Kowa ya sami jin rashin jituwa da rayuwarsa, matsayinsa a ciki da kansa. Kowace aƙalla ta taɓa warwarewa: "Komai, daga Litinin kuna buƙatar fara sabuwar rayuwa!" Amma Litinin ya zo, kuma babu sabon rayuwa ...
Idan har yanzu kun yanke shawarar cewa irin wannan "siginan rayuwa mai zuwa" bai kamata ya ci gaba ba - da gaske, nasara da canza rayuwar ku, cika da gaske da kuma canza shi tare da sababbin alamun, abubuwan da, taro da ban sha'awa Mutane anan suna da wasu shawarwari masu sauƙi dangane da kwarewar ku.
1. Kada kuyi tunani game da mara kyau, da kyau kawai
Game da kyakkyawan tunani bai sani ba a zamaninmu kawai m, amma yana aiki da gaske! Kuma ba shi da mahimmanci, kun yi imani da shi ko a'a - ikon irin wannan tunanin shine aƙalla yana ba da bege, da fatan yana ba da ikon ci gaba. Ba tare da bangaskiya ba, kada su ci nasara, amma aƙalla a cikin yiwuwar nasara - bai kamata ka fara ba. Hakanan kun sake tabbatar cewa ba shi yiwuwa a canza komai kuma kuna buƙatar abun ciki da abin da yake; Baya ga rayuwar rayuwar ku, kuna barin taga taga don mu'ujiza, wanda tabbas zai same ku, kuma ilimin raunin abin da zai samu. A yanzu: "Muna bukatar mu koyi jira, dole ne ka kasance cikin nutsuwa da taurin kai ..."2. Cire manufar "Rashin hankali" da "tsoro" daga rayuwar ku
Lakuy - saboda ba shi yiwuwa a canza rayuwarku don mafi kyawun ra'ayin tunani, a bayyane yake! Canje-canje na ayyuka ne, kada su kasa yin daidai, ba koyaushe cin nasara ba - wani lokaci ball ɗin kwando yana faɗo game da kwandon jirgin sama kafin ku faɗi a ciki. Amma tafarkin cin nasara, duk abin da kuke tsammani, koyaushe karya ne ta ainihin matakan da ayyuka. Kuma ƙayyadaddiyar kawai game da ayyukanku na ayyuka shine sanin yarda da kansa wanda na yi duk abin da ya dogara gare ni.
Tsoro. "Dogon hanya yana farawa da karamin mataki," Amma wannan mataki na farko kuma muna jin tsoron yin. Muna tsoron canje-canje da zai zama mai tsayawa, saboda kowannenmu yana da kwarewar da ba ta samu ba; Muna tsoron rasa abin da "aikin da ba za a iya jurewa ba, ba tare da babban fayil-fayil ɗin da ya dace ba" ...
Ee, jefa ku! Shin wannan ya haifar muku da farin ciki ?! Shin? Da gaske? Me yasa kuke karanta shi ?! Bayan haka, cewa duk abin da ke kusa da launin toka ya zama mai ban sha'awa da monotonous, kuma canza shi yadda kuke so! Amma ban da ban tsoro, saboda ba ku san abin da zai fito daga wannan duka, ba zato ba tsammani zai zama da wahala, akwai har abada, har ma yanka. Don haka cikin natsuwa cikin tunani da shakku kuma yi koyi zuwa tsufa, iri ɗaya buoy, kamar rayuwar da aka rayu - don ban tsoro ...
3. "Idan ba ni bane, waye ?!"
Wannan gajeriyar magana sanarwa ce ta alhaki ga rayukansu da makomar ta, domin babu wani sai mu da alhakin hakan. Dukkanin yanayi, mutane, abubuwan da ke faruwa a gare mu na iya tura mu mu yarda da wasu hukunce-hukuncen, amma koyaushe muna da damar da za ayi! Kuma wani lokacin yanayi ana saita tsakanin baki da fari, amma akwai taro na wasu launuka da inuwa!Zabi tsakanin baki da fari shine zaɓin mutum mara kyauta, an sanya shi daga waje, wannan shine zaɓin bijimi, wanda ya kai ga kisan da aka yi wa za mu iya maye gurbinsa. Mutum kyauta da kansa ya yanke shawara cewa launuka don fenti da rayukansu, kuma tsakanin baki da fari sun zabi shunayya a cikin Red Red Red Red Striple. Amma ga wannan kuna buƙatar ƙarfin hali ...
Kowace rana, wataƙila duk sa'a dole ne mu zabi, kuma don ko da abin da ya faru a rayuwarmu, da ƙarshe, kuma don rayuwarmu ta ta'allaka ne kawai kanmu! Wataƙila yana da ban tsoro, amma idan kun yi tunani game da shi, tare da alhakin kowa, har ma da kowane shawara, kuma yana ba da 'yanci mai girma! Wanda kuma, watakila 'yanci ya cire mu ba zai yiwu ba - zaɓi!
Kuma idan ba ku sanya wannan zabi ba, to, an yi muku wannan! Kuma bayan haka, koda an yi muku zabin a gare ku, wannan ma zaɓinku - don ba wa wani 'yancin warware makomarku. Amma me kuke kirgawa? Me ya bambanta da wannan bijimin, wanda ya ja don igiya ta kashe kawu, ba da kansa ya yanke shawara?
Idan wata rana zaku shiga wannan tunanin, ba wanda zai iya zartar sanya so, kuma daga bijimin biyayya da za ku juya cikin mahaliccin rayuwarku!
4. Idan an isar da aikin - dole ne a kammala!
Ya jinkirta da zarar aikin yana haifar da halittar wani abin da zaku yi amfani da shi sau da yawa, kuma sannu a hankali nemo kanka a cikin wannan rami daga abin da suka yi kokarin fita. Motsa jiki zuwa maƙasudi, duk abin da, an ƙayyade matakan ƙayyadaddun a cikin zaɓaɓɓun shugabanci. Ba tare da sanya su ba, ba za ku taɓa samun maƙasudin ba.
A zahiri, bai fi wuya ba, alal misali, don koya wa kanku don wanke takalma a kan gidan Ikklesiya - kawai batun al'ada ce. Makonni biyu na farko dole ne a sarrafa su, tunatar da kansa, sannan kuma kuna yi "a kan injin." Amma sakamakon na iya bayar da mai ban mamaki! Mummunan lissafi mai sauƙi: idan kowace rana ta fi ranka yafi 1%, sannan bayan kwanaki 100 ...
5. A'a "kuma idan ..." da "menene idan ..."
Daga farko ya zube a cikin ƙuruciya, muna da sha'awar tunani game da abin da suka aikata, kuma wannan shi ne ainihin abin da, sau da yawa ba ya ba da damar motsawa gaba! Gabatar da hotunan yiwuwar sakamako, a cikin rabin shari'un muna tunanin mummunan sakamako, amma wannan daya ne daga cikin zababbobi!
Wajibi ne a koyi yadda ake yin hankali, wannan shine, da gangan watsi da wasu maganganu na tunani, saboda "waɗanda ke ƙoƙarin ƙoƙarin ba zai yiwu ba"! Wannan baya nufin cewa idan kun zo da buɗe kasuwancin ku, kuna buƙatar barin aikina, aika da baya nesa da gudu don rajistar IP. Amma lokacin da aka yarda da shawarar kuma shirin aiwatar da aikin ya bayyana sarai, ba shi yiwuwa a saurari tunanin - ya yi aikinsa. Yanzu zai tsoma baki kawai. Zai zana hotunan lalacewa da kowane irin mummunan sakamako, don haka duba sakin layi na 1.
Kuma mafi mahimmanci, suna da ƙarfin hali don sauraron zuciyar ku, saboda a ƙarshe duk abin da bai dace da mu a rayuwa ba, muna canzawa don jin farin ciki. Kuma yanayin farin ciki ba dalili bane dalilin ...
"Shuru ya zama mai sauki. Yi farin ciki - wuya da sanyaya! " - Tom York, Turanci Rock mawaƙa, mai zubar da magana da guitarist na ƙungiyar Rederhead.
Marubuci - Peter Bobov
Source - Springzhizni.ru.