi UNICEF, 26 peresenti ya anthu padziko lapansi ndi msambo. Iyi ndi kotala limodzi la tonsefe. Ndipo ngakhale izi, azimayi ambiri ndi atsikana angakuuzeni kuti ngakhale kuti akulankhula mofatsa kuti afano ndi Taboo. Koma ngati amayi ake aamuna wazaka ziwiri ndi ana awiri aamuna awiri, ndikhulupirira kudzasintha.
M'mbuyomu mwezi uno ndinayika chithunzi cha gulu lotsekedwa pa Facebook, ndipo adayang'ana positi adakhala virus. Ndidapanga chithunzichi mu malo ogulitsira komwe timapita kukagula chaka chatsopano. Iye analemba kuti: "Anyamata anga masiku ano andithandizabe kugula. - Ndani adaphatikizanso ma bras woyamba mlongo wawo wamng'ono. "
Ndipo kenako ndidawonjezera:
Ana anga onse m'chakudya ali pa Tampon ndi gasket, ngati akufuna wina kuchokera kwa anzawo. Ndine mayi okha amene amayesa kuchotsa jendao!
Pambuyo pa bukulo, post adayamba kukhala ndi mawu ndipo adayambitsa mwachangu. Tara akukumbukira kuti: "Positi idalandilidwa. "Ndipo anauzira akazi ali ndi zaka makumi anayi, makumi asanu ndi limodzi, makumi asanu ndi limodzi kuti agawane nkhani zowawa kuyambira ubwana wake, pomwe anali kungofunira ukhondo, koma sanakhaleko."
Mayi wina anakumbukira nkhani ya momwe iye, pokhala msungwana, "anapirira zovala, ndipo mnzake adamupatsa iye khungu lake kuti amungire m'chiuno. Amakumbukirabe kukoma mtima kwake.
Komabe, panali nkhani zambiri zokhudzana ndi manyazi, manyazi komanso kusowa thandizo. Akazi osawerengeka adauzidwa za abambo ndi amuna omwe "sanapite ku shopu yaukhondo." Olemba ndemanga adanyoza kuyesa kusintha njira yachikale mpaka mwezi.
Ndizowonekeratu kwa ine: kusambabe kumakhalabe kwa faboo yayikulu, komwe sitinathe kuti tichotse - koma ndimachita chilichonse kuti tisambe amuna omwe akuwononga.
Kutaya kwachitika, "ndidafotokozera ana anga anga. - Amachita mantha kwambiri ndipo amatha kukhala owopsa. Thandizani apa kukhoza kukhala kukoma mtima ndi kumvetsetsa kuchokera kwa aliyense. Khalani munthu uyu.
M'malo mwake, matupi athu amangopanga zomwe zimapangidwira. Ndiye chifukwa chiyani tiyenera kukhala achinyengo?
Nditayamba kulankhula nawo za chaka chathachi nditawerenga nkhani yokhudza munthu wina, yemwe panthawi yomwe kampeniyo paulendo wa Appalachi adapereka tampon kuchikwama kwake. Zinalembedwa kuti ananenanso zina ngati kuti: "Palibe chowopsa, ndinakulira ndi amayi anga ndi alongo anga ..." - Ndipo zinandidabwitsa kwambiri ndi moyo wathu.
Nthawi ina ndinatsogolera mgalimotomo ndipo ndikuyang'ana ana anga aamuna mugalasi loyang'ana kumbuyo, mosasamala adawauza kuti avale tampon m'matumba awo momwemo, ngati abwenzi awo amafunikira thandizo ladzidzidzi. Amawoneka kuti akuganiza za izi, ndipo sananene chilichonse, chabwino, chifukwa ndi achinyamata.
Kusintha kumeneku kunabwera pamene "thandizo" lotereli amafunikira mnzake Eja, ndipo "anatsatiridwa" kusukulu. Kuyambira tsiku lomwelo Eliya adayamba kuvala tampon tambala ndi gasket mchikwama chake, ndipo Mike adachitanso chimodzimodzi. Kenako, Shirt adauza abwenzi ake apamtima kuti, ngati kuti, m'Cocker wake pali sweatshirt spart, komanso m'mbuyo mwake.
Tara anati: "Koma Eliya adanena za abwenzi ake onse: anyamata onse, ndi atsikana onse. Ananenanso kuti, ngakhale kuti anyamata ena amasangalala ndi iye, ambiri amati "ozizira, dude." Anaonanso kuti atsikana ake adalitenga mowonekera, ndipo adamulangiza kuti asunge ukhondo wina mgalimoto.
Moyo ndi anyamata achichepere ali munthawi yopanda matope, kukulira kwa njala, kung'ung'udza, kuseka komanso kuseka mphindi zazing'ono, zophunzitsira zachangu - monga izi.
Zomwe mungachite kuti muwathandize kumvetsetsa zomwe ndizofunikira (mwachitsanzo, momwe mungathandizire anzanu kukhala otetezeka, tsatirani malo omwe muli nacho komanso chitetezo chambiri, nthawi, ndipo inde - kutulutsa) - kumamveka.
Ndipo mukamasintha zinthu zonsezi, kukambirana nawo pafupipafupi, amakhala abwinobwino kwa ana anu.
Ndikukhulupirira kuti nthumwi za onse a jenda, kuphatikiza ana anga, adzadziwa kuti ana anga aamuna ali ndi vuto laukhondo ngati angawafunikire. Koma ndizochulukirapo ndikukhulupirira kuti zochitira zazing'onozi zisintha momwe ophunzira a kusekondale amazindikira kuti ndi mutu wonse.
Timasilira kutsimikiza mtima kwa Tara ndi ana ake ndipo timakhulupirira kuti posachedwa malembedwe owoneka bwino onena za ena adzapezeka m'masukulu aku Russia.
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