Makolo oopsa amavulaza ana awo, amawachitira zachipongwe, kuvulaza, kuyambitsa. Osati kokha mwakuthupi, komanso mwamalingaliro. Amachita ngakhale mwana akakula.
Lembani 1. Makolo omwe amakhala olondola nthawi zonse
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Makolo oterewa samazindikira kuti kusamvera mwanayo, kuwonetsa bwino payekha monga kuwukira pawokha motero kumatetezedwa. Amanyoza mwana ndikuchititsa manyazi mwana, kuwononga kudzikuza kwake ndikuphimba ndi cholinga chabwino.
Kodi zimawonekera bwanji? Nthawi zambiri, ana a makolo oterewa amakhulupirira kulondola kwawo ndikuphatikiza kuteteza malingaliro:
Kunyalanyaza. Mwanayo ali ndi zenizeni zomwe makolo ake amamukonda. Kukana kumapereka mpumulo kwakanthawi komwe kumakhala kokwera mtengo: posachedwa kumabweretsa mavuto.
- M'malo mwake, amayi sandikhumudwitsa, amatsegula maso ake kuti asakondwere ndi chowonadi chosasangalatsa, "ana a makolo otero amalingalira nthawi zambiri.
Chiyembekezo. Ana omwe ali ndi mphamvu zawo zonse amakamatira ku nthano ya makolo abwino ndikudziimba mlandu m'mavuto awo onse:
- Sindine woyenera kukhala ndi ubale wabwino. Mayi anga ndi abambo angandifunira zabwino, koma sindimayamikira.
Kusinthasintha. Iku ndikusaka zifukwa zomveka pofotokozera zomwe zikuchitika kuti zisavute kukhala zopweteka kwa mwanayo. Chitsanzo: "Atate wanga anandifunsa kuti ndiziphunzitse kanthu."
Zoyenera kuchita? Podziwa kuti mwanayo sakuyenera chifukwa chakuti amayi ndi abambo amangoyamba kunyoza komanso kuchititsidwa manyazi. Chifukwa chake kuyesa kutsimikizira china kwa makolo oopsa, palibe nzeru. Njira yabwino yomvetsetsa momwe zinthu ziliri ndikuyang'ana maso a gawo lachitatu. Izi zikuthandizira kuzindikira kuti makolo sachita chidwi kwambiri ndikudziwitsa zochita zawo.
Lembani 2. Makolo omwe amachita modekha
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Dziwani kuwopsa kwa makolo omwe samenya ndipo musakhumudwitse mwana. Kupatula apo, kuwonongeka kwa nkhaniyi sikunayambike chifukwa cha zomwe anachita, koma osasamala. Nthawi zambiri makolo otere amakhala ngati ana opanda thandizo komanso osapindula. Amapangitsa kuti mwanayo akule ndi kupeza zosowa zawo.
Kodi zimawonekera bwanji? Mwanayo amakhala kholo la Iyemwini, azichimwene ndi alongo ake, amayi ake kapena abambo ake. Amataya ubwana wake.
- Kodi ndingayende bwanji ngati mukufuna kutsuka chilichonse ndikuphika chakudya chamadzulo? - Olga adalankhula zaka 10. Tsopano alitsiro, amaphwanya amake pachilichonse.
Ozunzidwa ndi makolo oopsa amamva kuwawa komanso kutaya mtima, pomwe sangathe kuchita zina kuti athandize banja.
"Sindingathe kuyika mchimwene wanga kugona, amalira nthawi zonse." Ndine mwana woyipa, - chitsanzo china pakuganiza kuti banja lino.
Mwana amavutika chifukwa chosowa mtima kwa makolo. Kukhala wamkulu, akukumana ndi mavuto ndi kudzizindikiritsa: Kodi ndi ndani, kodi zimafuna chiyani m'moyo? Zimandivuta kuti amange ubale.- Ndinkaphunzira ku yunivesite, koma zikuwoneka kuti izi si zapadera zomwe ndimakonda. Sindikudziwa kuti ndi ndani amene ndikufuna kukhala, - bamboyo agawidwa ndi zaka 27.
Zoyenera kuchita? Thandizani makolo kuti asatenge nthawi yambiri ndi mwana kuposa kuphunzira, masewera, amayenda, kulankhulana ndi abwenzi. Kutsimikizira kuti makolo ndi ovuta, koma mungathe. Mwachitsanzo, gwiritsani ntchito ndi mfundozi: "Sindidzakhala ndi nthawi yopanga zochitika zanga, kotero thandizo kapena pambuyo pake, kapena wathetsedwa kwathunthu."
Lembani 3. Makolo omwe amawongolera
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Kuwongolera kwambiri kumawoneka ngati kusamala wamba. Koma makolo amawopa kusafunikira motero amachita kuti mwanayo adzitengera kwambiri pa iwo, motero kuti anadziona kuti alibe thandizo kunja kwa banja.
Mawu omwe amakonda kwambiri makolo:
- Ndimangochita ndi inu nokha komanso zabwino zanu.
- Ndinkachita chifukwa ndimakukondani kwambiri.
- pangani, kapena sindidzalankhulanso nawe.
"Ngati simuchita izi, ndili ndi vuto la mtima."
- Ngati simuchita izi, simuli mwana wanga wamwamuna / wamkazi.
Izi zonsezi zikutanthauza kuti: "Kuopa kukusowa ndi kwakukulu kwambiri kotero kuti ndakonzeka kukusangalatsani."
Manipulators amakonda kudziletsa amakwaniritsa zokhumba zawo, koma njira yopupuluma - imapangitsa kuti kudziimba mlandu. Amachita chilichonse kuti mwana adutse ntchito.Kodi zimawonekera bwanji? Ana motsogozedwa ndi makolo oopsa safuna kukhala achangu, kudziwa dziko, kuthana ndi mavuto.
"Ndimawopa kwambiri kuyendetsa galimoto, chifukwa amayi anga nthawi zonse ankanena kuti kunali kowopsa," akutero Oksana, wazaka 24.
Mwana akafuna kukangana ndi makolo ake, musawamvere, amawopseza kudziimba mlandu.
- Ndinasiya ndi bwenzi lausiku popanda chilolezo, m'mawa amayi anga anali kuchipatala ndi mtima wodwala. Sindidzakhululuka, ngati china chake chikuchitika kwa iye, ndi nkhani ya moyo wa Igar wazaka 19.
Makolo ena amakonda kuyerekezera ana wina ndi mnzake, pangani nsanje m'banjamo:
- Mchimwene wako ndi wanzeru kwambiri kuposa inu.
Mwanayo nthawi zonse amadziona kuti siabwino, kuyesera kutsimikizira kufunikira kwake. Zimachitika motere:
"Nthawi zonse ndimafuna kukhala ngati mchimwene wanga wamkulu komanso, monga iye, ngakhale adalowa m'Chilamulo, ngakhale adafuna kukhala pulogalamu yamapulogalamu.
Zoyenera kuchita? Kutuluka pansi pa kuwongolera, osawopa zotsatira zake. Izi nthawi zambiri zimakhala zabodza. Munthu akamvetsetsa kuti sali mbali ya makolo ake, amasiya kudzidalira.
Lembani 4. Makolo omwe amadalira
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Nthawi zambiri makolo oledzera nthawi zambiri amakana kuti vutoli lilipo. Amayiwo, omwe akudwala kuledzera kwa woledzera, amamuteteza, amalungamitsa kumwa pafupipafupi kwa kupsinjika.
Mwanayo nthawi zambiri amalankhula kuti munthu sayenera kunyamula zisoni kuchokera ku nyumba. Chifukwa cha izi, iye amangokhalira kukangana, amakhala ndi mantha mwangozi mwangozi, akuwulula chinsinsi.
Kodi zimawonekera bwanji? Ana a makolo oterowo satha kupanga mabanja awo. Sadziwa momwe angapangire ubwenzi kapena ubale womwe umakonda, amavutika ndi nsanje komanso kukayikira.
"Nthawi zonse ndimachita mantha kuti wokondedwa wathu adzakhumudwa, motero sindikhala ndi chibwenzi chachikulu," a Angelina, wazaka 38.
M'banja lotere, mwana amatha kumera hypersensitive komanso opanda chitetezo.
- Nthawi zonse ndimathandiza amayi anga kukakumana ndi bambo wina woledzera. Ndinkawopa kuti iyenso adzamwalira kapena kupha amayi ake, ndinali ndi nkhawa kuti sindingathe kuchita nawo, "zaka 36.
Mphamvu inanso yoopsa ya makolo otereyi ndi kusintha kwa mwana mwa "osaoneka".
"Mayi anga anayesa kupulumutsa bambo ake kuti adulidwe, napita naye." Tidapatsidwa tokha, palibe amene adafunsa ngati tikadadya, tikadadziwa zomwe zimatipatsa umboni - nkhani ya Elena wazaka 19.
Ana amadzimva kuti ali ndi mlandu wa akuluakulu.
"Nditakula, nthawi zonse ndimalankhula ndi ine kuti:" Ngati mukuchita bwino, abambo amamwa, "anatero Christina, yemwe ali ndi zaka 28 tsopano.
Zoyenera kuchita? Osatengera udindo wopanga makolo. Ngati mukutsimikiza kuti muwatsutsa, adzaganiza zothetsa. Lankhulanani ndi mabanja otukuka othawa kuti makolo onse ndi ofanana.
Lembani 5. Makolo omwe amachititsa manyazi
Kuwerenganso: Nthawi zonse mumakhala ndikulirira mwana - ngati ukutanthauza kuti ndinu makolo oyipa. Nkhani ya mayi m'modzi yemwe adapirira vutoli
Nthawi zambiri amanyoza mwana popanda chifukwa kapena amanyoza. Itha kukhala yopanda fungo, mockery, dzina lokhumudwitsa, manyazi omwe amaperekedwa chifukwa cha nkhawa:
- Tiyenera kukonzekera moyo wankhanza.
Makolo angapangitse mwana "mnzake":
- Musakhumudwe, ndi nthabwala chabe.
Nthawi zina manyazi amagwirizanitsidwa ndi mtundu wa mpikisano:
- Simungakwaniritse zoposa ine.
Kodi zimawonekera bwanji? Malingaliro oterowo amadzidalira komanso amasiya zipsera zozama.
- Kwa nthawi yayitali sindinakhulupirire kuti nditha kuchita zoposa kungopirira zinyalala, monga abambo anga anena. Ndipo ndidadzida ndekha chifukwa cha izi, "akutero Alexander, wazaka 34.
Ana amawononga zomwe akwanitsa kuchita. Amakonda kunyalanyaza mwayi wawo weniweni.
- Ndinkafuna kutenga nawo gawo pamitu yaminyewa. Ndidamukonzekera bwino, koma sanaganize kuti, "Karina anati, nditakwanitsa zaka 17. - Amayi nthawi zonse amati ndimavina ngati chimbalangondo.
Kuzindikira kwamtunduwu kumatha kukhala ziyembekezo zosatheka kwa mwana. Ndipo amavutika pamene zonunkhira zikung'ung'udza.- Abambo anali otsimikiza kuti ndidzakhala wosewera mpira wabwino kwambiri. Nditataya gawo, ananena kuti sindinayimirire, "a Victor, wazaka 21.
Ana omwe alanda m'mabanja oterowo nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi zofuna kudzipha.
Zoyenera kuchita? Pezani njira yochepetsera chipongwe ndi manyazi kotero kuti sakuvulaza. Pokambirana, yankho ndi monosyllant, osati kupukusa, osati kunyoza kapena kunyozedwa nokha. Kenako makolo oopsa sakwaniritsa cholinga chawo. Chinthu chachikulu: osafunikira kutsimikizira chilichonse.
Kuyimbana ndi kucheza kwanu kumatha kumalizidwa musanayambe kumva zovuta.
Lembani 6. Makolo omwe amagwiritsa ntchito chiwawa
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Mofananamo, makolo adapita, omwe ziwawa zili. Kwa iwo, iyi ndi njira yokhayo yochotsera mkwiyo, kuthana ndi mavuto ndi malingaliro osalimbikitsa.
Nkhanza zakuthupiOthandizirana a zilango nthawi zambiri amakhulupirira kuti ma slap ndi othandiza pophunzitsa, kupangika mwana kukhala wolimba mtima komanso wamphamvu. M'malo mwake, zonse ndizotsutsana: kumenyedwazo kumayikidwa kuvulaza kwamaganizidwe, m'maganizo ndi thupi.
Susan mtsogolo m'mabuku ake okhudzana ndi kuonda m'mabanja amapezeka mobwerezabwereza ngati "kuperekedwa koopsa kolimba mtima pakati pa mwana ndi kholo, machitidwe owopsa." Ozunzidwa ang'onoang'ono ali mu mphamvu ya wozunza, alibe popita, ndipo palibe m'modzi amene angapemphe thandizo.
90% ya ana omwe adapulumuka ziwawa zogonana sanenapo kanthu.
Kodi zimawonekera bwanji? Mwanayo akumva wopanda thandizo komanso wokhumudwa, chifukwa kulira kuti muthandizidwe kukhoza kukwiya ndi mkwiyo ndi kulangidwa.
"Sindinamuuze wina aliyense mpaka nditafika ambiri omwe amayi anga adandimenya." Chifukwa ndimadziwa: palibe amene angakhulupirire. Ndinafotokoza mikwingwirima yayikulu m'manja ndi miyendo yanu ndi chikondi kuthamanga ndikulumpha, - Tatiana, wazaka 25.
Ana amayamba kuwada, malingaliro awo amakhala okwiya msanga komanso okonda kubwezera.Chiwawa chogonana sichimatengera thupi la mwana, koma chimachita chowononga m'mbali ili. Ana amadzimva kuti ali ndi mlandu wachitika. Amachita manyazi, amawopa kuuza munthu wina zomwe zinachitika.
Ana amasangalala mkati kuti asaswe banja.
"Ndinaona kuti amayi anga amakonda bambo anga ondikonda." Nditangoyesa kumuuza kuti amandichitira ngati "wamkulu". Koma adalira kotero kuti sindinakonzanso kuti ndiyankhule za izi, - Mina, wazaka 29.
Munthu amene anapulumuka chiwawa zaubwana nthawi zambiri amatsogolera moyo wachiwiri. Amamva zonyansa, koma ndibwino kwambiri, munthu wodzikwanira. Sindingathe kukhazikitsa ubale wabwinobwino, umadziona kuti ndi wosayenera chikondi. Ili ndi bala lomwe silikuchiritsidwa kwa nthawi yayitali.Zoyenera kuchita? Njira yokhayo yothawira kwa wogwiririra ndikuyimitsa, kuthawa. Kupempha thandizo kwa achibale ndi abwenzi omwe angadalire akatswiri azamisala ndi apolisi.
Mwachidziwikire, ana samatha kudziwa nthawi yomwe amakula. Akuluakulu amagawidwa ndi zomwe adakumana nazo, amene amadziwa kale kuti mavuto awo amachokera kuti. Komabe, ndi zotsatira za ubwana woterowo zimatha kulimbana. Ndikofunika kumbukirani - sizachilendo, anthu mamiliyoni ambiri adakwera m'mavuto oopsa, koma adatha kusangalala.