Me zai hana mu rayuwa kyauta da farin ciki? Tukata takinmu? Ya iyakance 'yancin zaɓi? Muna ci gaba da tattaunawar game da fahimtar halayen mutum da hanyoyin kariya a cikin tsarin Gestallt.
Muna amsa ga abubuwan banbanci daban-daban na matsakaici. Amma menene firam ɗin farko, wanda ya ba mu damar gano kanku son zuciyarmu a nan kuma yanzu shine matakin farincikinmu. Tashin hankali shine farkon saduwa da yiwuwar taro. Tare da farinciki, mun juya daban-daban - dangane da yadda aka koya mana don tuntuve shi, da kuma dangane da abin da fargabarmu da arararmu da muke da ita a yau.
Damuwa shine babban mai ba da hutu. A ce ni kaɗai ne kuma ina son haduwa da wani mutum. Ina da tashin hankali ya tashi. Amma ni ban tsoro - ba zato ba tsammani, alal misali, zan ƙi ko watsi da ni?
Zan iya ba da izinin numfashina don juya da, yin amfani da kuzarinta, nemi isassun hanyoyin cika sha'awarta. Kuma zan iya sosai don in tashi da cewa kasancewa cikin motsi na don gamsar da sha'awarku. Bari mu kalli abin da matakai na saduwa da waɗanne hanyoyi ne na dakatar da tunanin da muke amfani da shi.
Fara. Akwai ji. Muddin wannan ... mara kyau. Da alama zan so haduwa da wani ... amma - so yana da damuwa sosai! Da kyau! Kuma na sake hade tare da filin. Ci gaba da ya taimaka min in zauna a fagen, ba tare da bayyana ko da dalilin farin cikin sa ...
Wani lokacin wannan tsarin yana taimaka min sosai. Misali, lokacin da a cikin mahallin yanayin a nan kuma yanzu burina bai dace ba. Amma idan koyaushe ina yin shi da farincikina a cikin mahimman yanayi na kaina, kuma wannan ita ce hanya na da farko, Ina toshe kaina da farko a cikin samun goguwa ...
Idan an yi nasarar wannan nasarar, kuma sha'awata - Misali, don samun masaniya tare da ni, a bayyane yake a gare ni, wannan ya bayyana a gare ni, zan iya sake samun damuwa da yawa don ci gaba da lamarin. Kuma zan iya toshe kaina ta hanyar cewa maimakon sha'awata na fara yin sha'awar wani.
Kuma, akwai yanayi da yawa inda zasu sadaukar da burinka ya dace kuma zai zama mafi kyawun mafita. Idan ina da damar zaɓar kanka - don neman sha'awata ko kuma yarda da wani - duka. Amma idan cikin mahimman yanayi don kanku, koyaushe ina magance damuwa a cikin abin da na maye gurbin sha'awata ta hanyar bukatun wasu mutane - na kasance mai hana rayuwa da yardar kaina ... wannan hanyar ana kiranta ta ... Wannan hanyar ana kiranta ta ... wannan hanyar ana kiranta.
Misali, zamu je wurin disco tare da budurwa, na ga wani mutum, na fi son shi, budurwata ta ce mani: "Fu, menene m! Me kuka samu a ciki? Ya lashe, duba - wannan shine mutumin da ya fi kyau! " Da kyau, kuma nayi min baki daya ya kasance zuwa daya gefen - nesa da riba na ... "I, wannan ba komai bane!" - To, wannan wani misali ne na daban ...
Ko kuma mahaifiyata ce, mahaifiyata ta ce ni: "Sami ya fi kyau a gida, babu wani abin da zai karkatar da jakin a kan mutane, mafi kyawun karatun littafi, mafi kyawun littafin karanta!" Zan iya iyakance Mama - bayan haka, koyaushe ina sauraron ta, kuma zan iya cewa: "Mama, na riga na yanke shawarar abin da zan yi yanzu. Na gode da kulawar ku, amma zan jimre, inna. "
Muna ɗauka cewa an yi nasarar wannan matakin, kuma ina kan disco ko a cikin cafe. Kuma na fi son wannan mutumin. Farin ciki yana ƙaruwa, kuma na sami shi sosai ban tsoro ... Ina jin ƙararrawa mai mahimmanci. A lokaci guda, tuni na riga na kasance a kan iyakar lamba. Don haka, motsin rai ya bayyana a cikina. Kuma a nan, don cire farin ciki mai wuce kima da haka ... kwantar da hankali, zan iya fara aiwatar da motsin zuciyata ga mutumin da kuke so ...
Misali, kariyar da na fi so a cikin yanayi tare da maza - yi kokarin watsi da su. Na dube shi ina tunani: "Wannan nau'in mactorning nau'in!" Ko na yi fushi cewa yana kamuwa da cuta - yana kallon ɗaya gefen. Kuma na ji daidai kamar yadda shi ya yi nasara ... duk waɗannan dabaru da nake yi ba a sani ba. A cikin cikakken amincewa cewa daidai ne abin da nake tunani a cikin magabata.
Muna tsinkaya kusan koyaushe. Wannan tsarin ya kasance yana da lafiya har sai da ɗayan zaɓuɓɓukan da zai yiwu ya kasance ɗaya daga cikin zaɓuɓɓukan da zai yiwu. Idan na makale a cikin tsinkaye na, kamar tashi a cikin zuma - komai, haɗin da aka dakatar da shi, kuma lamba tare da matsakaici ana katse ...
A ce an shawo kan wannan matakin ... ya dube ni, yana murmushi a wurina. Muna fara tattaunawar. Ina so sosai in gaya masa. Ko ina so in buge shi. Amma haka ban tsoro! Men zan iya yi? Ina fara tattaunawar ciki tare da kaina ... kuma na zauna - Ina bugun gwiwa na gwiwa. Abin da nake so ne in sa shi yayi kaina. Saboda ina sake damuwa sosai ... kuma na ɗan ƙaramin wannan ƙararrawa tare da retroxia - wannan shine yadda ake kira shi.
Lafiya, sun yi rawa, sun yi magana - ya rike ni ... yana so, bari mu ce, sumba don Barka da Kyauta. Ni maimakon annashuwa da jin daɗin wannan mutumin da ke da ban sha'awa tare da ni a kan irin wannan igiyar ruwa, na faɗi cikin damuwa mai ban tsoro - ina hannunsa? Da alama da wuri! Kuma menene zai yi tunani a kaina? Kuma zai tambayi wayata ko a'a?
Anan ga irin wannan overvoltage a cikin saduwa na ƙarshe da ƙoƙari don duka tsinkaya-da-kulawa da ake kira Egotism. A lokacin da, maimakon buɗe kan iyakokinku kuma ku sami abin da nake so, muna mamaki, mashaya da kuma zamewa daga lamba ...
A cikin wannan ɗan gajeren zane, na yi yunƙurin fassara mahaɗan manufar ilimin halin dan Adam a harshen ɗan adam. Kamar yadda na gudanar da shi - don magance ku ...
Marubuci - Irina Loputukhina
Source - Springzhizni.ru.