Momwe Mungalankhulire Chinsinsi Pagulu: Njira 6

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Mupeza msonkhano watsopano kuntchito, ndipo umapangitsa mantha mwa inu. Koma ngati mukufuna kupita patsogolo, ndikofunikira kukhala ndi chidaliro pagulu.

Cholinga choterechi chidakhazikitsidwa ndi m'modzi mwa makasitomala anga, Ellison, pomwe tidayamba kugwira naye ntchito. Anandibwereka ndi funso kuti: "Chifukwa chiyani ndili wamantha chifukwa cholankhula pamsonkhano?"

Ellison anali katswiri wodziwa ntchito yaunber, ndipo zomwe zidamuchitikira zinali zodziwika kwambiri kuti idaleredwa mu ofesi.

Udindo watsopano unali wosangalatsa ndikutsegula mwayi waukulu pantchito yake. Koma zomwe anali nazo nthawi zambiri zikaoneka, zidamupangitsa nkhawa yake. Kuopa zokomera zikomo zilakolako zimenezi. Pomwe amafunikira kunena china chake, Ellison Chapel, adasinkhasinkha yankho kwa nthawi yayitali ndipo pamapeto pake adasokoneza china chake.

Pambuyo pake, adakumana naye ndipo adamva wachinyengo, osatha kukwaniritsa ntchito yake. Anafunitsitsa kukhala olimba mtima komanso samakonda kwambiri pamisonkhano komanso kuntchito yonse.

Kodi mukudziwa nkhani ya Ellison? Ngati ndi choncho, ndiye kuti simuli nokha.

Ogwira ntchito omvera pamisonkhano

Mavuto omvera ndi antchito abwino kwambiri omwe ali ndi nkhawa kwambiri ndikumva chilichonse. Anthu oterewa ndi pafupifupi 15-20%. Zochitika wamba zomwe zimapangitsa kuti kupsinjika pang'ono kwa munthu wamba kumatha kulephera kugwira ntchito yovuta, makamaka pokonzanso. Kutha kugwiritsa ntchito mosamala zambiri kumavumbula zotheka komanso maluso ambiri. Koma zikutanthauzanso kuchulukitsa kukhazikika komanso chizolowezi choganiza, makamaka ngati chikugwirizana ndi maweruzo kapena kuyerekezera kuchokera kwa anthu ena (mwachitsanzo, pamsonkhano kapena pamsonkhanowu).

Kodi muli ndi chidwi chotani?

Mutha kukhala ndi luso lozindikira, ngati mukugwirizana ndi zambiri izi:

• Ndikumva bwino kwambiri
• Ndili ndi chikhumbo champhamvu chopita "zoyembekezera" m'mbali zonse za moyo wanga
• Ndili ndi kutsutsa kwamkati komwe kumagwira ntchito popanda masiku
• Ndili wokoma mtima, wachifundo ndi kumvera ena chisoni
• Nthawi zambiri ndimaika zosowa za anthu ena kuposa anu
• Ndimapereka mosavuta
• Sindingathe "kuletsa" malingaliro, chifukwa nthawi yonse imadzaza ndi malingaliro
• Ndikumva bwino
• Ndikumva kuda nkhawa ndikazindikira kuti ndikadadziwa kapena ndikudziwa zomwe mumayang'ana kapena kundiyesa
• Ndimatsatira mfundo zapamwamba komanso kudzitsutsa ndekha ndikalakwitsa
• Nthawi zambiri ndimakhala ndi vuto komanso kuzizira
• Ndimalandira ndemanga ndi kutsutsidwa

Mavuto omvera sakumana ndi misonkhano, chifukwa:

• Mumakonda kumvera malingaliro a anthu ena
• Mumakonda kuwona ndikumvetsetsa zomwe zikuchitika musanafotokoze malingaliro anu.
• Muli ndi lingaliro labwino kwambiri, ndiye kuti mumawonetsa mwaulemu kwa atsogoleri
• Mumakonda kudziletsa, zomwe zikutanthauza kuti anzanu ogwirizana amatha kuthana ndi zokambirana
• Mumatayika mosavuta ndipo mutha kudzipereka mukapanikizika.
• Mutha kuganiza mozama ndikuwona mbali zonse za momwe nthawi zina zimakhalira kumangoganiza mozama
• Ndiwe wosamala kwambiri komanso ndimakhala ndi nkhawa ndi zomwe ena amaganiza za inu.

Njira zolankhula zolimba pamisonkhano

Ma fean ndi stuptor pamsonkhano wotsatira ndi kumverera koyipa. Dziyang'anireni nokha; siziyenera kukhala. Mutha kutenga chilichonse choyendetsedwa ndikusiya chizolowezi chokhala chete.

Kukhala m'maganizo pantchito ndikofunikira kwambiri ngati mukufuna kukwezedwa. Mumagwira ntchito kwambiri, ndipo muli ndi malingaliro abwino - kotero muyenera kukhala otchuka kwambiri ndipo mwayenera kuzindikira.

Tsopano ndikugwiritsa ntchito pang'ono, pamapeto pake mudzadzimva kukhala wophatikiza gulu (muli ndi chiyani kale).

1. Chitani chisangalalo

Manja ndi shaky. M'mimba ndi owongolera. Mwadzidzidzi mwayamba kukayikira ngati dzina la kasitomala lalemba molondola pa dongosolo. Izi ndizofala kwambiri pamaso pa msonkhano. Uku ndikupanikizika kwachilendo pakuyembekezera mukaganiza kuti osonkhana adzawunikira nzeru zanu kapena zopereka zanu.

Katswiri wazamankhwala wochokera ku Stanolor Kelly McGosiga saganiza zoterezi ndi chizindikiro kuti simungathe kugwira ntchito ndi ntchitoyo. Amaganiza kuti achenjeze kucheza ndi zomwe anachita atapanikizika, amadzifufuza ndikuziwona kuti ndinu wofunitsitsa kuchita ndikuyesetsa kwambiri.

Ndikofunikanso kuchepetsa kuchuluka kwakomwe msonkhano usanachitike. Ellison, kasitomala, yemwe ndidakuwuzani kale, adagwiritsa ntchito njira yopumira kuti muchepetse.

2. Imirirani bwino

Pali chiyeso chobwera kumayambiriro kwa msonkhano kuwonetsa kuti mukufulumira, kapena pewani zokambirana zonyansa. Koma kumverera kwa kuthamanga kapena kusowa kwa nthawi kumangokulitsa nkhawa zomwe zilipo zomwe mukukumana nazo.

M'malo mwake, mangani buffer: khalani ndi mitambo mu msonkhano mpaka itayamba. Lolani kuti muzolowere kuholo. Ngati uku ndi kuwerenga, pasadakhale kwa webibir pasadakhale, sinthani maikolofoni ndi Webcam.

Monga ogwira nawo ntchito, amalankhula ndi m'modzi kapena awiri a iwo, omwe ali othandiza kwambiri ndipo amathandizira kuchepetsa kusamvana. Ndikofunikiranso kunena mawu oyambira oyambira kumayambiriro kwa msonkhano, kenako zokambiranazo zipita patsogolo. Izi zithandiza kuchepetsa nkhawa ndikupanga kulumikizana kukhalanso ochita zinthu.

3. Lankhulani posachedwa

Zidakuchitikirani kuti mudabwera kumisonkhano ndi malingaliro ndi dongosolo la zomwe mukufuna kunena, kenako ndikuwona, ndikuzindikira kuti nthawi yonseyo idakhala chete? Kukhala chete kumakupatsirani chimbalangondo. Msonkhanowu umatha, nthawi zambiri zimakhala zovuta kuti nawo azikambirana. Mukangoyembekezera, nkhawa yanu ikukula.

Nthawi zambiri, kukula kumachitika chifukwa cha kusapeza bwino, chifukwa chake adakakamiza kuyankhula molawirira. Dzikhazikeni nokha ntchito yosavuta: nenani china chake mu mphindi 10-15 - kupereka moni kwa onse, ndikupanga lingaliro lalikulu, funsani funso kapena kufotokoza lingaliro pa sentensi yatsopano yabizinesi. Iyi ndi njira yotsimikizika yolekanitsa zokambirana.

4. Gwiritsani Ntchito Mphamvu Zanu

Sikofunikira kukhala munthu wokweza pamsonkhano. Ngakhale ochita masewera olimbitsa thupi mwakachetechete amatha kukopa, kuthandizira ndemanga ya mawu osavuta: "Lingaliro lalikulu! Ndikuganiza kwenikweni zidagwira ntchito. "

Mutha kuyang'ananso pa kukhazikitsa mafunso ofunikira. Ogwira ntchito mwaluso ali odziwika kwambiri, omwe amawauza mafunso akuthwa omwe sanabwere kwa anzawo.

Njira ina yolimbikitsira zotsatirapo ngakhale msonkhano utamalizidwa - tumizani imelo kwa bwana, momwe mumafotokozera mwachidule mafunso opangidwanso kapena, perekani ntchito yatsopano yomwe ikukambirana. Mudzakhala ndi mbiri ngati munthu amene amapindula, ndipo mumakumbukira nthawi yomwe funso likabuka. Chofunika koposa, mudzapeza chidaliro.

Izi ndi zomwe Ellison adachita sabata yoyamba itatha ntchito. Atakhala ndi zida zatsopano komanso kulimba mtima, zomwe amapeza chifukwa chopera, iye akhoza kunena kuti: "Posakhalitsa ndikudzinyadira kuti ndimalimba mtima anzanga atsopano. Koma, koposa zonse, ndimayamikiridwa. "

5. Khalani oyamba kubwera

Kodi lingaliro lomwe limafunikira kafukufuku wowonjezerapo linabuka pamsonkhano? Chitani izi pamsonkhano wotsatira. Zisonyezera chidwi chanu komanso chidwi chanu. Ndipo izi zimakulolani kudzilimbitsa nokha kwa mkhalidwe womwe mukufuna. Mwadzipereka paokha - tsopano mukhale ndi chilimbikitso chochuluka.

6. Tsatirani Zomwe Mumakhulupirira

Utsogoleri wa anthu ambiri sangakhale ndiubwana, ndipo kusatsimikizika kumatha kutayikira mu machitidwe athu pakuchitika. Momwe mungagonjetsere zochitika zomwe zimakulepheretsani kukhala ndi chidaliro? Muyenera kumvetsetsa kwambiri malingaliro anu pankhani yodzidalira komanso zolankhula.

Kodi mudamva chiyani muubwana za anthu omwe amawonekera pakati pa enawo? Kodi makolo anu, aphunzitsi ndi mdera anati mutha kukhala omwe mukufuna, kapena mwakhala mukuphunzira kuti "anthu sakonda nkhawa"?

Ngati ndinu opanda kanthu kapena mukulingalira zokhudzana ndi malingaliro anu, lingalirani zomwe mungabwererenso kachiwiri mukadzidalira kwanu zimadalira anthu ena (makamaka odalirika).

Mukakhala ndi zomwe munganene, koma mukuwona kukayikira kwamkati, kuthokoza kutsutsidwa kwanu kwamkati poyesera kugwira ntchito yanga ndikukutetezani. Mantha amatha kusaina kuti munena chinthu chofunikira. Gwiritsani ntchito nthawiyo. Siyani kusewera bwino. Kumbukirani kuti mumatenga malo anu chifukwa ndinu oyenerera, othandiza komanso ofunikira.

Mavuto omvera amatha kupereka lingaliro kwa ena. Yakwana nthawi yoti munene za izi kwa aliyense.