Palibe amene amafuna kuti azilumikizidwa ndi munthu, kenako nkumavutika. Komabe, chikondi cha aliyense chingachitike mwachikondi ndi cholakwika. Koma akatswiri azamankhwala amapereka malangizo asanu kuti athandizidwe kupewa zonena zake zazikulu!
Momwe Mungapangire Maubwenzi Moyenerera Ndipo Chenjerani Mwachikondi
Malangizo asanu ochokera kwa akatswiri adzathandizira kumanga ubale wabwino komanso osalakwitsa.
1. Phunzirani kusiyanitsa chikondi kuchokera ku zosokonezaKuti muganizire za ma Hoysters, nsanje ndi kumveketsa kosatha kwa ubale ndi zizindikiro zachikondi. Akatswiri azamisala ali ndi chidaliro kuti kutengeka kulikonse, kumapangitsa ululu, kulibe chochita ndi khungu. Chikondi chiyenera kukhala chokhacho, ndipo ngati munthu sagawana malingaliro a mkazi, ndiye kuti amakhala pachibwenzi. Ndipo aliyense amene wakhala wachikondi popanda kubweza, anakumana ndi zokumana nazo, zopweteka komanso zoipa.
Ganizirani ngati mukuyenera kudzidalira, kuti mudzinyengere komanso kulira chifukwa cha mwayi wanu, ngati muli oyipa pafupi ndi munthu? Mwina mwalumikizana ndi munthu wolakwika. Osasankha malo omwe akhudzidwayo, ndipo pamapeto pake mumvetsetse kuti zokumana nazo zonse zingakhale zotsatira za zomwe mukungokonda kwambiri mnzake, ndipo sizitanthauza kuti mumakonda. Pokhudzana ndi kulumikizana.
Anthu ena amafuna chikondi, koma osaganiza kuti chizikhala chiyani. Pokhudzana ndi nsanje, kuwongolera komanso kusakhulupirirana, ndipo m'modzi wa okwatirana nawo adzavutika. Koma akatswiri amisala amayang'ananso kuti kumverera kowala ndi kukoma mtima kuyenera kusangalala komanso kuthandiza anthu awiri kukhala abwino. Koma palibe chilichonse chomwe chatsutsana!
Ngati simungathe kudziwa nokha, kulumikizana ndi katswiri wazamisala kuti awathandize. Kodi mumaona kuti adalira munthu? Kodi mumathana ndi zokumana nazo, nsanje ndipo mukuyesera kusunga chilichonse nthawi zonse? Kenako mumangofunika kuyika mfundoyi posachedwa. Timakwaniritsa zifukwa zomwe zimachitikira limodzi ndi akatswiri kapena amayesa kuzilingalira pazonse.
3. Mvetsetsani kuti chikondi chenicheni chimabwera chisaliro chamunthuTsiku lina, mkazi aliyense (monga munthu aliyense) amamvetsetsa kuti mwachikondi si malo a misozi, sewero, wowopsa ndi ma raysters. Anthu omwe amakonda kusintha kofananako ndikovuta kusintha moyo wawo. Atangotha kumvetsetsa kuti neurosis samangowalola kukhala pafupipafupi komanso moyenerera, zonse zidzasintha.
Akatswiri azamisala amati chikondi chimatha pamene mmodzi mwa okwatirana agwira ulemu wachiwiri. Gwirizanani, ngati wina akutichititsa manyazi, mwano kapena kuseka kuti ndikofunikira kwa ife, ndiye kuti timakhala osasangalala, palibe amene ali wosafunikira ndipo kuphatikizaponso wofooka. Ndipo ngati mnzake achite ndi inu, ndipo inu muzizilolera, sizokayikitsa kuti pali malo achikondi muubwenzi.
Kwa ena, maubale amakhala chipulumutso chifukwa cha kusungulumwa. Mu psychology omwe amafanizidwa ndi ana ang'ono. Iwo, ngati ngati ana, nthawi zonse amafuna kwa makolo awo kuti azikonda chikondi, koma iwo sangathebe kumverera.
Khalidwe lotere limaonetsa kusakondana ndi mtima. Munthu wina m'magulu awiri amayesa kusokoneza kusungulumwa, kupangitsa njala. Nthawi yomweyo, munthuyo zilibe kanthu kuti zotsatira zakezo zidzatha bwanji ndi maubale komanso momwe mungamverere mnzake.
5. Khalani munthu amene mukufuna kumanga ubaleKukonda kowawa, kudalira wokondedwa kumapangitsa mkazi kumva ngati sangathe kulipirira m'moyo uno. Sakudziwa momwe angakhalire yekha ndi Iye yekha: kumakhala kotopetsa komanso osazindikira. Mtsikanayo akuwoneka kuti sakumveka wopanda munthu. Kodi mukudziwa amene akukhudzidwa ndi izi? Munthu yemwe sadzikonda yekha, ngakhale sazindikira izi. Mtsikana yemwe sadziwa momwe angapangire ubale ndi iye ungakhale wovuta kapena wosatheka kuwalimbikitsa ndi ena.
Mtundu wamtunduwu wogonana wabwino umakhala wokonzeka kusokonezedwa ndi nthawi iliyonse. Ngakhale atayesetsa bwanji kuti azioneka olimba, opambana ndi okondedwa, onse owazungulira akumvabe ngati sakonda.
Osadalira mnzakeyo, ndipo ndiye kuti mungasangalale ndi chikondi! Osayang'ana nokha kudzudzula chifukwa cha zolephera zanu. Modzitchinjiriza mu malingaliro anu ndikuyamba, sinthani ubale ndi inu. Mukasangalala kukhala mu kampani yomwe mumakonda, ndiye kuti yozungulira imasintha malingaliro anu kwa inu.
Tsopano mukudziwa zoyenera kuchita kuti musangalale ndi chikondi!
M'mbuyomu m'magaziniyo, tinalembanso: mawu 8 omwe munthu aliyense amalota kumva kuchokera kwa mkazi