Kodi chimatilepheretsa kukhala ndi moyo momasuka komanso mosangalala? Kodi mumaletsa kufalikira kwathu? Imaletsa ufulu wosankha? Timapitiliza kukambirana za kumvetsetsa kwa umunthu ndi njira zake zotetezera m'thupi la Gestalt.
Timachita zinthu zosiyanasiyana molimbika za sing'anga m'njira zosiyanasiyana. Koma choyambirira, chomwe chimatipatsa mwayi wodziwa kuti chiwakonde pano ndipo tsopano ndi kuchuluka kwa chisangalalo chathu. Chisangalalo ndi chiyambi cha kulumikizana, kuthekera kwa msonkhano. Ndi chisangalalo chanu - timatembenuza mosiyanasiyana - kutengera momwe tinaphunzitsira kulumikizana naye, ndikutengera zomwe mantha athu ndi ma alamu athu tili nawo lero.
Kuda nkhawa ndiye blocker yayikulu. Tiyerekeze kuti ndine wosungulumwa ndipo ndikufuna kukumana ndi munthu. Ndili ndi chisangalalo. Koma ndine wowopsa - mwadzidzidzi, ndikanakana kapena ndinyalanyaze?
Nditha kulola kukongola kwanga ndikugwiritsa ntchito mphamvu zake, yang'anani njira zokwanira kukwaniritsa zofuna zake. Ndipo ine nditha kuyimilira kwambiri kuti ndikusuntha mu kayendedwe kanga kuti ndikwaniritse chidwi chanu. Tiyeni tiwone mbali zomwe kulumikizana ndi njira zoletsa kukodzera komwe timagwiritsa ntchito.
Yambani. Kunali kumverera. Malingana ngati izi ... wopanda mawonekedwe. Zikuwoneka kuti ndikufuna kukumana ndi munthu ... Koma - ndikufuna kuti zisokonekere! Chabwino! Ndipo ndimaphatikizanso ndi gawo. Kuphatikizidwa kunandithandiza kuti ndibisike m'munda, osatanthauzira ngakhale chifukwa cha chisangalalo chake ...
Nthawi zina njirayi imandithandiza kwambiri. Mwachitsanzo, pamene malo a chilengedwe pano ndi tsopano chikhumbo changa sichingachite bwino. Koma ngati ine ndimachita izi ndi chisangalalo changa mumikhalidwe yayikulu, ndipo iyi ndi njira yanga yokhayo, ndimadziletsa poyambira kupezeka ...
Ngati gawoli ladutsa bwino, ndipo chikhumbo changa - mwachitsanzo, kuti mudziwe bwino munthu - zinali zomveka bwino kwa ine, nditha kukhalanso ndi nkhawa zochuluka kuti zinthu zisachitike. Ndipo ndimatha kudziletsa poti m'malo mofuna kuyamba kuchita chidwi cha wina.
Apanso, pali mikhalidwe yambiri yomwe ingapereke chikhumbo chanu ndi choyenera ndipo ndi yankho labwino kwambiri. Ngati ndili ndi mwayi woti mudzisankhire nokha - kuti mupite kukafunafuna kapena kuvomereza zokhumba za wina - zonse zili bwino. Koma ngati muli ndi mavuto anu, nthawi zonse ndimatha kuthana ndi nkhawa chifukwa ndimasintha zikhumbo zanga ndi zosowa za anthu ena - ndimaletseka ndipo sindingathe kukhala ndi moyo momasuka ... Njira iyi imatchedwa Kukakamira.
Mwachitsanzo, timapita ku disco ndi bwenzi, ndikuwona mnyamatayo, ndimamukonda, ndipo bwenzi langa andiuza kuti: "Fu, choyipa chachikulu bwanji! Kodi mwapeza chiyani? Won, onani - uyu ndiye munthu wabwino kwambiri! " Ndipo ndipita kukapita kumbali inayo, kutali ndi chidwi changa ... kapena ndidzamuuza kuti: "Inde, wopanda kanthu kake, koma ine ndimawakonda." - Ndiye iyi ndi nkhani yosiyana kwambiri ...
Kapena ndikupita ku cafe, ndipo amayi anga andiuza kuti: "SYI ndibwino kunyumba, palibe chomwe angalowe pa abulu pa anthu, kuwerenga bwino buku!" Nditha kuchepetsa amayi - nditakwanitsa zonse, ndimatha kumvetsera kwa iye nthawi zonse, ndipo ndimatha kunena kuti: "Amayi, ndili mwana wamkulu kale, ndipo ndimaganiza zoyenera kuchita tsopano. Zikomo chifukwa cha chisamaliro chanu, koma ndidzasambira, Amayi. "
Tikuganiza kuti gawoli ladutsa bwino, ndipo ndili pa disco kapena mu cafe. Ndipo ine ndimakonda munthu uyu. Chisangalalo chikuwonjezeka, ndipo ndimakhala chowopsa kwambiri ... Ndikumva bwino kwambiri. Nthawi yomweyo, ndili ndi malire. Chifukwa chake, malingaliro awonekera kale mwa ine. Ndipo apa, kuchotsa chisangalalo chochuluka komanso ... khazikani mtima pansi, nditha kuyamba kufotokozera zakukhosi kwanga zomwe mumakonda ...
Mwachitsanzo, chitetezo changa chomwe ndimakonda kwambiri pamavuto ndi abambo - yesani kuzinyalanyaza. Ndimamuyang'ana ndikuganiza: "Kodi mtundu wozizira chabe!" Kapena ndine wokwiya kuti ndi matenda - amayang'ana mbali inayo. Ndipo ndikumva bwino monga momwe Iye ndi woyipa ... Mwachilengedwe, machenjera onsewa omwe ndimachita mosasowa. Motsimikiza kuti ndendende zomwe ndimaganiza pansi pa zomwe ndimakonda.
Tikuganiza pafupifupi nthawi zonse. Makina awa amakhalabe athanzi mpaka njira yomwe ingachitike pokhapokha ngati zingachitike. Ngati ndikukakamira pakupanga kwanu, ngati ntchentche mu uchi - chilichonse, kulumikizana ndi zenizeni kumatha, ndipo kulumikizana ndi sing'anga kumasokonekera ...
Tiyerekeze kuti zagonjetsedwa gawo ili ... Amandiyang'ana, amandimwetulira. Timayamba kukambirana. Ndikufuna kwambiri kumuuza. Kapena ndikufuna kunding'amba. Koma choterocho! Ndingatani? Ndikuyambitsa kukambirana kwamkati ndi ine ... Ndipo ndimangokhala - ndimasweka bondo langa. Iye ndi zomwe ndikufuna kuti adzipangitse kudzipanga. Chifukwa ndimasokonezanso ... ndipo ndimatsitsa alamuli ndi reroxia - Umu ndi momwe zimatchedwa.
Chabwino, adavina, amalankhula - amandiperekeza. Ndiri m'malo mwa kupumula ndikusangalala ndi kuti munthu amandisangalatsa pandege yomweyo, ndimagwa nkhawa - ndikuyesera kuwona chilichonse: manja ake ali kuti? Zikuwoneka molawirira! Ndipo adzaganiza chiyani za ine tsopano? Ndipo adzafunsa foni yanga kapena ayi?
Nayi zopitilira zopitilira muyeso zomaliza ndi kuyesa kulosera zonse zowonedwa motsogozedwa. Pomwe, m'malo motsegula malire anu ndikupeza zomwe ndikufuna, timadzifunsa, ku Slamm ndi Kutulutsa Kulumikizana ...
Mu skey skey iyi, ndidayesetsa kumasulira malingaliro ovuta a psychology pachilankhulo cha munthu. Monga momwe ndimathandizira - kuti ndithetse ...
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