Zachidziwikire, ndibwino kukhala mayi wachichepere pomwe okwera akunena kuti muli ndi mwana ngati mlongo ndi mchimwene wanga. Koma zimachitika nthawi zambiri kuti mimba imabwera pa nthawiyo ambiri akulema kale adzukulu. M'mayiko aku Europe, sipanakhalepo zoterezi ngati kutentha kwa zaka kwa nthawi yayitali, koma tidakali ndi zosokoneza zomwe muyenera kubereka mwana.
Akazi omwe adaganiza zodzakhala Amayi atangonena nkhani zawo.
"Amayi, Ndinu Okalamba"
Ifenso ndi amuna anga anali ndi ana awiri akulu kale. Ndakhala zaka 43, ndipo kuzungulira kunagogoda nthawi zonse, motero sindinasamale kuchedwa kotsatira. Koma nditayamba kundizunza m'mawa, nseru, kufooka, ndinathamangira kwa dokotala wazachipatala. Pa ultrasound ndinadziwitsa kuti ndakhala kale ndi milungu 12. Ndinadabwitsidwa, chifukwa ine ndi mwamuna wanga tinkatetezedwa nthawi zonse, ndipo sindinali kubala pa m'badwo umenewo. Koma kunalibe chochita, mawuwo anali akulu, ndipo mwamuna wanga anati, monga kudula:
"Popeza, ndi mfundo yake. Tinapambana, awiri analeredwa, ndipo wachitatu adzabweretsa. "Mavuto oyamba adayamba nditalembetsa ndi kutenga pakati pa kufunsana kwachikazi. Dokotala ndi namwino, osachita manyazi, amakambitsidwa udindo wanga ndikamadyetsa.
Ndidakhala chete, ngakhale ndimafuna kuti ndimufotokozere zomwe amachita mwanzeru, makamaka kwa odwala. Adokotala adadzaza khadi yosinthana ndikutsimikiza kuti ndikofunikira kuchiritsa thanzi lake mosamala komanso mosamala, chifukwa sindine ndi zaka 20.
Sindinadziwe momwe ndingadziwire achikulire kuti mwana awonekera posachedwa mu banja lathu. Koma adauzidwa ndi kumvetsetsa, akuthandizidwa ndipo ngakhale adatenga nawo mbali pakugula zinthu zonse zofunika kwa khanda. Mimba imachitika bwino, sindinakhale ndi mavuto anga. Nditangolowa kuchipatala kuti atetezedwe, koma, dotoloyu adalimbikitsidwa, chifukwa kunalibe zifukwa zazikulu zokhudzidwira. Mwana wanga wamwamuna wachitatu, mwana wamwamuna wokondedwa komanso wokondedwa komanso wokonda kwambiri adawonekera padziko lapansi.
Ndipita nthawi yomweyo, ndili mwana, ndizosavuta kuthana ndi mwana wakhanda. Ndi ana okulirapo, sindinathe kugona usiku, kenako ndikuyenda tsiku lonse, ndipo ndimamva nthawi yomweyo. Tsopano ndinali kovuta kwambiri. Kusagona tulo sikunali konse, manja ndi kumbuyo kumangiriza chifukwa cha kutukuka kosalekeza. Mwamuna ndi ana okulirapo anathandiza, koma komabe, komabe, tsiku lililonse ndinatopa.
Pakuyenda, ndinakumana ndi anthu ambiri omwe anali osawerengeka omwe anali atatopa kale. "Mdzukulu wako ndi uti?", "Agogo ake aamuna okongola", "bwanji amayi bwanji?" Kodi ndinu oganiza bwino? " - Mafunso ngati amenewa adanditsatira nthawi zonse. Mwana wake wamkulu wopulumutsidwa ndi mwana wake wamwamuna yemwe amayenda ndi mchimwene wake pomwe ndimatha kupumula kapena kuchita zinthu pafupi ndi nyumba.
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Ndinali ndi zaka 46 pamene mwana wanga wamwamuna amapita ku Kindergarten. M'chipinda cha Locker, tinakumana ndi makolo achichepere, omwe adaganiza kuti sindine mayi, koma agogo anga. Ndikukumbukira, mphunzitsiyo poyamba adanena kwa mwana wake kuti: "Agogo ake aamunawo adakulandirani." Kenako Vanya adapita kusukulu, komwe ndimapita kukatcha agogo anga. Mwana wamwamuna ankamuchitira modekha, chifukwa adadziwa kuti ndine mayi wokondedwa wake.
Malingaliro ake kwa ine asintha pamene ukalamba unayamba. Sindinkamvetsa kuti wachinyamata wake uja, sanamugule zida zankhondo zatsopano, ndipo zovalazo zinasankha zothandiza, osati zamakono. Mchimwene wakeyo anathandizidwa ndi mlongo wake, komabe pakati pa ine ndi Vanya anali osamvetsa chisoni. Tikakambirana za maphunziro amtsogolo a Mwana, sanamve zambiri, anali kusweka. Vanya adawombera ndikufuula:
"Zomwe Mungamvetse, Ndinu Okalamba. Anzanga anali mwayi, ali ndi makolo achichepere omwe mungawakwera njinga, kusewera mpira. Ndipo inu mumadandaula kuti mumadandaula za matenda ena ndi kukhala kunyumba. Chifukwa chiyani mwandipatsa konse pazaka zimenezo? Tikuyembekezera penshoni, ndipo zonse zikhala bwino. "
Zimapweteka mawu amenewa kuchokera kwa mwana wanu wokondedwa, koma ndinamvetsetsa kuti iye ndi wolondola. Tinali ochokera m'badwo wina ndipo sitinathe kupatsa mwana wa kulankhula kumene akafunika. Kenako Vanya, akupepesa chifukwa cha mawu ake, koma adakhalapo nthawi yambiri ndi mchimwene ndi mlongo wamkulu.
Koposa zonse, ndikuopa kusiya moyo ndipo alibe nthawi yochuluka. Nthawi zambiri ndimaganiza kuti sindingawone momwe zalaya zikuwonekera, adzakhala ndi ana ake, adzalandira malo omwe angafunikire kuntchito. Ndikuganiza kuti iyi ndiye gawo lalikulu la kukhala mayi mochedwa, chifukwa moyo umathamangira, ndipo ana amafunikira chisamaliro cha amayi ndi chidwi. Ine ndi amuna anga timayesetsa kulankhulana kwambiri ndi Vanya, ali ndi chidwi ndi zochitika zake. Ndikunena tsiku lililonse kuti ndimanyadira za iwo, ndimakonda ndipo ndimangofuna zabwino zokha.
Ndikudabwa: Zaka 40, koma palibe ana! Anthu otchuka aku Russia omwe sanakhale amayi
"Sindinakonzekere kukhala amayi"
Nditabadwa, amayi anga anali 23, abambo - 25. Ndinali ndi makolo achichepere, ndipo zinali zabwino. Titha kusangalala, kuthamanga, kusewera, kuchita zokopa, ndipo zidawoneka ngati amayi ndi abambo. Nditalowa ku yunivesite, ndinapereka lipoti ku America, ndipo, nditavomera. M'mayiko, chilichonse sichinakhalepo monga ife, komanso kwa miyezi ingapo kukhala mdziko lino, ndidazindikira kuti ndingalowe kupanga ntchito, ndipo ndiganiza za ukwati nthawi ina pambuyo pake.
Chifukwa chofuna kwake, ndinayamba kucheza ndi mnyamata. Amafuna kukwatiwa, pangani banja lachikhalidwe, pomwe mwamunayo adzalandira, ndipo mkazi watenga mnyumbamo ndikulera ana. Makolo anga sanasankhe molakwika chifukwa cha lingaliro langa, chifukwa amaganiza kuti ndikadzapita kumapazi awo ndi 20 ndidawapatsa kale mdzukulu kapena mdzukulu.
Ndikuganiza kuti muyenera kupanga banja mukakonzekera izi. Sindikumvetsa kuti makonzedwe awa a Soviet omwe mu 20 ndikofunikira kukwatira, ndipo patatha zaka 1-2 - kubereka mwana. Ndani amafuna? Ndinafunika kupeza malo anga m'moyo wanga ndili ndi zaka 20, kuti ndikwaniritse china chake chosakhala pakhosi la amuna anga.
Ndinkagwira ntchito ku kampani yayikulu ndi woyang'anira wotsogolera, kenako ndinakhala mutu wa dipatimenti. Ntchitoyi inali yopambana, ndinali ndi chipinda changa chomwe, galimoto, kangapo pachaka chomwe ndinathawa kuti ndipumule. Nthawi zonse makolo ankakwatirana nditakwatirana. Iwo amafuna zidzukulu ndipo sanasangalale ndi zopambana zanga konse. Tsiku lina, nditafika makolo anga, tinatsitsidwa.
"Ndimasankha moyo womwe ndimakonda. Kodi ana ndi zidzukulu ndi adzukulu - kodi ndi ntchito yokhayo ya munthu? Ndikhala mayi pomwe ndikufuna, osati chifukwa mumafuna zidzukulu, "sindikadangokhala chete ndikuwonetsa makolo anga zonse zomwe ndimaganiza.Kuyambira nthawi imeneyo, mafunso ochokera ku gawo lawo adayima.
Ndinali ndi zaka 37 pamene ndinakumana ndi mwamuna wanga wamtsogolo. Ndinali ndi moyo wolemera: ntchito, kulimba, kuvina, kuyenda, zosangalatsa zatsopano. Mwamuna wanga anali ndi zaka 40, ndipo anali wotanganidwa kwambiri ndi bizinesi yake. Sitinakonzekere ana, mwanjira ina zimagwirizana pasadakhale zomwe tikadakhala limodzi. Koma mimba yosayembekezereka idachitika ndili ndi zaka 40.
Sindinagwire ntchito kuchipatala pamalo okhala, koma ndinapita ku dokotala wanga wazamankhwala. Panali ndi miyezi 9. Dokotala wanga sanalole Iye kuti anene za zaka zanga. M'malo mwake, adandilimbikitsa, otamandidwa, akuti ndine mayi womuyembekezera kwambiri, chifukwa ndimakwaniritsa nthawi yake yonse.
Tinali ndi mtsikana wathanzi yemwe amabweretsa zambiri m'miyoyo yathu ndipo tinadzaza ndi tanthauzo lina. Sindikudziona ndekha mayi wokalamba, m'malo mwake, ndinali ndi mphamvu zambiri ndipo ndimafuna kupita patsogolo. Mwana wanga wamkazi atakhala wazaka 1, ndinapita kukagwira ntchito, ndipo makolo anga ndi Nanny anali atakhala ndi mwana. Mwana wobadwa patatha zaka 35 zadziwika mosiyanasiyana, zikuwoneka kwa ine. Kutuluka kwa munthu wamkulu, mumayamba kutengera moyenera, kuwerengera mphamvu zanu. Tsopano nditha kupereka ana ambiri aakazi, kugawana zokumana nazo, chidziwitso cha moyo. Ndimatsatira mawonekedwe anga ndikudziwa zomwe ndimawoneka wachichepere. Mwanayo akafunsa zaka zingati, ndikuyankha moona mtima. Nthawi zonse amalankhula kuti ali ndi mayi wokongola kwambiri komanso wotsutsa. Ndikukhulupirira kuti tipitiliza ndi atsikana ake, ngakhale kuli kusiyana kwakukulu.